Journey to Spain and Healing Needed | DFS 371

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Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your

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host, Jennifer Takagi, and today I want to talk about my journey,

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traveling to Spain. Travel is a big deal, and being able to

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handle going through airports and security like it's a lot,

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and not everybody handles it very well. I have traveled a

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lot. I took my first airplane ride when I was probably 13, and

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my uncle was a pilot, and had a small plane and flew me and my

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mom from Richardson, Texas to Ohio to see friends, and then

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back. It was super cool. So imagine how exciting it was to

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get on like a jet airplane and go someplace in a big airplane

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instead of a little airplane. So I've traveled a lot. I don't

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know how many miles I've logged over the years, but I'm going to

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say quite a few. Traveled a lot for personal and also for

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business, I had my first knee replacement, which was my third

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knee surgery, but my first replacement in March of 2024, I

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skated through that recovery like I sailed through it. People

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were shocked, stunned and amazed at how well I did. I stayed in

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physical therapy as long as I possibly could after surgery,

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because I think it matters. I think it matters a lot. I also

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did over three months of physical therapy before surgery,

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because you need to build all the muscles around the area

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you're going to fix. So I did it all I did it all. Right. It was

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super fast, super easy. 13 months later, in April of 2025 I

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had my other leg done. It's very funny. How many people ask me if

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I had the same knee replaced twice a year apart? And you

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know, this is just one of those things that you just assume

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people know you typically don't have the same one done a year

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apart, unless, of course, you're highly allergic to metal, and

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they don't test you for that. Thank you again. Dr German for

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highly recommending I have that test because I'm highly allergic

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to nickel, and you usually just sail right through it, you know,

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you have it done, and that's that. So I have my second

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surgery, I'm expecting to sail through it like I did before.

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However, I did things a little bit differently this next time,

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I kind of decided a little bit last minute when I was going to

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do the surgery, so I only went to five sessions of physical

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therapy, 12345,

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not three and a half months of physical therapy. The other

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thing is, I went on a cruise. It was a business cruise. Yes, that

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is a thing. I went on a business cruise. It was amazing. And

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unfortunately, I

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had my last drink on Saturday night, late, I got on a plane

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Sunday and flew home and had surgery. Wednesday, I bled like

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a stuck pig. Apparently, three days without alcohol is not

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sufficient to take the blood thinning properties out of your

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system. It's either that or the Celebrex anti inflammatory that

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I take, but they said it was okay to take that. So who knows.

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Anyway, a lot of bleeding causes a lot of swelling. A lot of

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swelling greatly impacts your ability to move, recover and do

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the things you need to do. So my recovery has been much slower. I

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screamed and yelled and cussed at the surgeon a lot and

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everybody in his office, and they keep saying, each surgery

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is different, each recovery is different. It's just different.

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And my response to that is that's a bunch of crap. It

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shouldn't have been different. It should have been just as easy

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in July, towards the end of July. So now I had surgery the

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middle of April, so all of May, all of June. Now are July. We're

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three solid months after surgery. Last time I was, you

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know, dancing a tango, not really. This time I'm like,

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still Gympie and a crown fell off one of my molars that I'd

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had for many, many years. I had a crown for years, and then I

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had a root canal on that tooth. And then, you know, that's it.

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It's lasted me many, many years. It's all fine, like 20 years,

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something ridiculous, and it falls off. So I, I'm getting

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ready to get on a plane. I saved the crown the next morning, I

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called the dentist, and they're like, Oh yeah, I'll get right in

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immediately. And I did, and he said, I'm so sorry I can't glue

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this back on because it broke part of your tooth. Long story

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shorter, the crown was metal, and the X ray won't go through.

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Metal. So you could not tell that the crown was no longer

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placed properly and the tooth had decay underneath. So this is

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like, I don't know, the 20th of July. Blah, blah, blah. Fast

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forward. The tooth breaks off at the roots, what was left of it,

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or at the gum line. And I had to have surgery to extract the

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tooth, a, what's it called, a bone graft, and then an implant

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put in. I'm still waiting to have the final crown. Then,

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apparently you have to let it heal for a long time. So I have

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that removed, that decaying tooth that I didn't know was

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decaying. I had a root canal. Didn't hurt. It was all good for

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me until it wasn't. And about three weeks later, it dawns on

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me, my knee is healing quickly. I my recovery is just

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exponentially faster. I'm I'm thrilled, I'm thrilled, and I

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like to make connections like that's kind of one of the things

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I'm pretty good at, is connecting the dots. So my dot

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connecting is that my body could not heal two major things at one

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time. It could not heal a tooth that had a problem that nobody

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knew about, and this recovery from surgery like it, it just

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can't do all of that at once. My knee is so much better. I can do

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so much more. I feel like I'm, you know, like I was last time,

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five weeks out of surgery instead of six months like it's

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just been amazing. I'm so happy. So I travel to Spain, and I get

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here, and it's a lot. I fly from Oklahoma City to Atlanta, a

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layer of in Atlanta, and then a long, long, long, long, long

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flight to Amsterdam, couple hour later in Amsterdam, Amsterdam,

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and then fly down to Malaga, and thank God we're staying in a

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city Torre melanos, which is literally 10 minutes from the

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Malaga airport. We get to the apartment, it's beautiful. It's

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stunning. It's on the Mediterranean, and my ankles are

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swollen up like softballs, if not cantaloupes, like they're

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huge, and I'm like, What on earth I was going to wear

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compression socks on the plane. I laid them out, but I don't

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know what happened when I got ready to go to the airport and

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got dressed, but I couldn't find them, and I thought, Oh, I must

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have accidentally packed them. I didn't, I didn't. I unpacked all

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my bags. Those socks aren't here. They're at home somewhere.

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I don't know what happened to them, and I, you know, I thought

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it would help, like compression socks might help.

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So we get here Wednesday afternoon, and Thursday, I'm

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still swollen and I'm gimping along. And Friday, girlfriend of

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mine had come with me and my other friend, so there are three

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of us, girls and and they've, like, gone out exploring the

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city. And I'm like, Yeah, I can't, I can't

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walk across the apartment, like, I can't go. So we get out and

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about and we walk down the beach a little ways for them, it's

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just like a blink, and you're there for me. Every step is

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like, what the hell am I doing? This is just terrible, and my

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ankles are swelling more and more and more. So this has been

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from Wednesday night, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and

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now it's Monday. I've laid on the bed with my feet up. I've

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drank lots of water, I've tried walking, I've done all the

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things that you would normally do, and they're still really

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super swollen. And I work with a man named Shiraz and his

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business, one of the big things that he does is identify the

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story you have going on and rewrite it. Rewrite it from

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something negative, something tragic, something horrible into

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something positive, like what? What can we glean from this?

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What can we learn from this? It's a little bit similar to my

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friend Kimberly Crow's book, shift your narrative, and his

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is, rewrite reality, I think is what it's called. I'll find

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their links and drop them in the show notes. Yeah, that's what

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I'll do. I'll put them in there, because they're both amazing

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books and amazing people. I love them both very much. And I have

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a call with Shiraz, fortunately, on the books for that Monday,

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and we get on the call and I and it's usually business. We're

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usually talking about business things. What I need to do to

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grow my business, increase my following, you know, do all the

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businessy things. I love the work that I do, but I want more,

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right? I want more. I want more clients. I want to work with

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people. I want to help people. You know, that's what I want to

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do. Those are the things we usually talk about. So we get on

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the call and he's like, Hey, how are you? And I said, I'm in

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grade. I'm in Spain. It's beautiful. Very happy here. Love

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it. Nice apartment, I said, but my ankles are so swollen, I just

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can't get around. Like, this is problematic. So he starts asking

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me questions, because he's trying to get to, like, what is

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the root cause of why I'm so swollen, and it's only my

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ankles. It's no place else. So he's like, Well, do you want to

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do? You want to do the work you wanted to do while you're in

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Spain? Yes, I have podcasts to do. I've got emails to do. I've

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got things to do, like, yes, and here, I don't have the same

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distractions that I have at home. I have a lot of

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distractions, don't get me wrong, but they're not the same.

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So it's a whole different space. And so we spend about 25 minutes

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going through all the different possible scenarios. We get to

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the end, and he's ready to say, is that all? But he doesn't

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quite get there. And I said, Wait, is this going to, like,

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take care of the swelling of my ankles? And he's very intuitive.

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And he said, Do you feel safe where you are? And I went, Oh my

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gosh, I feel so safe. We, we've got to have a little FOB,

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electronic FOB, to open the gate to get into the actual grounds

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where the apartment building is. And then we've got to do another

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one to get inside the lobby. And then we take the elevator up,

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and we, we've got multiple locks on the door, I feel very safe.

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The area is very safe. I feel safe walking up and down the

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streets, even at night, yeah, yeah, I feel safe. And he said,

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I just, I'm just getting this image of a man trying to harm

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you. Is there a man around there that could try to harm you? And

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I was like, You have got to be kidding me. Absolutely not.

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Absolutely not. I feel perfectly safe here. And he goes, gosh, I

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see a car coming at you. Are the cars? Do the cars go really

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fast? And I went, No. As a matter of fact, you walk up to

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the crosswalk and it I don't know how many stripes there are.

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I'm gonna have to count. There are, like five stripes that are

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all wide. So there's a wide crosswalk area where you can

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cross the streets. And I said, No. I said, as a matter of fact,

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as soon as you walk up to the crosswalk, the car starts

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stopping, like they don't even get to the crosswalk. I feel

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perfectly safe. And he goes, god, that's so weird. I just see

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a man physically harming you in a in a car. So some of you are

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probably going, Oh, my God, Jennifer, this is like a psychic

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premonition. Somebody's out to get you. No, that's not it at

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all. But guess what it is? Can you guess it had all already

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happened? It had already happened. We land in Amsterdam,

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and I had heard that a lot of times. They park out on the

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tarmac, and you have to walk down the steps with your carry

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on bag and then get on a little shuttle bus to get to the main

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terminal, and I didn't want to do that, right? I'm still not

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100% steady on my feet, and I've got my carry on bag with my

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laptop and other stuff in it, you know, the essentials you

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have to carry on. And I'm like, Oh my gosh. Like, I don't want

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to do that. So the whole way, it was 20 minute taxi to the

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terminal, and I kept saying, keep going, keep going. Please

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keep going. Let's not stop until we get to the terminal. Let's

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go. Let's go. Let's go. Keep going, keep going. And it would

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stop almost completely. And I'd be like, no, no, no, keep going.

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Keep going. Keep going. Well, lo and behold, we went all the way

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to the terminal. I was so happy I could just walk off that

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plane. So my friend Kimberly and I stopped and got a Diet Coke,

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and then we had to continue our journey to meet my friend at her

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gate. But I back up a little bit, walking to the restaurant.

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We backtracked on where we wanted to go to have a Diet

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Coke. I'm walking along, I'm pulling my roller bag, and it's

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a small roller bag, it's a laptop kind of bag on wheels.

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And this man and woman literally come out of nowhere and just

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crash into me, knock my bag completely out of my hand. Keep

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going. The man turns around and looks at me like I've done

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something because it startled me. I was like, because I'm not

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stable on my feet. Did I say that? Like 12 times already? Do

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you get the picture? And then his wife has the nerve around

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and give me an ugly look. And I looked at Kimberly and I said,

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What the hell like Am I invisible? Well, did they

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literally, honest to God, not see me, and just like, banged

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into me. So we get my bag, we go have our diet coke, have a nice

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visit, and now we're headed to the gate, and we've got to go

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through a whole passport security area to get to the gate

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to meet my other friend who's already over there,

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Kimberly says, Please let me carry your bag. Let me wheel

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your bag so you can just focus in this busy airport of being

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stable on your feet. You know, she doesn't want me to go down

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people. I'm like, Yes, I will accept that. I'm trying to say

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yes when people want to help. So she takes my roller bag, and we

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start walking, and the corridor comes down and makes a hard

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curve. It's like a hard curve to the left. It's not a sharp left

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turn. It's a it's a big curve.

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A man driving a motorized vehicle is pulling either four

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or five big trash containers. And as he comes around the

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corner too fast, it like does a whiplash, like and I go, Whoa,

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and I start backing up. Kimberly starts yelling,

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whoa, whoa, whoa. He literally came inches from knocking me

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over with the last trash bin in the in this chain. And Kimberly

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jumps back just as he hits my suitcase that she's dragging and

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knocks it completely over. And he keeps going. And a policeman

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starts yelling, or security guard, he starts screaming at

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the guy in whatever language the the man would understand,

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because English and whoa, whoa, whoa, were not comprehended nor

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cared about.

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And he finally stops, and he turned back, and that Jackass

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started smiling at me. I wanted to go over and, like, pinch his

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head off. I was so mad. I couldn't believe it. It was

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like, holy, crap, holy I cannot believe that just happened.

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Kimberly gets my bag off, we go and we make it without incident,

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to the gate and have a snack with my friend Jan, and we get

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on the plane, and we make it to Malga, and we make it to the

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apartment, and I think that's it. Like, okay, like, that's a

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good story to tell that I don't ever want to go to Amsterdam,

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and I surely don't want to go through that airport again.

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Like, that's a scary, dangerous place. It's really not, I'm sure

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it's not. It was just a moment for me, like I had two really

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big moments there. So as I'm sharing all this with Shiraz, he

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said, If your ankles are swollen and you're walking with a

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hobble, people pay attention and look out for you. Are you ready

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to step out of that story? Are you ready to let go of the

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terror and the trauma? Because I can tell that this was very

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traumatic and scary for you at the time. Are you ready to step

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out that of that story? And I was like, yes, let's out of that

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story. So I finished my call with him, and I was like, that

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is so interesting, that number one, he's a very intuitive

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person, but that we could put all those pieces together so

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easily, so easily. So I sat down and started doing my emotion

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code work, and I asked the question, Do I have any trapped

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emotions from my time in the Amsterdam airport that would be

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keeping me from fully healing and my swelling and my ankles

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going down and being good to go. And the answer was yes, and that

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emotion was, it was terror. I literally had the trapped

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emotion from of terror from that event, those two events,

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actually, which, of course, having no sleep and probably

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dehydrated, blah, blah, blah, all the, all the other things

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that come with travel. I woke up the next morning because that

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was a afternoon call that I had. I woke up the next morning and I

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have no swelling whatsoever. It's gone. I did go on Wednesday

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of that week to Africa. We went to Morocco and the city of

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Tangier, and it ended up being about a 17 hour day, crammed in

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a bus, knees bent, all tied up, no movement for like four hours

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and then an immense. Amount of walking, a lot of uphill, a lot

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of downhill, on uneven streets where you're walking at an

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angle, kind of sideways, ish, and again, I'm not feeling super

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stable just yet, so I was taking extra caution, and that caused a

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lot of swelling. And by the time we got home, I was like, I'm

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dead, like this is terrible. I'm miserable. But you know what, I

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woke up the next morning with no swelling whatsoever. The

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swelling comes from healing. The swelling comes from still

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recovering from this knee replacement. It's so much better

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than it was, but we can take journeys, and we can tell

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stories, and we can hold on to stories, whether they really are

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for our best and highest good or not. And it's up to us to choose

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to let it go. So I have let go of the story that Amsterdam is

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bad. I even discussed that with Shiraz, because we know people

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who tell the same story over and over again, and they attract

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more of that trauma drama to themselves. And I said, I have

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to tell this story, because it's such a great story, but can I do

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it without bringing more of it to myself? And he said,

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Absolutely, you just have to be detached from it. You can tell

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the story. You can tell the story with emotion and emphasis,

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but it doesn't have to embody you. It doesn't have to be true

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for you. So if you have stories going on that are driving the

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bus, have you heard that old story? You got a five year old,

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eight year old kid that was traumatized, and that's true.

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I'm not minimizing it, but sometimes we don't grow past

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that, and we still let that five year old, eight year old drive

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the bus and make all our decisions for us. And it doesn't

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have to be that way. We can let it go. We can let it go and we

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can move forward. I let go of my story about Amsterdam, and I

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might even go back to Amsterdam, but I will say my flight home is

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not through Amsterdam, but we get to choose our journey and

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our path. But sometimes we need a coach, sometimes we need a

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guide to help us unwrap all the packaging around it. I don't

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know that I would have gotten there by myself because I

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thought it was over, but now I'm really glad it truly is over.

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I'm Jennifer Takagi with destin for success, and I look forward

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to connecting with you soon. Bye.