Jim Cathcart looks for success seekers, experts and entrepreneurs | DFS 256

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Welcome to the destined for success podcast.

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I'm your host Jennifer Takagi and this podcast used to be

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called new manager media manage right from the start. Many of

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the concepts are the same, that there's a little shift. There's

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a shift because I know we are all destined for success. And I

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want to help you find the fastest, smoothest way to reach

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your highest best as quickly as possible. Join me in today's

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episode, where you're going to come up with new ways to build

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your skills and influence others to make the impact you desire to

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make. I look forward to connecting with you soon.

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Welcome to destined for success. I'm your host Jennifer Takagi

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and it's PATA palooza. De. I'm so excited. I have gotten to

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meet some amazing people. And the next guest is no different.

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Amazing man Jim Karthik cart. Did I get it right?

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Carlos Cathcart

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hafler Cathcart. I'm Kathy. I love it.

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So when it part of the information on the on each

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other's podcasts on this amazing day of PATA Palooza is people

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give you just a tiny bit of information, and you figure it

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out from there. And his top title is success seekers,

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experts and entrepreneurs. And I was very intrigued by that. So

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I'm going to turn it over to you, Jim, tell us what you do

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where you are in the world. And what you mean by 6x success

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seekers, experts and entrepreneurs. And I really

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can't talk. It's just hard sometimes.

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Okay, thank you. Thank you, great to be with you,

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Jennifer. And I like destined for success. Because if you

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think of destiny, destiny is kind of like a future that's

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pulling you toward it. And I think we all have it, not from

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the outside. But from the inside a destiny that is possible, but

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not inevitable. In other words, we got to let it happen. We've

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got to help it happen. We don't wait for it to happen soon,

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because it's not coming from out there. So if you look at life in

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general life, well, the life impulse exists in throughout the

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universe, and it shows up as a plant, or a puppy, or a person

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or a tree, you know, whatever forest, that's life emerging

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through reality as we see it. And every person has within them

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the life impulse. Well, how does it manifest, it manifests in

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what we want, when I'm mentoring people, and that's my primary

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profession. I work as a professional speaker and author

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and I've done 3500 paid speeches all over the world, over 40 plus

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years and written 25 books and, you know, done done the things

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speakers dream of doing when they grow up. So I've had a

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wonderful and blessed career. But the primary thing I asked

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people is, what do you want? And they said, Well, no, I don't

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make nothing, excuse me, what you want is an impulse inside of

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you, it's life inside of you, trying to get out. So if you

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want to see all 50 states, then the possibility of doing that is

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in you. And you ought to start making a plan to start clicking

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off some of those 50. And get out there and see them. Because

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as you do, you'll see more opportunities, and maybe your

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goals have changed, maybe they stay the same. If you have a

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goal to create a business that saves puppies from drowning,

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whatever, you know, I'm making these up as I go, then for

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heaven's sakes, do it, or at least get it started and then

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hand it off to someone else who can make it more of a reality.

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But let the life impulse come through you so that you live

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more fully. The purpose of life is living, really living, not

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limited, living some limited version of what you could be, or

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accepting other people's comments about your limits or

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your potential. Be alive in everything you can do. And when

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when someone says Jim, what do you do I say I'm a mentor, to

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experts, entrepreneurs, and as you said, Success seekers. Well,

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what's a success seeker? It's someone who is not hoping to

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succeed, trying to succeed, wishing they could succeed, or

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testing to see if it's possible. It's someone that says As I'm

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going to succeed, now let's get to work. And they're going to

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keep going and doing and trying and failing and succeeding and

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failing and such until they reach the level that they've

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chosen to reach. So a success See, seeker is the kind of

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person that would tune into your podcast, go to a Tony Robbins

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arena event, you know, buy a book on, on personal

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development, come to one of my programs. That's what a success

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seeker is. And so my job after all these years and wonderful

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experiences I've had, is to guide other people in the best

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ways that I can. Mother way I would like everyone who's

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listening today to go to free. Nice word, Free dot, Cathcart,

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a free copy of this book. It's my 25th book, what to do when

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you're the speaker. And it's not about giving a speech. It's

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about being a speaker. And it's been endorsed by, you know, the

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all the names you'd recognize. Brian Tracy, neato Cobain, Denis

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Waitley, Les Brown, you know all that. Tom Hopkins, Tom Ziglar,

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zig sun, you know, you name it, they they probably endorsed this

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book. So get a free copy of that. And then if you want to

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talk with me about being your mentor, then we can talk about

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how do you reach the top 1% of your field. Or you can get a

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copy of my book, mentor minutes, which is out there. You know,

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with 25 books in the marketplace, there's a lot of

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ways, inexpensive ways I can help people. But those that want

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me to kind of hold their hand or be at their elbow as they're

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doing it. I do mentor ships in one one month, three month and

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10 month agreements with people. But what's it all about? Well,

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what it's all about is becoming the person you're capable of

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becoming living abundantly, living in such a way that when

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you get up in the morning, when you wake up in the morning, you

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think I get to get up today, hot dog, I can't wait to see what

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this day brings. And at the end of the day, you put your head on

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the pillow. And even it was if it was a difficult day, you say

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thank you, Lord, for this good day. And you kind of reflect on

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the good things that took place. And so that's the that's the way

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I've been living my life for the last 70 plus years. And I still

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ride my motorcycles on the twisty roads, I can find I play

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the guitar and sing and nightclubs. I'm still a very,

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very active professional speaker and author. And I've got, as I

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said, 25 books in the stores. But I've got three more already

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written in the pipeline. And I'm eager to find co authors and do

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some more.

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Oh my gosh, I love it. And I love this story.

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So some questions popped up for me. I'm an avid note taker. So

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you know, if we share this video and you see my head down, it's

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not because I'm bored. It's because I'm writing feverishly.

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So

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I'm gonna interrupt for a second. No one

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told me one time if your speaker, you want to see the

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tops of people's heads, if you're making a point, meaning

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they're writing it down, and you want to see the whites of their

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eyes if you're telling a story. And then a great analogy.

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Oh my gosh, I love it. Well, lots of people

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have seen the top of my head over the years. So, okay, so

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many great points here. I pretty much have accomplished what I

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set out to accomplish. Like I have that burning desire, I want

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to do something, I do it. And then you do end up with those

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moments when you're like, I don't really want to keep doing

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this, I want to do something different, which is fine. Like

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we have the we have the blessing if you didn't know you had it

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all. bless everybody right now. I bless you to have the DIS the

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ability to change your mind and do something different. Like

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that's okay, I'm good with that change your mind. But how do you

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metanoia

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metanoia information of your mind to a

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higher level? Yep.

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When I talk to people, sometimes I do energy

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healing. And you know, it's all a divinely inspired practice

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that I that I have and that I do. And when I ask people like

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what is the one thing that you would like to either elevate and

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have more of or remove and have less of that would make the

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biggest shift in your life? Like Like, what would that be? And

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you have to allow time for it right time and space for people

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to talk all over the board before you can finally hone in

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on that. So what suggestion would you give to someone

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listening when you ask the question, what do you want? want

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for them to start honing in on what it is because we need

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coaches, we need gurus, we need teachers and mentors, we need

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all those things, that sometimes we kind of need to sit still and

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be with ourselves. So we know even what path we might want to

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present or touch into. So do you have any guidance on that, like

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how we can been on what we want,

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that I lead people through a process called going

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pro, decide it, as of this point, I'm becoming a

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professional at my particular path, right. And that means you

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set higher standards for yourself. And you're much more

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focused and much more dedicated to the doing what you've chosen

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to do, and do it at a higher level. And so I started all,

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like I said, by posing the question, what do you want? And

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they say, Well, you know, I want to know, and it's all general

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stuff, you know, I want to be healthy and happy and healthy

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and have plenty of money will sodas every living entity,

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right? Yeah. I mean, even plants, that they want to be

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happy, healthy and have plenty of resources. So that's just a

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general desire of all living things. And the more specific we

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get, the more likely we are to bring it about. So if I say I

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just want to have a successful career, okay. Tell me about

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careers. What do you mean? Well, let's fast forward 1020 years in

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the future, tell me about you. Well, you know, and they express

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all their self doubts. And I said, let's, let's just assume

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for a minute, you know, the blessing you got from Jennifer

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has allowed you to remove all the limitations. And whatever

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you decide you want to go after, is gonna happen sooner or later.

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Oh, well, if that's the case, you know, it's kind of like the,

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what are your goals? And they say, oh, no, no, pay my bills on

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my home. They say, okay, what are your wishes your dreams? Oh,

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you mean, like if I won the lottery, and all of a sudden

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they come to life. And here comes all those things that they

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would have told you if you'd asked the question differently

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in the first place. So it's in there, they just have trouble

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articulating it because they they're afraid of judgment.

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Right. And so I lead people through a exercise called the

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future you. And we define what the future EU is going to look

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sound and feel like under all kinds of different

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circumstances. And then the second thing we do is we look at

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what I call reputation creation. And we define every group of

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people you're part of, or want to be part of. And we write out

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a reputation statement that you want them to think or feel or

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say about you, when you're not present to hear it. So what do

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you want your family say about you, your neighbors say about

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you, your colleagues, your competitors, your customers, you

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know, all these people want your teachers, people that knew you,

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when you were a kid, what do you want those people to think and

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say about you, in the future, and anything goes so you can

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make it whatever you want it to be. So we do that exercise. And

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then I say, Okay, what one thing out of all the things you've got

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going on in your life, if you picked only one lane, one little

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narrow bike path of a lane, and did only that one thing for the

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next five years. It would transform your life, what is

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that one thing? And so we identify that one thing, and

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then we go to the other side of the equation, and I have them

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interview their customers? Or do a survey among would be

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customers? What one thing do they value the most that you're

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able to deliver? So you've looked at what you want to do

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and where your greatest opportunity is, in the one thing

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focus on short term focus. And then you look outside yourself

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at what one thing is the market most willing to pay for? That's

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among your possibilities currently. And then we look at

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your passion and purpose. My passion and purpose is a I guess

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a secular expression of the biblical passage, John 1010 have

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come that they would have life and have it more abundantly.

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That's what I've chosen as my personal mission to help people

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live more abundantly and to do so in the process personally,

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and I certainly have and I've been blessed to be able to help

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10s of 1000s maybe even hundreds of 1000s of others to do the

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same thing. So that's just a portion of the going bro

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process. And people come out of that so focused. You know this

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Okay, okay, no, forget everything else we talked about

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up to now, I want to do this. Great now we got a ballgame,

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okay? And we get to work on that. And then they either

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graduate or, or they say Gemma, I want you to stick around and

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we go into what I call the Experts Academy phase of it. And

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I certify them as a professional expert. At the end of the year

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with a medallion as a CPE AS certified professional expert.

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I love that and I can't reach it from here. It

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looked funny, but I like to collect you know, ribbons and

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crowns and statues and certificate.

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There you go.

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That's my love language. Learn something new

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and get a piece of paper.

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Love that. I love that's my gosh, this

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conversation is so much fun. And in the funniest

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thing about being a podcaster on pod Palooza is I get to meet so

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many amazing people to figure out what I want to be when I

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grow up.

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It's like inspiration overload for a day,

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isn't it? Yeah. No, that's the thing. You know, people ask me

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what? What do you want to be when you grow up and I tell them

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I want to be like my son. One of the people in the world that I

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most admire, my son's an executive, a senior executive in

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a luxury hotel chain. And he's in Southern California and

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managing a resort. And he's just, he's a marathoner. He's a

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musician. He's a person I could trust with any thing, including

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the deepest secret of God. He's just an amazing guy. And he's

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raised amazing kids. So I want to grow up to be like him

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someday.

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Well, and chances are, he was trying to

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grow up and be a bit like you. And that's why he is an amazing,

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man. This point? I love this too, do you? Um, is it like in

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my head? Because you know, I make up a lot of stories. I just

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bought a pair of socks. I may not know the truth, but I can

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make up a story about it. I'm going to be wearing them this

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fall. I think that's what they say. But I'm going to make an

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assumption that you're not really around negative people

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are people who don't believe in abundance or their ability to

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attain more abundance. But if you encounter those people, how

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do you act interact, respond to that level of negativity of

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Yeah, well, they've got a nice house but or Oh, yeah, look at

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their car and you're like, that you could have it to like have

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what's your what's your response?

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Like all people I've been around millions of

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those. I'm sure. I have you on a pedestal? Yeah, you know, I've

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lived among them. I've certainly experienced that. I chose back

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in the 1970s. to remake my life, I went to a seminar called

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Adventures and attitudes. That was real popular back then. And

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it was the first time I'd ever set goals and considered really

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taking the reins and making my life different. And so I chose

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to diminish the number of negative or diminish the amount

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of contact with negative people in my life, because you can't

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really control how many of them you're going to encounter. But

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you can certainly control how much time and focus you're going

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to give them. And so when I've been around people who are

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naysayers, like one one time I was in a business, and the

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primary stockholder in the business was a highly skilled

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technical guy who had the worst failure mentality I've ever

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seen. He was success phobic. He was literally afraid to succeed.

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And my partners and I would bring to him we were junior

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partners, he was a senior stockholder. And we were the

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rainmakers, and he was the tech guru. So we would bring him big

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deals. Done. You know, Jennifer already agreed to this. She

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signed the contract. Here it is, do the follow through and

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implemented and get back to her to start the program. He would

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always find a way to plant doubt in Jennifer's mind. And so the

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big deal that might have been worth $100,000 Would unwind two

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days later. And I remember going into a meeting with him in the

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Silicon Valley. We were going to talk to some angel investors up

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there. This was back during the tech boom and in ours was a tech

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companies. So that was cool. So we're sitting three or four of

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us in this room with a potential investor and her team. And she's

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got millions to throw into this. And she says, it is such an I've

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heard about you, and I've heard about you. And I've admired you

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and followed your work for years. And this is great. And

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who's your colleague? Well, here's my tech expert colleague.

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And so we start talking, and she says, Well, I can't wait to get

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into this deal with you. And then she asked him a question.

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And his answer causes her to go. Oh, well, then, you know, we're

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gonna have to think about this. So let me get back to you. And

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it never happened. It was ready to happen. And it never

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happened. So after a couple of weeks had followed, and I talked

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with one of my colleagues, I came in to the board meeting now

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I'm on the board of directors. I came into the board reading, and

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I said, I own 20% of the company. I sit on the board. And

Jim Cathcart: 00:21:10

I'm a rainmaker. I've been bringing business and tech

Jim Cathcart: 00:21:16

expert, you've been killing every deal I've brought in. And

Jim Cathcart: 00:21:22

I don't mind you being the main stockholder and getting rich off

Jim Cathcart: 00:21:25

of this, but I do mind you destroying our ability to make

Jim Cathcart: 00:21:29

it succeed. So here's my ultimatum. Either you step off

Jim Cathcart: 00:21:34

the board and keep your stock, or I'm leaving, and not

Jim Cathcart: 00:21:38

generating any future business. And he said, I'm staying. I

Jim Cathcart: 00:21:45

said, Okay, see, and I walked away. And I lost many 1000s of

Jim Cathcart: 00:21:51

dollars that day. But I gained so much peace of mind that it

Jim Cathcart: 00:21:56

was like I lit the fire again, under my afterburner the next

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:00

day. And I all of a sudden, I was cheerful. Again, I wasn't

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:04

irritated and anxious all the time. And another example, same

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:09

thing, my sister had a friend who was a Negative Nelly, who

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:12

could find a cloud and every sunshiny day, you know, anything

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:17

you brought to her, like you bring her cake, she'd say, oh,

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:19

it's probably rotten on the inside, and I'll catch something

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:22

and die. You know, so whatever it was, she enjoyed finding the

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:28

bad side of it, let's let's look, you know, maybe it's dirty

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:31

underneath. And my sister kept bringing her over to our house

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:37

and my sister lived with us. And, and I said, to Kathy,

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:43

you're welcome here. 100% of the time, you've got the keys to the

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:46

house. You know, you got the run of the place, but don't bring

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:50

her anymore. She said, Well, if you like me, you accept my

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:54

friends. I said, that's absolutely not true. I love you.

Jim Cathcart: 00:22:59

But I don't accept your friends because you choose your friends

Jim Cathcart: 00:23:02

differently. And I choose not to have this woman come in and rain

Jim Cathcart: 00:23:07

on every comment I make. And if she wants to go watch soap

Jim Cathcart: 00:23:11

operas and dwell on the weaknesses, and the underside of

Jim Cathcart: 00:23:14

humanity, God bless her go forth and but don't multiply. And it

Jim Cathcart: 00:23:22

but she's not welcome here anymore. And my sister gotten a

Jim Cathcart: 00:23:25

huff over it. But then she finally understood and made

Jim Cathcart: 00:23:28

peace with it. And my life got a little bit more sunshiny that

Jim Cathcart: 00:23:32

day. So I think we have to take a stand.

Jennifer Takagi: 00:23:35

I love that take a stand. i It's one of

Jennifer Takagi: 00:23:41

those things. You have people in your life and some people you

Jennifer Takagi: 00:23:44

can cut out like you don't have to be around her. Other people.

Jennifer Takagi: 00:23:49

They could be part of your family or your inner circle.

Jim Cathcart: 00:23:52

Maybe your family. Yeah. And you just have to

Jim Cathcart: 00:23:55

diminish the amount of of focus you give to that. Right less

Jim Cathcart: 00:24:00

time. eradicate it, just change the percentage. Yeah,

Jennifer Takagi: 00:24:04

I love that. Well, it's time for us to wrap

Jennifer Takagi: 00:24:08

up.

Jim Cathcart: 00:24:09

I'm so glad we had this time together.

Jennifer Takagi: 00:24:15

Force. Listen to us who knew I could sing?

Jennifer Takagi: 00:24:20

Wait, I can't sing every town. What? Like what final thought?

Jennifer Takagi: 00:24:25

Would you like to leave the audience?

Jim Cathcart: 00:24:29

I would like to leave the thought that your life

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is a reflection of you. And if you don't like the reflection

Jim Cathcart: 00:24:37

you've been seeing lately, then get an internal makeover and

Jim Cathcart: 00:24:44

give yourself permission to be the magnificent being that you

Jim Cathcart: 00:24:49

were created to be instead of the limited one that you've

Jim Cathcart: 00:24:53

accepted up to this point.

Jennifer Takagi: 00:24:59

It's been Been a pleasure.

Jim Cathcart: 00:25:01

Thank you. I've enjoyed it too. I appreciate it.

Jim Cathcart: 00:25:03

Jennifer. Bye bye.

Jennifer Takagi: 00:25:05

I'm Jennifer Takagi and I look forward to

Jennifer Takagi: 00:25:07

connecting with you soon. Thank you for taking your time to

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