Imagine the Impact You Can Make | DFS 357

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Foreign Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your

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host, Jennifer Takagi, and I want to continue this

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conversation about impact. If you didn't catch last week's

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episode, I'm just going to say right now, let's put it out

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there. It was a bit of a rant. It was a rant about a woman

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making a negative impact. At least it was very negative in my

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point of view. So today I want to like shift it to a little

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more positive view. Look, take on impact. So the title of this

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episode is, imagine the impact you can make. You just have to

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decide. You have to decide what kind of impact you want to make,

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how you want to show up, what you want to be known for. And

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when I think about the impact I want to make, I have to look at

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the fact that I might have, okay, I don't. Might have, I

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actually have an auto reject response. D Do you have an auto

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reject response? Someone gives you a solution and it really is

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the best possible solution, and you instantaneously say, Nope,

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I'm out on that. Nope, that can't happen. Nope, I don't have

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the skills for that. Nope, that's for somebody else. It's

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not for me. Well, I had that auto reject button going on like

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it was just an instantaneous response. And I try to be an

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optimistic person. I try to see the glass as half full. I will

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say that in many, many situations, I do do that, almost

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to the point of being Pollyanna, which I'm kind of okay with. But

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I was at an event, and I had heard of this man before. I

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didn't really know much about him, other than somebody else I

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knew had worked with him, and it had been a really good

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experience, and he took the stage, and he starts telling his

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story. And if you've ever been to a conference or any type of

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event gathering where there are a bunch of speakers, there's a

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little bit of a flow to how the story goes. It's often called

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the hero's journey. Like this is where I was. This is how bad

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things got. And then this one time I had this epiphany, I had

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an interaction that, just like changed everything. And now I'm

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here, and I want to help you get here faster and not go through

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all the muck and the and the valleys that I did like Let's

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bypass that. So he's sharing his hero story. And as I was sitting

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there in a room for full of I don't know, there were over 100

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people in this room, and it wasn't that big of a room. It

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didn't really feel crowded, but it was definitely full. And he's

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telling his story, and it's a very engaging story. He tells it

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really well, and then, and then he says, I have a goal. I have a

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vision to impact. I don't remember if he said 1 million

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people or 10 million people, but in that moment, it could have

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been a billion people, because my instantaneous auto reject

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response was, that's not even possible. That's not possible.

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I'm too little. I don't have a big enough voice, I don't have

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enough of a message. Nobody will listen to me. Yeah, no. Like, I

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don't. Like, oh, I can't. That was my instantaneous response. I

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can't. And then he went on, probably very quickly, all of

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those negative thoughts probably happened instantaneously, like I

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didn't have an entire dialog with myself about this, a whole,

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no, I can't do that. It was pretty fast, like all those

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things happen almost simultaneously. But then he

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explained it, and he said, Here I am, I'm level zero, and I'm

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going to coach, I'm going to teach, I'm going to train, I'm

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going to help, I'm going to mentor, I'm going to coach. Did

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I already say Coach? Did I yeah, I probably did 10 people, and if

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I have a very positive impact on 10 people, then those 10 people

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can and will impact 10 more so. If you've been around me for

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very long, you know I am not the math person like you have to get

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a calculator out for me. But 10 times 10 is 100 then those 100

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people help 10 more each, and that's 1000 and those 1000

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people help 10 more each, and now we're at 10,000 sorry about

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that. So now we've impacted 10,000 lives. And if each of

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those 10,000 people help 10 people, we've hit 100,000 people

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impacted, and again, those 100,000 times 10, we've now hit

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a million. I don't know how many more levels we have to go to hit

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10 million, but I'm sure it's only one or two more levels. So

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me, Little old me with my message to share, wanting to

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share my experiences, wanting to help people bypass some of the

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things that I stumbled over, which has been a lot, right? We

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all stumble over a lot, but if I can impact 10 people on a really

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powerful level, it doesn't take a lot to hit a million. It

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doesn't take a lot. Do you have a message you want to share that

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you want to hit at least a million people? What impact do

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you want to make? What impact do you want to leave on the world.

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I was in a training recently, and it was kind of fun. It was

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like, basically trying to train your artificial intelligence

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bot. So it kind of like knows you and your values, so that

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when it helps you write content which it doesn't start from

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scratch. Those of you who are anti AI, catch up. Like, that's

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all I have to say. Catch up. Get on board. Get on the train. We

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will bring you along with us, but the train is leaving the

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station, so, so get on board. And in this particular one, this

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gentleman has created this AI bot, and you have to answer all

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these questions. And it's amazing when you answer the

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questions and you share your message, how much it sounds like

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you do you have to edit Absolutely. Can you just hit

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send? Well, occasionally, but typically, no. So you have to

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really look at the information you put in this. Oh, oh my gosh,

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I just had an epiphany. Do you remember when computers first

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came out? Or is anybody that old that you remember when computers

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first came out, and the phrase was, garbage in, garbage out.

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I'm going to coin that phrase for AI. You put garbage in,

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you're going to get garbage out. You don't put enough of your

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information and what you've created and written in, you're

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going to get some garbage out, and then you're going to look

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like an idiot, because, like, you did a bot, you know, type

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thing. And it is not a nice word, but I used it, sorry. So

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what impact do you want to make? How do you want to show up a few

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years ago? And I can only talk about me, right? Because I just

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know my story. So it's not that I'm saying, Oh, look at me. I'm

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so great. It's like some of these stories. I'm like, holy

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crap. Only, I had no idea. I was in a group of entrepreneurs, and

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everybody was like servants, minded like they give back a

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heart centered business, if you will. And there was an event,

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and it was all around being a heart centered business, and

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someone nominated me to be like the Entrepreneur of the Year in

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this group. I don't even know how many people are in the

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group, but I was like, Oh my gosh, I got nominated. I shared

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that everywhere, everywhere. I didn't win. Just spoiler alert,

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I didn't win, kind of like trying out for cheerleader. I

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didn't win, but I did all the things. I put it on social

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media, I texted people the link. I was like, hey, you know, vote

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for me. Vote for me. I could never be a politician, because

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that vote for me just wore me right out. And

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my husband and I have a little boat and a little place at the

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lake with a whole bunch of amazing people and friends. And

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there was one woman that I knew, but like, we weren't tight, we

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weren't in a tight circle of friends, but I'm gonna say a

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close acquaintance. Let's go with that close acquaintance.

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And it's a Sunday afternoon. It's a beautiful day. The Beach

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doesn't have many people? It's called Sunday fun day, and you

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usually have a smaller group, and it became very tight knit

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very quickly. And we pull up to the beach, and I hadn't even

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gotten off the boat, you know, you pull up at the beach, and

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you've got to get the the cover up, and you got to get your

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cooler ready, and you got to get the sunscreen on. You got to do

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all the things you. And I haven't even stepped off the

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boat, and this gal comes running down the beach and said, Oh my

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gosh, Jennifer, you are so famous. I cannot believe you're

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up for this award. And it was like, What? What? What? She's

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like, Oh my gosh, that's so exciting. Like, your royalty?

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Are you a princess? Are you a queen? Do we need to bow to you?

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And I was like, Uh, nope, none of those things are true, but I

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had made a big impact on some people that were outside my

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inner circle, and they thought it was so cool that I had been

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nominated for this award. And let's be clear, I was super

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excited that I was nominated for this award, like, I mean, let's

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not minimize it. It was a big deal, and I was quite honored

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that I was nominated again. I didn't win, but I was nominated,

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and that's kind of a big deal. It's a big deal. I want to make

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that impact. I want to show up that way. I want someone to say

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what you said mattered. I go to the Oklahoma City Thunder NBA

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basketball games, and there is a restaurant bar called Toby

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Keats. We always park at Toby Keats. We know all the

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bartenders, most of the waiters and waitresses. We're there all

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the time. There's a whole group of us, like, there's a game, and

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we all walk in, and everybody's like, happy to see us all. And

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it's kind of like cheers that whole show with Norm, like,

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everybody knows our name, and they do. And this one particular

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night, a distant friend, I'm gonna say it was their birthday,

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and I had been asked to bake their birthday cake, and I bake

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a lot, and being asked to make a birthday cake is really not

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outside my realm. I'm typically very happy to do it, and I did,

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and our whole group is there, plus this other group that you

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know, we're friends with, but not as tight. And some

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bartenders who no longer worked there had come for this birthday

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party, and one of them was getting ready to leave, and she

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turned around as she's walking out the door and we're all

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saying goodbye, and she said, Hey, wait, Jennifer, you have a

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podcast, and I listen to it every week, and I just want you

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to know I've learned a lot. I was stunned. Number one, I

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didn't know she knew I had a podcast. Number two, I didn't

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know she listened to it. And number three, I didn't know she

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had gotten value. So the fun thing about the podcast is that

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I sit here in my office and I tell people, oh, I just talked

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to myself, which is a little bit true, but I don't know what

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impact I'm making if you don't subscribe, if you don't leave a

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review, if you don't give me five stars or whatever, I have

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no idea. I'm just sitting here talking to myself randomly. It's

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not too random. I do have a little bit of an outline, but I

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don't know, and you don't know what impact you're making. So if

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you didn't catch last week's episode, this lady was just a

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hag. She was a hag, and she needed to just shut up. Like,

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keep your hatefulness to yourself. You don't need to

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impact the rest of us. So I had, I had recorded that podcast, and

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I was pretty fired up about it. I don't know if you can hear it

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in the podcast, but I was pretty fired up. I wasn't even in my

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office. I was in my kitchen. So this sound might be very

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different, I don't know, but right after I recorded that,

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just a few days later, I found out that my aunt, whom I adored,

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had been taken to the hospital a week or so before with shortness

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of breath, and they thought it might be her heart. So they're

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running all these tests on her heart for over a week. We don't

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know it. She keeps it pretty quiet, because that's how Aunt

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Virginia was. And I find out on a Friday that not only is she in

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the hospital, which I had not known, but she had just the day

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before, been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and it has

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already spread everywhere, and it did not look good. And I

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said, Oh my gosh, I want to see her. So one of my sisters and I

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met my other aunt and uncle, and we all went together, and I

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walked to the room. And, you know, you walk in a room, it's a

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little bit dark, but you've got the sun from the window coming

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your face, and you like, can't see initially. And I walked in

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and this man, who's her nephew on the other side of the family,

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said, Oh my gosh, there's Jennifer. And I was like, Oh my

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gosh, I haven't seen him in years. I'm kind of impressed

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that he even recognized me. You. So I have this beautiful

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conversation with my aunt, pancreatic cancer. Thank you,

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God, apparently does not hurt, because she said they're only

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gonna give me Tylenol. I said, Well, that is just totally

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awesome. That means if you need more than Tylenol, they'll give

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it to you, but if Tylenol will handle it, you're good. Did you

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need a Tylenol? And she said, No, I have not needed a Tylenol.

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So I'm thinking that it that's a good way to go, all right? And

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she looked at me, and again, she's been my aunt my whole

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entire life. I just adore her. And she looks at me with tears

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in her eyes and says, I love watching you on social media.

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You have great things to say. You could have knocked me over

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with a feather, someone I love, adore and highly respect. Had

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that to say, I'm making an impact every day with how I show

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up, whether it's intentional or not, is on me. So my question,

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my challenge, my final thoughts for you are, what impact do you

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want to make? Imagine what that impact could be. Do you want to

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hit that million people with a positive impact? What a great

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thing if every one of us, everyone in our circle, everyone

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that you knew, had the same vision, they imagine that same

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future of all of us having a positive impact on everyone we

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encounter. If you'd like to dive in this a little bit further.

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Book, a call. Click the link. Book, a call. I would love to

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talk to you about it, and I would love to help you decide

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what you want your future to look like. Let's start imagining

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again all the possibilities for the world. I'm Jennifer Takagi,

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and I look forward to connecting with you soon. You.