Think Like the Person You Want to Be | DFS 306

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Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

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host, Jennifer Takagi, and I want to hit on the topic of

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think like the person you want to become. Think like the person

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you want to become. When I got my first full time permanent

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job, I was talking to one of my older sisters, and she's almost

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eight years older than me. And she was already crushing it in

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the business world. And she said, Jennifer, you've got to

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dress as well as the person above you in a position you

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would want. I did not have clothes to dress, like the

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people above me, I did not. I decided every paycheck, I would

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go to Target. And I would buy a new outfit, whether it was just

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the blouse, or the skirt, or the blouse and skirt depending on if

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it was on sale, and I could afford it. And let me just tell

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you that target was pretty much all I could afford in those

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days. And each paycheck, I went to Target and I got a new

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outfit. The joke around the office soon became that I never

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showed up at work in anything. But a skirt or a dress, I didn't

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wear pants to work. And I don't really know where that came from

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other than most of the women above me wore suits every day.

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And initially, I couldn't really afford the suits. But I could

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afford a skirt or a dress. And I wanted to be taken seriously.

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Now when I moved to the federal government, lots of people

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dressed extremely casually and still do in many offices, some

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offices, they they dress, or when I left they dressed much

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more professionally. Others It was either business casual, or

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go to Walmart kind of casual outfit. But if you want to be

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taken seriously, you need to know what the people around you

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who can promote you who can hire you, who can hire you to go in

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to do consulting for their organization. What matters to

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them. Now, it could be that they are a very casual office space.

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And if you walked in in a suit and tie or a suit in high heels,

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they would think ooh, they're not approachable. I can't play

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with them. So you have to know your audience. Who are you going

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to walk in and interact with? Who are you going to talk to? If

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you take this stage who is in the audience, these are things

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that you really need to consider as you're stepping into becoming

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an even better person. The other thing is you need to act the

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part. act the part of the person you want to become a number of

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years ago, I saw a an interview with Mary Barr, who was the is I

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believe still the CEO of General Motors. Yep, that's right,

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General Motors. And she's the first woman who's ever held that

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position. And in this video interview that I I happen to

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catch. She was talking about how she started I believe in high

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school and I don't know where her college career came in. But

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she has a college career. So maybe she just worked. Holidays

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and summers while in college. I don't know, I didn't get that

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part of the story. But she had been with GM since she was 18.

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And she got promoted multiple times until she became the CEO.

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And the interviewer host asked her if that had been her dream

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at 18 to become the CEO of General Motors. And she said no,

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it never entered my mind. My goal was to do the job I was

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hired to do to the best of my ability. My goal was to do the

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job I was hired to do to the best of my ability. And one day

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they came in and said we're going to make you the director

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of HR and she said I don't know anything about HR and they said

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but we know you can learn it. You're here you go. You're

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moving to HR and the promotions kept coming because she was

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acting the part or as a very committed employee who was very

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smart, and would do her job and do it well. And I know many of

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the listeners, many of you are entrepreneurs, and this same

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kind of Barr steps in, are you going to act with integrity? Are

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you going to provide the clients the services you promised? I've

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worked with many coaches. And I'm not gonna say they flat out

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lied, but they didn't quite deliver what was either

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explicitly promised or implied. I don't ever want that to be me.

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If I say you're going to have a session, and we're going to do

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this, I want to deliver, I want to act the part, I want to act

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the part as the person who has a full calendar of clients, and

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I'm helping and healing many people every day. That's who I

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want to be. And that's how I want to show up. So think like

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the person you want to be. Dress like the person you want to be.

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This is kind of like when you're on Zoom, and you jump up to run

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answer the door, and you realize your handy pants on. You just

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have a shirt on. Maybe you have shorts, I hope you have on

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shorts, I dress for the day, every day. It's kind of a joke

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when the pandemic first hit, and things shut down. And people

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were on Zoom calls all the time. I heard somebody in my circle,

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say, somebody called today and wanted to have a call. They

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reached out and I said, Oh, I can't do it. I can do it

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tomorrow. I'm booked today. And they said I wasn't really booked

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today. But I wasn't dressed. And my joke is I get up every day

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and do hair and makeup and on camera ready every day, you're

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almost never going to catch me where I can't jump on a call and

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be comfortable jumping on a call, I might want to change my

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T shirt, I'm ready to jump on a call, I act apart, I'm ready,

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I'm available. There's something about being ready and available

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that changes you energetically. And when you're thinking like

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the person you want to become focus on your outcomes, what do

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you want the outcome to be? Who do you want to work with? What

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do you want their results to be? How do you want to help them

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reach those goals? To achieve those results. It all starts in

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your head. It all starts with visualization. And I I love the

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title of the book Thinking Grow Rich, I read it a number of

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years ago. But the people who haven't read the book can

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mistake what it means when you say Think and Grow Rich. Because

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you have to act, you actually have to do something. You have

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to take action. So think like the person you want to become

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dress for success, like the person you want to become an

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act, the part Act, the part is that highly sought after coach

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highly sought after consultant highly sought after leader act

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that part and focus on those outcomes. What are you going to

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do? How are you going to act? How are you going to be? What

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are you going to do with your newfound success. I just heard

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recently that an actor that I've always really liked love all of

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his movies that he is like one of the worst actors to work

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with. He shows up two or three hours late. He stops production

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for whatever reason at the drop of the hat. And everybody hates

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working with him. And the only reason they put up with it is

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because he brings in Bullseye bazillion dollars on a

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consistent basis. But I want you to know right now, if I were to

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be an actress, and a movie star, that would not be me. That's not

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going to change who I am. Have you heard this story before that

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my mom always said her little mantra. Winners are on time

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losers are late. winners have a full tank of gas losers are

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stuck on the side of the road. winners have new safe tires and

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losers have blowouts

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that was harmed and beat into me. So I want to show up as the

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person I want to be. I don't want people to Look at me and

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say, she just absolutely does not act in integrity. She said

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we'd have a call at four. And she didn't show up till five, or

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she didn't show up at all. Does that happen for all of us at

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some point? Unfortunately, yes, it does happen. Calendars get

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messed up, schedules get cross things happen. The question is,

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how do you handle it? And is it something you do consistently?

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We had an ice storm a couple years ago, and one of my friends

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said, Yeah, I got up early, because I knew we had snow and

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ice, we're in Oklahoma, it's not typically snow, it's mostly ice.

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If there is snow, it's on top of the frozen rain, ie ice. And

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then you don't know that it's there. So it's slow going. And

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now we don't have all the equipment to handle it. Because

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it doesn't happen all winter, every winter, like places that

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get lots of snow. And she said, Yep, I got up early. And then I

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got my smartphone, and I put in on the maps, how to get to work.

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And it took me off my normal route and took me a different

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way. And I went really slowly. And I got to work later than

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expected. But still, I wasn't very late 45 minutes, an hour or

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whatever. And a colleague came in like two and a half hours

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late. And I was like, Hey, where are you been? And he goes, Well,

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the highway was shut down because of a wreck. And I got

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stuck in that traffic and it took forever. How did you get

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here so early? And she said, Well, I put in my phone and I

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went on a map and it told me to go a different way. And his

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response was, I'm not from here. I didn't I don't know that road,

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I wouldn't have realized it went all the way downtown. And she

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said, You don't have to you just have to put it in your phone, go

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to the map application and see where to go. It tells you in

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real time or pretty much real time delays and how to get

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around them. So when you're focusing on the outcomes focus

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on how do you want to be do you want to be the person that's on

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time? Do you want to be the person who thinks ahead? To be

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able to get to work on time, even though there's a snowstorm

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or an ice storm? How do you want to be here do you want to show

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up as What do you want people to say about you? If you want more

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information about visualization, and setting your goals and

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making your goals, go to 12 minute gift.com I'm Jennifer

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Takagi and I look forward to connecting with you soon