Shake off Work BEFORE Engaging with Others | DFS 298

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Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

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host Jennifer Takagi. And today I want to continue a little bit

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of the conversation we had last week with Dr. Laura, about self

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care. And I really want to emphasize the fact that you need

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to shake off work before engaging with those that you

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love and enjoy the most. Or at least you're supposed to enjoy

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and love the most. Whether that is a spouse, a partner, or just

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your friends, I say just I shouldn't suggest or your

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friends because my friends are extremely important to me. When

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you work all day, or part of the day, whatever your schedule is,

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whether that is from inside your home, or at an office, through

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out the day you are interacting with other human beings. When

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you interact with people, it can be in person, it can be through

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your computer screen, it can be on the telephone, it can be via

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email, or memos. Written verbal, visual, not visual, but you're

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interacting with people all day long. When we interact with

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people, they are putting off energy. If we're not careful, we

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absorb their energy. So when we absorb their energy, then we're

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processing not only what happened with us today, but what

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happened with all the other people we engaged with. I just

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got off a zoom training call. And there were 27 participants

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plus the two hosts, I picked up energy from all of them, because

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everybody on that Zoom call, took the mic at some point and

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spoke. So I took in their energy in some way. Now, if somebody

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had something to say, or had a look on their face or something,

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and it didn't resonate with me, I could take it the wrong way. I

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could get irritated about it, I could not appreciate what they

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said. And now that is festering in me and I literally have to

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wipe it off. So what I encourage you to do is shake off the day.

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Before interacting with those you love. Shake it off. years

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ago, my husband and I were newlyweds. And we were at a

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church sponsored event on communication and interacting

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better with your spouse, which of course we were brand new and

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love Oh my god, it's gonna be so wonderful. And it has been for

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the most part, everybody has bumps along the way. But one of

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the things that was shared was in an in a family where one's at

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home all day and one's at work, when the one that comes into the

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house from work, which in the olden days was typically the man

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not so much anymore. But back in the olden days, it was typically

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the man when he would walk in and the wife was home with the

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kids. The wife would just be like I'm done with these kids,

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you're taken and the man's like, oh my gosh, I haven't finished,

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you know, my work routine have shaken it off. And it would

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cause problems. So the suggestion made was give them a

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minute to come into the house and acclimate before they have

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to interact with everybody. And that's true for all of us. It

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just the example given was because of a past life

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traditional household. When my dad came home from work every

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day, my mom typically did not work outside the home. She did

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some but not typically she ran a very smooth household. When my

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dad came home, he said hello and went straight to their bedroom.

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And he changed clothes. And then he came out and we had dinner

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and had our evening. But my dad never went from the front door

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to the kitchen table or the front door to the living room to

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interact with everybody. I don't even know if he knew what he was

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doing. But he went straight to the bedroom and took off his

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suit. That's what he did. Now I know as an adult who's been very

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for a long time he was probably shake it off the day. My husband

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and I that first house we lived in after we married backed up to

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a little pond. Sometimes he wouldn't even stop to take off

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his suit. He would just walk through the House say hello and

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head straight for the pond and fish for 30 minutes. And then he

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was ready to come in and interact with me And the dog and

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the cats and have an evening. So you have to find a way to shake

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it off, what are you going to do to shake off all the things that

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have happened in your day, so that you can take on everybody

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else. This is for your own well being as well as everybody

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around you. Have you ever gone to happy hour and you walked in

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and sat down and just had diarrhea of the mouth all over

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all of your friends at the table, about how bad your day

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was, or all the things that happened in your day? I have, I

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mean, I'm gonna raise my hand first and call my own self out

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on this. I have, I had a very stressful work environment for a

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number of years with a very horrible boss. And I took it all

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on, I take it all in, and then it came out everywhere. So now

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the question becomes, what are you going to do to protect

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yourself and everybody else, I have a couple of ideas, a couple

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of ideas. One idea that I heard a couple of years ago, I was

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fairly new to the energy work situation. And people who are

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empathic, often say that they take on everybody's feelings,

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and they can only have a few clients a day because they just

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take on everything the person said all of their feelings, and

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then they feel it and then they're exhausted, and they're

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worn out. And does that sound like you a little bit? Like, do

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you walk in a room and just take on everybody's feelings? Well,

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here is a trick a tip, a suggestion you might consider if

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and only if you decide that you don't want to do that anymore.

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If you decide that you want to let that go. Just let it go. So

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one thing is just don't absorb it in the first place. Don't

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absorb it in the first place. How can you do that? Have you

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ever seen those cute little domes that go over a little

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wooden stand, and they've got a metal handle coming up from the

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ground and has a hook on it. And antique pocket watches are

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typically set on those for display? Well, when you think

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about that globe, or even that the topper of a cake, like

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you've got a glass dome to go over the cake to keep the

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critters out of it, whether they're your dog or cat or like

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a bug. Just visualize when you're about to step into a

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situation figuratively or via the computer where there can be

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a lot of emotions. Or even if it's good, sometimes you can

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just take on too much. Just in visualize a glass dome dropping

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over you. Florida ceiling is all over, you're inside a glass

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dome. You can see everything that's happening. You can

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interact with people, they can interact with you. But you have

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this glass dome on you and it is protecting you from having any

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type of negative energy penetrating you. I have a friend

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who is a court reporter. And of course she she witnesses a lot

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of horrible things. And she made the comment on how hard that

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could be. And I said oh, do you want to trick and I I suggested

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this? And I saw her a couple of weeks later. And I was like Have

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you tried it? Is it working? And she was like, yes, yes, I've

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tried it. Yes, it's working. Wow, what a difference it makes

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because she gets to the room first she sets it all up, gets

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her equipment set up, everything's ready to go. And

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she takes a second and just surrounds herself basically in a

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glass bubble of glass dome. So that's one thing you can do to

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prevent it beforehand. Now what can you do after the fact one

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thing I love to do is literally brush it off. I start with my

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right hand on my left shoulder, stick my left arm out and I just

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run my hand all the way down. I'm literally brushing off that

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energy. Then I put my left arm on my right shoulder do it on

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the right side. Then just for fun I take both my hands take

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them up over my face over my head down the back and I do a

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little should be wiggle. Like let's just get all that energy

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out of here. Let's just move it on. It works. Even if you think

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this is airy fairy touchy feely nuts and Berry. That's fine. I

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don't care. It still works. You can think whatever you want, but

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it works. So when you come home

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whether it's home From outside the house and you're walking

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into the house, or home in that you step away from your office

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working area to go engage with those people that you claim to

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love. Either way it works. shut everything down. If you need a

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reminder to do this before you walk in and you shut everything

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down about the same time, put an alarm on your phone and put a

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notice on it. It's time for self care. Whatever you want to call

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it, let that alarm go off to remind you that you need to

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shake it all off before you interact. So number one on this

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plan is set a timer on your phone. So you remember to shake

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it off. Number two, take 10 Deep breaths 10 Beat deep breaths in

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through your nose down into your belly like your chest is not

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raising your belly is going in and out right. So do that 10

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times you might hyperventilate initially because you're not

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used to getting deep breaths. But that's what you can do take

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those deep breaths. In a stressful situation, I learned

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from a clinical psychologist in a stressful situation, we tend

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to hold our breath. When you hold your breath, you can't have

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a thought it like shuts everything down. And then you

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either don't respond or you respond inappropriately. It just

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turns ugly really quickly. So take 10 deep breaths and then

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put on your Wonder Woman bracelets, your Superman cape,

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whatever it is, and step in to the other room or through the

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doorway and be ready to engage because you have to take care of

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yourself before you can take care of others. You had an

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awesome day at work you produced a lot you engage a lot, shake it

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off, physically wipe it off, take some deep breaths and

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engage with your family. If you would like some more information

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on how to how to win. I've got an audio series called 12

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minutes to success. And you can get it by going to 12 minute

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gift.com and grab my three part audio series. I'm Jennifer

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Takagi, your 12 Minute success coach and I look forward to

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connecting with you soon