What do you really want? | DFS 294

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Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

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host Jennifer Takagi and today I want to switch directions a

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little bit based on the conversation we had last week

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with Jim, I'm not gonna say right hones check, and he

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developed an app called Ultimate business growth. And you can get

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the app in the Google Store, the whatever the iPhone store is

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called App Store. And I've kind of struggled with business

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growth over the years, because I was offering what somebody else

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suggested that I do or sell or how I be how I show up in the

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world. So I want to talk first about, as I fall out of my chair

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here, I want to talk about the bell curve of tech adaptation.

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Now, to be clear, and to throw in a little caveat, in full

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transparency, I didn't research this, like, where did this first

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come from? Where did these terms first come from? But when I

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Googled it, the first thing that came up was this bell curve. And

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this terminology is tied to the technology adaptation. So when

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does someone adopt a certain technology? And the cont the

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terms, that's what I want to use the labels the terms. You start

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out with tech enthusiast, and those are the innovators. And

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they're like, first there, they're like, We need this, I'm

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going to help create it. Then you have the visionaries that

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are the early adopters. And that's like 13.5% of the

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population. These early adopters are the ones when they hear a

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new piece of technology comes out. They are up all night

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standing in line waving. Back when we had to go someplace to

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get things we couldn't just order them online. They were

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just waiting to click the button. Then you have the

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pragmatists are like, ooh, do I want it? Do I not they are the

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early majority, again, about 34% of the population. And they're

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like, Yeah, I want it but I want to wait just a tiny bit and see,

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like who else gets it, what happens? Then you have the

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conservatives, and they're also called Late Majority. 34% of the

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population is equal with the pragmatist is like, well, I want

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to see even more people get it before I do. And then you've got

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the skeptics. And I love this term, the skeptics are the

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laggards. And that's like 16%. So we've got the, the latest of

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the late showing up to the party, and sometimes they show

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up to the party, when there is no option. So where do you fall

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on this bell curve? So the question that comes to mind for

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me is when did you buy an iPhone? Or did you ever? So I

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decided when I got my Well, first I got a phone in the very

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first place. They were flip phones back in the day. And the

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reason I got one is my cousin was in the hospital. And it was

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life threatening. And I needed to be able to get ahold of

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people and have people be able to get hold of me. So I called

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my husband, and I was at work and I said, Hey, I need you to

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go get me a phone, and then meet me at the hospital. And what I

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wanted and did not communicate was I wanted him to go to the

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phone store and grab me a phone, buy me a phone, give me a number

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and bring it to me. And he met me outside the hospital and

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handed me his phone. And I said, Well, what do I want to do with

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this? And he goes, Well, you said you needed a phone? And I

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said yeah, but I wanted to. I wanted you to go get me a phone

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and he goes, Well, here's a phone. So yes, now I have a

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phone, but now I can't get ahold of my husband. I have his phone.

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So the next day, I went into the phone store and I got a phone.

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And it was fine. It was a flip phone. It did what I needed to

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do. But I couldn't text. I could not I could not text it was

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basically I didn't want to text just call me. I just call me if

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you want to tell me something, don't text me. And I remember,

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fast forward a little bit. My dad was in the hospital and my

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girlfriend texted me. And it took me like 10 minutes to text

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her back. Just call me when you can talk because I wasn't gonna

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text with her. And then my husband was nice enough to go

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get me a film that was a slide. It was a slide phone and you

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slit it up and then you had a keyboard and you can actually

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type on the keyboard and then we moved into it. needing wanting

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or desiring whatever, a touchscreen smartphone. So when

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I went in to get my smartphone, I was adamant I did not want an

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iPhone. And you might be saying, why would you want an iPhone?

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Jennifer? Well, that's just a really great question. And I

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didn't want to iPhone, because by that time the iPhones got to

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have different cords than everybody else. And I thought

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that was stupid. Like they should have the same cord as

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everybody else, the same plug. But that's not how it worked.

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That was not how it worked at all. So I didn't want one. And I

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didn't get one. And I went through multiple phones. And my

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last phone, I won't slam a brand. I'm sure they've made it

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better. But I went to Paris, I was fortunate enough to go to

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Paris with several of my girlfriends. And it was one of

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my girlfriend's birthday, we literally were at the top of the

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Eiffel Tower drinking champagne on her birthday, and it was so

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much fun. And side story, they said they had a champagne bar.

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He was the champagne window. It was a window and you went up and

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you paid this guy and he handed you a plastic glasses of

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champagne. I thought it was gonna be a bar. Like we could

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sit in a bar and order glasses of champagne overlooking Paris.

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But that's not how it works. It was still amazing, though, by

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the way. So we're in Paris. I've been having trouble with my

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phone. My girlfriend only has a work phone that has minimal

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things on it like Uber is not on her work phone. So we're using

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my phone but it won't hold a charge. It's our last day in

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Paris. We are taking a train out to a hotel way far away, so that

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we can be closer to the airport and have a shuttle to the

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airport the next morning because our flights are very early. So

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we're on the train. We're almost to the station literally in the

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middle of nowhere, tiny little village and I go on Uber and I

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asked for a car. And I immediately put my phone on

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airplane mode after I asked for the car because I didn't want

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the battery to die like it is die. It won't last all day. It's

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been on airplane mode all day. So we step out of the train

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station. Everybody scatters because they know where they're

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going. They know where where they're going. And about the

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time I hit the button to turn it off airplane mode it comes back

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on. And I opened the car door that drives up and he says Ginny

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fail and I was like we said wha and we jump in the car and he

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takes us to the hotel. I have my phone plugged in all night. The

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next morning, I get on the shuttle bus to go to the

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airport. I get to the airport. I fly to the US I don't have my

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phone on the whole time. Right it's on airplane mode the whole

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way because an airplane. I land in Detroit I get through

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customs. Another side note Detroit customs rocks. That is

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the fastest bestest customs place I've ever been flying

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internationally to are from. So I fly into Detroit. I get

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through customs easily. They have a Chili's. I love Chili's.

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And I love their chips and salsa. I haven't had chips and

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salsa and weeks order a beer and chips and salsa. I'm all happy I

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call my husband. I said I'm back in the US my flights in two

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hours is a two hour flight home. I'll call you when I get to

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Columbus city. Okay. I hang up. I eat my chips and salsa. I go

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to the gate. And they have a charging stand. I grab it. I

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plug my Android film in. And I'm reading a book I'm a big Kindle

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fan, avid reader. I'm reading I'm happy. And my phone will

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kind of like Blink beeps a little bit every now and then.

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And when I look at it, it says something like, system can't

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optimize or whatever it was that it said. And I was like, Man,

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that's really weird. Okay. So I get off the plane in Oklahoma

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City. My girlfriend I'm supposed to drive her home. Because she

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doesn't have her personal phone. She only has her work phone and

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she's not blah, blah blah, whatever. But I'm going to take

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her home we've already decided this in Paris. I'll drive her

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home and our plan our flights, different airlines flying into

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different cities we land 10 minutes apart or something. So

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I'm at baggage claim and she comes up and she goes I'm in

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texting you Why are you replying? And I said my phone is

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dead, like D AD dead. And I take her home and I pass See a phone

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store on the way to her house. I dropped her off.

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I circle back I walk in. It's about 10 till seven. Well, I

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want to research this. Now granted, I don't know really

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much of anything about phones other than what other people

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tell me. But I wanted to make a few calls. I wanted to find out

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what phone to get. So I walk up, and I hold my phone up. And as a

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young man and a young woman, I'm just gonna guess they're both

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under 30. And I said, Hey, can you fix my phone? So that it

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works for a couple days? So I can decide what kind of phone to

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get. And they looked at each other. And then they looked at

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me. And at the same time, they both said, No, that phone is

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dead. And I went, What do you mean, the phone's dead? You can

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get it back. And they're like, No, we can't. That's a system

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failure error. And I went, Oh, and they said, If you want a

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phone, you need to pick one like right now. Well, I wasn't ready

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to pick one right now. But okay, I'll pick one right now. And I

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was like, Okay, great. I don't want an iPhone, but you've got

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30 seconds to tell me why I want an iPhone. And the young man

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looks at me and he points his finger at his my phone. And he

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doesn't in a circle, his finger kind of like you know, the

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buffering buffering symbol. He does his finger like that. And

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he said, an iPhone will never do that. Well, that was like the

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clearest, most concise explanation I had ever had on

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why I would want an iPhone and I said, I'm not paying 1000 bucks.

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And they said, Great, we have one for 800. And I said fine.

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And they said what color and they had University of Oklahoma

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red. Not really, I just call it that. But it was a red phone and

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I went great. And I want to clear case and they went great.

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And at 704 I walk out of the store with a new iPhone with all

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my stuff, imported all my my numbers, my contacts, my

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everything, and it works and it had 50% Charge already. So I'm

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gonna say I was a laggard getting in the iPhone world. I

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didn't want one because I didn't like to plug in. Well, now that

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I've got seven Kindles don't judge me. I have them in

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different places and use them for different things have

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different books on them to travel with to in case one goes

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dead. Those plugs those little basic USB, mini USB, whatever

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it's called, they can easily get squished and then your stuff

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won't charge. So now I do have an iPhone and I do have an iPad.

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Why do I have an iPad, I didn't want an iPad, I got an iPad

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because I decorate cookies. And sometimes you have the image

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projected onto the cookie so you can make it look beautiful. And

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for whatever reason. Most of the cameras you get for that have to

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have an Apple product. They wouldn't work with my Kindle,

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they wouldn't work with my laptop, they wouldn't work with

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anything else. I had to get an iPad. But guess what? The

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Chargers always work. The Chargers always work. It is now

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2024 And I've had this iPhone since 2019. And the only problem

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I've ever had is sometimes I have too many apps and I need to

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delete the crap I don't use but that's it. I would not listen. I

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could not hear the people that were telling me when I first got

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a smartphone. Why I would want an iPhone. I couldn't hear it. I

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wasn't ready. I probably heard somebody bashing iPhone. And I

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was like yeah, me too. I'm on that bandwagon. I didn't know

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why am I telling you to get an iPhone? No, you need to get what

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works for you. And that brings me like to the whole point of

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this conversation, which is what do you really want? What do you

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really want what do you really need when I went to get my first

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smartphone? The young man in the store took one look at me and

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Karina I don't look my age at all. I look way younger than my

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actual age. But I looked older than him because he was like 22

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and I did look older than that because I looked 30 at 22 So

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there you go. He said something about well for people like you

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it's us get the iPhone it's easier to use. People like me,

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like am I like I didn't get it. If he had had a little better

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sales tactic, I probably would have not gone through four,

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maybe five different Android phones that all failed me

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miserably before I went to the iPhone. I didn't have all the

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data, I didn't have all the information. I went with what

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somebody suggested. I said, I don't want to iPhone, he goes

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great here, get this. And I did. And that was a disaster. That

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phone didn't even last a year, it was so bad. You have to

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listen to your gut. What you really want, you need to get

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some information. Why is this better than this? What does it

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have to offer? me on my business? What am I going to

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offer? What do I want you to buy? How do I want you to work

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with me? Do I want you to work with me in a group setting? Do I

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want you to work with me one on one? Guess what? We can work

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that out. But you have to listen to your gut on what feels good

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and right to you. Are you a speaker? What do you want to

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talk about? What is something that if somebody handed you a

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mic every single day for the rest of your life? You could

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talk about easily, effortlessly, and get this with a lot of

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passion? What could it be? What could you talk about? Like go on

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and on and on talking about 40,000 things about it. Listen

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to your gut. How do you do that? Sometimes the answer just come

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so quickly and easily. You're like, oh, yeah, I'm in and

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that's great. If you're not in a car, if you're in a car and

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you're at a stoplight, okay, fine. But if you're driving,

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don't do this set up kind of straight, not stiff, just a

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little bit straight. Relax your shoulders bounce on a timer to

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bounce my mind. Can you hear that? My voice amounts for

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shoulders. My name is Jennifer. So I'm going to ask the question

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Is my name Jennifer and my body sways forward just a tiny bit is

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my name Bill and I go back just a little bit bills my husband's

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name, but it's not my name. And you can start practicing to

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learn the yeses. And the knows your body will tell you. Your

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body will tell you what's a yes. What's a No. Should I invest in

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this? Yeah, yeah, that feels really good. I was at a event a

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year or so ago. And an NLP practitioner led us through a

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visualization exercise. And we were all standing up. And she

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was like, imagine you're five years from now. And I mean, oh,

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was so positive and optimistic. And then she was like, now

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consider you didn't make any change at all? What would that

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be like? And ooh, your body just felt very differently when you

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were like, ooh, like, if everything stays the same. I'm

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not happy with that. I don't want that I want something

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different. And I was talking to a gal that was also at the

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conference and a little breakout thing. And she said, our I asked

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her, Hey, did you feel your body move during that? It's yours?

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Yeah, I did. I thought just because our eyes were closed,

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and we were standing that I was moving. And I said no. When she

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talked about the future, and what the future could look like,

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Did you lean forward? Or did you lean back? And she said, I let I

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leaned forward to the point that I stumbled a little bit. And I

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was like, Yeah, and when she said, What if things never

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change? She said, I leaned back until I stumbled just a little

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bit. And I said, that was your intuition telling you, you want

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to lean into the future. You want to lean into the future

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business future live, future success. And staying the same

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feels terrible and you're backing away. It's like backing

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away from a hot stove or you go to a bonfire and you have to

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backup because that heats too much, right? It's not for me,

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it's backed up a little bit. When you ask yourself what you

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really want, give yourselves a few minutes to be quiet. To be

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still, I don't mean 1020 3040 minutes you can if you want but

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you don't have to take a few minutes to close your eyes. Take

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a few deep breaths, relax, tell your body to relax. And then ask

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yourself, Do I really want this and you will lean into it when

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it's a yes and you'll pull back when it's if you want more

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