Episode 370
From Pain to Purpose: My 100 Pound Journey | DFS 370
Get all the inside secrets and tools you need to help you develop your intuitive and leadership skills so you are on the path to the highest level of success with ease. Patsy James shares her journey of weigh loss and emotional recovery from which we can all learn.
In this episode you will learn:
- Healing begins with self-love
- Mindset Matters
- Simply Daily Habits
More about Patsy:
Patsy James, National Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach, has released over 120 lbs and kept it off for nearly 30 years. She inspires men and women with hope, anti-shame guidance, and practical strategies to achieve lasting, life-changing weight loss.
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Transcript
Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your
Jennifer Takagi:host, Jennifer Takagi, and I'm so excited. It's pot of Palooza
Jennifer Takagi:Day, and I get to meet all kinds of new friends. And this friend
Jennifer Takagi:is Patsy James. Patsy's title of her talk, what she likes to
Jennifer Takagi:share about is pain to purpose, my 100 pound journey. I can't
Jennifer Takagi:wait to hear more about this. Patsy, thank you so much for
Jennifer Takagi:being here today.
Patsy James:Oh my goodness, thank you so much for having me.
Patsy James:I am so honored to be here and excited to share my story, and
Patsy James:I'm excited to be on this amazing day with you.
Jennifer Takagi:Well, okay, let's jump right in. Tell me
Jennifer Takagi:from purpose and how you lost 100 pounds. I might need to know
Jennifer Takagi:about that.
Patsy James:Well, my story is a pretty big one, but I've
Patsy James:actually been able to release over 120 pounds. I am four foot
Patsy James:11. I weighed 235 At my heaviest, and today I'm about
Patsy James:110 but to be honest, I don't really care about the number.
Patsy James:That number is just something that tortures us, but that's
Patsy James:just been my journey. This was about 28 years ago, so I've been
Patsy James:able to keep it off for over 28 years. And yeah, a lot of pain,
Patsy James:lot of suffering that happened, but I'm so grateful that I went
Patsy James:through that journey of releasing over 120 pounds, and
Patsy James:now I am a Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, so I
Patsy James:walk alongside my clients, and we figured this journey out
Patsy James:together so that they, too, can release whatever it is and have
Patsy James:lasting results. So that's basically my story in a
Patsy James:nutshell. But there's a lot you know along the journey, what
Patsy James:happened to cause me to gain that much weight, and what I've
Patsy James:done over all these years to keep it off. Which is, which is,
Patsy James:as I look back, it's like, wow, you know, it's pretty amazing.
Patsy James:As I look back, it's like, I can't believe I've been this
Patsy James:far. Have come this far.
Jennifer Takagi:Oh, I love that. And that whole idea of the
Jennifer Takagi:the pain that you went through that led you to where you are. I
Jennifer Takagi:actually was with some people I used to work with last week,
Jennifer Takagi:actually, and one of them, when we were talking about what I was
Jennifer Takagi:doing these days, I said, I keep being asked, are you so sad that
Jennifer Takagi:you didn't get into this sooner and you didn't leave your career
Jennifer Takagi:earlier? And I said, Oh no, I wouldn't have good stories and
Jennifer Takagi:and it sounds ridiculous at the time, I didn't know how to get
Jennifer Takagi:out, how to change my life, but now I can use all those stories
Jennifer Takagi:and help another so that that, you know, find the find the joy,
Jennifer Takagi:find the purpose in those stories. Is so powerful. So can
Jennifer Takagi:you give us a little snippet of, like, how you got to be over 100
Jennifer Takagi:pounds over, yeah, wanted to be, needed to be a healthy weight.
Jennifer Takagi:Like, give us a little snippet of that.
Patsy James:Okay, this is huge. Everyone got their seat belts
Patsy James:on. So I was raised in a religious cult, and that is a
Patsy James:huge curate in itself. And you know, basically I we live like
Patsy James:Amish people. We wore long prairie dresses. Everything was
Patsy James:about fear and shame, and I was able to literally escaped when
Patsy James:escaped when I was about 25 years old and had no education,
Patsy James:didn't know anything, and, you know, was horribly shunned
Patsy James:during that time, had no support, no education. But you
Patsy James:know, there was something in me that drove me no to know that
Patsy James:there was something bigger for me and something more powerful,
Patsy James:that, you know, I wanted to give to the world, and that I wanted
Patsy James:a better life, and through all of that pain and struggle and
Patsy James:suffering and deprogramming and just so you know, Jennifer, I am
Patsy James:just now in my 50s, starting to talk about my story in my
Patsy James:earlier years, and this is scary, so thank you for giving
Patsy James:me the safe pace, the safe place to share this. But yeah, going
Patsy James:through so much trauma and fear and self doubt, shame that just
Patsy James:pound just I just packed the pounds on and
Jennifer Takagi:fighting right, like I need protection. I need
Jennifer Takagi:to hide from this. And I think you made a point that I'm sorry
Jennifer Takagi:to interrupt, but I had to you said you knew there was more you
Jennifer Takagi:weren't exposed to. More you didn't. Seymour, I'm assuming,
Jennifer Takagi:being in this cult situation, but you knew there was more. And
Jennifer Takagi:I recently had a conversation with a friend about a book that
Jennifer Takagi:I read, and this little boy knew at eight years old he was not
Jennifer Takagi:living in the right environment, and literally called DHS to get
Jennifer Takagi:him out. And I was like, I was raised, fortunately, very, very
Jennifer Takagi:liberal Christian religion. My parents adored me. My sisters
Jennifer Takagi:and brother tormented me, but that's what right like nothing,
Jennifer Takagi:yeah, nothing out of the ordinary. But I told this
Jennifer Takagi:friend, I said, How do you know it ate this isn't right. And she
Jennifer Takagi:goes, Oh, I knew by eight it wasn't right. And I moved out of
Jennifer Takagi:the house at 16, and I was like, Holy crap. Holy like, how do you
Jennifer Takagi:do that? So I just want the listeners to grasp when you have
Jennifer Takagi:that inner voice, that inner knowing it comes from something
Jennifer Takagi:bigger than you, that you're not in the right place and you don't
Jennifer Takagi:have to stay there, cuz I think that's just a critical point,
Jennifer Takagi:and I'm honored that you're sharing your story with us
Jennifer Takagi:today. This is thank you bravery on your part. So thank you. It's
Jennifer Takagi:really scary,
Patsy James:but I want to be scared and do things that are
Patsy James:brave to help other people, and it helps me too. You know,
Patsy James:people ask me all the time, how did you do it? How did you leave
Patsy James:that situation and be where you're at today? And honestly,
Patsy James:Jennifer, my answer is, I don't know. There was just something
Patsy James:deep down, like you were just sharing that, you know, spurred
Patsy James:me on to like there is something better. And so I literally just
Patsy James:left. I babysat during the day, I waited tables at night, and I
Patsy James:figured it out one day at a time. You know, it literally
Patsy James:took me a good 20 years to detox from that situation, but the
Patsy James:weight was the most visible thing that I needed to detox
Patsy James:from was the weight, because everyone can see that, right?
Patsy James:And so I literally drew the line in the sand and said, I am
Patsy James:never, ever going to live like this, ever again. So I did
Patsy James:something very drastic. Jennifer, I went and visited a
Patsy James:surgeon, and I'm like, help. I need help. I want gastric
Patsy James:bypass. I want to conquer this problem for the and be done for
Patsy James:the rest of my life and move forward and upward. And you know
Patsy James:what? I didn't have enough money. Oh, I barely had
Patsy James:insurance that would cover, you know, an antibiotic for a cold
Patsy James:or whatever, like, I didn't have in my insurance was barely
Patsy James:enough to do anything, and I didn't have money. But you know
Patsy James:what? He saw something in me, and he said to me, he said, You
Patsy James:know what, I'm going to make sure you get this, and I don't
Patsy James:care about the money part. He's like, I see something in you,
Patsy James:and I want you to have this. And I'm getting emotional here, you
Patsy James:know, I couldn't believe it. I was just like, really? So we, we
Patsy James:did the surgery. I was in the hospital for five days. I had
Patsy James:the most aggressive surgery that I could possibly get, because I
Patsy James:drew that line in the sand. I do not want to go to go back to the
Patsy James:old me, and I knew that to get to the new me, I had to make all
Patsy James:these drastic and hard changes. So we had the surgery, I
Patsy James:recovered, and then I did everything wrong. We can go on
Patsy James:and on, but I literally lost. I went from 235 pounds girlfriend
Patsy James:to 100 pounds in six months. My hair fell out. I was
Patsy James:malnourished, but you know what, for darn sake, that number on
Patsy James:the scale said 100 pounds. And so I was like, I have lost 135
Patsy James:pounds. But you know what, I was sick. I was unhealthy, and that
Patsy James:is where my story basically begins, of my journey of now I'm
Patsy James:a national board certified health and wellness coach. You
Patsy James:know my goal was to not turn 30 at that weight. Well, my
Patsy James:birthday is this month. I'm turning 55 5% of the people who
Patsy James:do what I did keep their weight off. So I am standing on this
Patsy James:platform and yelling as loud as I can for anyone that can hear
Patsy James:me and wants to hear me and see me that you know what? Oh, my
Patsy James:goodness. Shame keeps you stuck. Shame but self cap, self
Patsy James:compassion, you know, pivots you forward in your goals. So now,
Patsy James:Jennifer, I'm happy to say I'm a national board certified health
Patsy James:and wellness coach. I walk alongside people on their health
Patsy James:and wellness journey, and it's not about the number on the
Patsy James:scale. It's not about what you eat or don't eat. It's not about
Patsy James:how you torture yourself. It's more about. Loving yourself,
Patsy James:figuring it all out, and continue going on this journey
Patsy James:of health and wellness.
Jennifer Takagi:It's so impressive. I'm just, I mean,
Jennifer Takagi:just in awe. And I'm just going to say not that, not that the
Jennifer Takagi:audio people can hear, but my video just went out. I think my
Jennifer Takagi:cat walked by and turned I
Patsy James:know I was like, I was thinking that maybe it was
Patsy James:me.
Jennifer Takagi:I think my cat turned it off. I think my cat
Jennifer Takagi:turned it off
Patsy James:when he maybe it scared your kitty. Who's that
Patsy James:girl yelling from her
Jennifer Takagi:her soapbox? Oh my gosh, no, I love it. And so
Jennifer Takagi:so much that you've said was so, so powerful. Because, thank you.
Jennifer Takagi:I've heard of people going to surgeons for gastric bypass, and
Jennifer Takagi:they literally were told, you have to lose 50 pounds before we
Jennifer Takagi:do the surgery. And their response was, if I could lose 50
Jennifer Takagi:pounds, I would have lost 50 pounds. So I'm sure there's a
Jennifer Takagi:whole lot of psychology behind that, like, How committed are
Jennifer Takagi:you to making this work? So, like, part of me kind of gets
Jennifer Takagi:it. Part of me is like, wait what I don't really understand.
Jennifer Takagi:But the fact that you lost it so quickly and you became unhealthy
Jennifer Takagi:like that is a story in and of itself, that there are lots of
Jennifer Takagi:medical advancements that can help us, but we really do need
Jennifer Takagi:to read the label, whatever that label is, like the self care
Jennifer Takagi:instructions after a gastric bypass or if I'm going to take a
Jennifer Takagi:pill or have a shot or whatever, there are really good
Jennifer Takagi:nutritional things that must go with it to be healthy. So you're
Jennifer Takagi:you're down to 100 pounds, your hair is falling out. You're
Jennifer Takagi:really not healthy. I'm just going to guess you didn't really
Jennifer Takagi:have energy to live the life you dreamed of anyway. Oh no, at
Jennifer Takagi:that point, did you decide I might need to eat a vegetable
Jennifer Takagi:and some protein so that I can live and be healthy. Like, was
Jennifer Takagi:that a hard transition of, I weigh 100 pounds and I'm
Jennifer Takagi:unhealthy to I could weigh 110 or 120 but be healthy. Like,
Jennifer Takagi:how? How did that process come about?
Patsy James:Jennifer, that's an awesome question. That's a
Patsy James:perfect question for this. So I was so focused on the number on
Patsy James:the scale, and I had it in my mind that as soon as I hit that
Patsy James:magic number, the skies run apart. The angels were going to
Patsy James:sing, and I would meet my dream man, and I would have millions
Patsy James:of dollars in the bank, and my life would be roses and
Patsy James:cherries. Well, you know what? That's not what happened to me,
Patsy James:girlfriend, you know, I every I lost friends, I wasn't healthy.
Patsy James:I did it all wrong, and so I had to, like, change everything my
Patsy James:mindset. I had to love myself. I had to have self compassion. I
Patsy James:had to realize that health truly is wealth, and just because you
Patsy James:are certain size doesn't mean that your life is going to be
Patsy James:better? No, no. So that is why that I'm sorry, but that's why
Patsy James:my clients love me, because I literally walk beside them, and
Patsy James:we figured out it's not about the number, it's not about
Patsy James:dieting, it's not about going these crazy exercise programs
Patsy James:that kill us. It's about finding out what we need to do to
Patsy James:literally release what's holding us back. Release we don't want
Patsy James:to find it ever again. So yes, I had to learn how to eat again,
Patsy James:how to learn nutrition. But the main thing was learning to love
Patsy James:myself and learning to get rid of all the shame, the self
Patsy James:doubt, the negative thoughts, that was the true key in my
Patsy James:journey of bouncing back from literally being a malnourished
Patsy James:human being. I looked like I had cancer. I mean, it was not
Patsy James:pretty, but the number said 100 you know, but I had to learn the
Patsy James:hard way, and that is why I'm so passionate about what I do.
Patsy James:Jennifer, like I literally see people's lives change, and I am
Patsy James:right there with you, by the way. Can I share real quick if
Patsy James:you are curious about who I am, I'm on Instagram, and it's Patsy
Patsy James:James fit over 50, and I am launching a new signature
Patsy James:program. January 2 is when it's going live, and I only have a
Patsy James:limited number of spots, and it's going to be life changing.
Patsy James:It's not about dieting, it's not about killing yourself with
Patsy James:marathons. It's about loving ourselves, having Compassion,
Patsy James:releasing what's holding us back, and just getting rid of
Patsy James:the fear and the shame.
Jennifer Takagi:I love that. So what I'm taking from this
Jennifer Takagi:conversation is working with you. You help with the mindset.
Jennifer Takagi:Because those crazy stories going through our mind, they
Jennifer Takagi:keep us in the stories going through our mind, and don't get
Jennifer Takagi:us out of them. But that plus nutrition. So do clients you
Jennifer Takagi:work with also have gastric bypass? Or is it exercise, diet
Jennifer Takagi:and mindset?
Patsy James:You know, they're all everybody's on their own
Patsy James:journey. I mean, I use the surgery as a tool. And so I
Patsy James:preach that like crazy. You know, if you need a tool, I can
Patsy James:help you get the right tool for you, if it's GLP ones, if it's
Patsy James:surgery, if it's just the extra support of whatever it is. So
Patsy James:everybody's so different. Everyone's on their own journey.
Patsy James:And what works for me may not work for you, so I like to
Patsy James:figure it out together. It's so much better when you have
Patsy James:someone on your team, isn't
Jennifer Takagi:it? Well, you have to, it's like coaches have
Jennifer Takagi:to have coaches, right? Like, we can't do this on our own. And I
Jennifer Takagi:have a friend who recently had, I don't know if it's the right
Jennifer Takagi:term, gastric sleeve, gastric band. Oh, yeah, different. I
Jennifer Takagi:don't know if they're the same. But she said, like, the hardest
Jennifer Takagi:thing was on with that you can't have any carbonated beverages.
Jennifer Takagi:And she said giving up my diet coke every day was really hard,
Jennifer Takagi:but in giving that up, then I was able to give up the sugars
Jennifer Takagi:and give up the carbs and some of the other things that had
Jennifer Takagi:kind of led to the weight gain. And she had lost it. I don't
Jennifer Takagi:know, it had been five or six months, and she had lost like,
Jennifer Takagi:40 pounds, and was already feeling better. So I love that
Jennifer Takagi:you say it's all tools, and we can all heal ourselves. I'm an
Jennifer Takagi:energy healer also, and so like we can heal ourselves, but we
Jennifer Takagi:need support. We need help. We need the tools. We need the
Jennifer Takagi:things so that we can move forward in that so powerful,
Jennifer Takagi:powerful stuff, so as a newbie in this world with you, Miss
Jennifer Takagi:Patty James. I'm find John. Instagram, I wrote that down.
Patsy James:Thank you. Like,
Jennifer Takagi:if, if I wanted to make one small change towards
Jennifer Takagi:having a healthier journey physically, the the eating
Jennifer Takagi:nutrition piece, do you have like one thing that would be
Jennifer Takagi:beneficial to start making a change in my life?
Patsy James:This may sound silly to you, but this is one of
Patsy James:my favorite things to do, to like incorporate into your daily
Patsy James:life, drink water. Drink water. You know, the first thing I do
Patsy James:when I wake up is, well, let me back up. So before I go to bed
Patsy James:at night, I put a glass of water in my next to my bed, as full as
Patsy James:I can get it, have some electrolytes in it that I like,
Patsy James:and it's room temperature. The first thing I do is I I set up
Patsy James:in bed before I do anything, and I enjoy that precious glass of
Patsy James:room temperature electrolyte water. And boy, I tell you, that
Patsy James:will get you bouncing. So, you know, drink, drink. Drink that.
Patsy James:And then if you want to take it a depth, a step farther, have a
Patsy James:have another glass before your meal. You know that's going to
Patsy James:help you get hydrated. It's going to increase your energy,
Patsy James:and it's going to help you not to overeat. It'll help you slow
Patsy James:down a little bit. And we can go on and on about this, but you
Patsy James:know, I I want my clients and you listeners, everyone who's
Patsy James:watching us, to be grateful for our food and enjoy it, and, you
Patsy James:know, use it for what it is. It's to nourish and fuel our
Patsy James:bodies, you know, and we can do other things to fill our hearts
Patsy James:with so just, you know, being grateful. Sorry you asked for
Patsy James:one, but I keep going, being grateful for the water, our
Patsy James:healthy food that we have, and being grateful for one another.
Patsy James:Imma. Share one more thing, if that's okay. Of course, I have
Patsy James:created in my daily habit a gratitude walk. So after I've
Patsy James:had my water, I get up, I do some quick things, and then I
Patsy James:head out for 1015, 30, minute gratitude walk, and it's not to
Patsy James:go out there and, you know, burn calories and work up a sweat.
Patsy James:It's basically go out there and do breathing exercises, become
Patsy James:aligned, think about the day and be grateful. And if it if you
Patsy James:can be grateful for just one thing. I know life's tough, it
Patsy James:could be just you're grateful for your legs that move, you
Patsy James:know our eyes that can see, or whatever it is that's to me,
Patsy James:will definitely set you on a great path for your day and for
Patsy James:your life. It's those small little things
Jennifer Takagi:i i love this and I love the water thing
Jennifer Takagi:because I had a friend and we were traveling to. Other, and
Jennifer Takagi:she got just a little under the weather, not full blown sick,
Jennifer Takagi:but under the weather. And I was like, You need to drink more
Jennifer Takagi:water. And she was like, oh, yeah, I've been drinking a lot.
Jennifer Takagi:And I was like, no, like, I've been watching you. Like, 12
Jennifer Takagi:ounces a day is not sufficient. I'm sorry. You're just like, you
Jennifer Takagi:need more than that. So that drinking water, we take it for
Jennifer Takagi:granted, because those of us who live in first world countries
Jennifer Takagi:where clean water is available, we take it for granted. Other
Jennifer Takagi:places they wish they could have a cup of water a day. So this
Jennifer Takagi:has been amazing, Patsy. I'm so happy to have met you today, and
Jennifer Takagi:as we wrap up, the podcast is destined for success, closing
Jennifer Takagi:thoughts on your success journey for the audience, you
Patsy James:know what small little changes move that needle
Patsy James:in either way you're going to be go the one way to become
Patsy James:healthier towards your goals, or the other way to where you're
Patsy James:not so just take tiny little steps each day. It doesn't have
Patsy James:to be anything huge, and you know, just love yourself, love
Patsy James:yourself, give yourself Self Compassion, and you know life is
Patsy James:good.
Jennifer Takagi:Thank you so much. I'm Jennifer Takagi with
Jennifer Takagi:Dustin for success, and I look forward to connecting with you
Jennifer Takagi:soon. Bye.