Do it your own way! Define your idea of success | DFS 254

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Welcome to the destined for success podcast.

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I'm your host Jennifer Takagi and this podcast used to be

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called new manager media manage right from the start. Many of

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the concepts are the same, that there's a little shift. There's

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a shift because I know we are all destined for success. And I

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want to help you find the fastest, smoothest way to reach

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Welcome to destined for success. I'm your host Jennifer Takagi

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and today I want to piggyback on and expand on last week's

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episode with the amazing Amber Griffis maker of Legends. And I

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want to talk about doing it your own way, and defining your idea

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of success. So back Oh, they say was 2016. But I know it goes way

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back then 2016 was a movie called Keeping Up with the

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Joneses. But there was a comic strip before that. And I don't

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know how far it goes back. But for a number of years, there was

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the whole idea of keeping up with the Joneses. And in the

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scenario idea of keeping up with the Joneses, it was the idea

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that you had to have the right car, the right house, the right

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clothes, I mean, some of that is still true. But people would go

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into tremendous debt, just for the appearance of. And at one

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point, my husband had a job and it took him to Texas and the

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North Dallas area. And he would go into these houses. And they

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would be mansions. And they would have like a car table and

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chairs in the kitchen for the kitchen table. There would be no

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furniture in the living room. And there might be an old beat

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up couch and TV in the family room. Because all their money

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went to buying this humongous mansion, but they had no money

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to furnish it. And so he and I had lots of talks about that,

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because we could have technically afforded to buy a

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bigger house. But did we want the payment did we want to have

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to try to furnish it like, for us that was not important.

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Because for us that did not define success. You have to

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define success in your own terms. What feels good to you.

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My grandfather told my mom when she was growing up, you'll

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always have a house payment, a car payment, just get used to

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it. Well, my mom decided there was no way she was going to have

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a house payment and a car payment the rest of her life.

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And my parents often had car loans. But my mom sent extra

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money every single month to get that car loan paid off because

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she didn't like having debt. That was her story. And that

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stuck with me. So getting my cars paid off, getting houses

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paid off. And that was important to me. It may not be important

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to you at all. At all. I had a friend who said, I'll have all

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the debt in the world, I don't really care because when I die,

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it's all going to be written off anyway. There's nobody to pay it

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at this point. So everybody has their own definition. You have

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to decide what success looks like for you. Is it a certain

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amount of money in the bank, a certain kinds of vacations,

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luxury lifestyle, being able to go live off the grid and live

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off the land? Okay, that's

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never going to be mine. Don't look for me out there. I don't

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even want to go vacationing that way. What does it look like for

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you? And people often are like, oh, yeah, I

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know what it is. Take a minute and write it down. Just bullet

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point it out. What would it look like? In business? What does

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success look like? I was on a call recently with the fabulous

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candy Mote sock and candy said, Okay, take a minute and write

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down. For instance, if your goal is to have 10 new clients, what

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would that look like? Well, I start writing it down and I'm

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all excited. Yeah, 10 new clients would be great. But how

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did I want those 10 new clients. Clients often buy like a package

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of six sessions with me. I love it and I love this work. But oh

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my gosh, if I had 10 new clients, and each one had three

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sessions a week, that is 30 hours a week of client work. And

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as much as I love it, I don't I don't know that I want to have

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that many clients in a week. Some people say, Oh, having a

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quiet call, it drains me. Oh, it doesn't drain me at all. It just

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completely hypes me up. But that's a lot of time to figure

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out how to schedule. And if you haven't already noticed, I

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travel quite a bit. I do not travel full time, like some of

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my friends, but I travel quite a bit. And I love it. And I want

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to keep doing it. So now I had to redefine what, what number of

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clients would I want? What would it look like for me? Some people

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will sign 10 new clients, but it's all in a group program.

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great joy, my group program 10 new clients in my weekly

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clearings? Yes, I'm all about that. But one on one clients,

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maybe not? What does it look like? What does it look like for

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me? What does it look like for you? I now know, I do not want

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10 new clients in a month that all want three sessions a week?

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That's just too much. Yeah, I don't want that. I know, I don't

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want that. Do I want those same 10 clients to join my weekly

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membership? Yeah, yeah, I would love them to join my weekly

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membership. What hasn't worked for me is following a lot of the

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traditional sales and program setup. And I couldn't understand

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it, I've paid a lot of money for coaches, and they're like, just

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do this, then this will happen. You might have heard me say that

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before. Just do this, then that will happen. And for me, it was

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not happening. And over the summer, I created a program, it

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sounded really great. I was really excitable about it. And

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then and then I realized, I don't really want to do that. So

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I'm really grateful God, the universe, whatever you want to

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call it, the stars did not align for me. And that did not work

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out the way I thought I wanted it to. But I had to try it. And

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then when it was not going how I thought it would go. It wasn't

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for me anyway. So what doesn't work for you? Are you beating

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your head against the wall in a grind trying to make things

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happen? And it's not going to happen? And I submit to you the

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possibility could be that you really don't want to do it. So

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that epiphany moment for me, I you know, I have them all time.

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But one major epiphany moment for me was the idea that I don't

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want an entirely JAM PACKED calendar all day, every day with

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our long client calls. It's a lot. And it's not that I don't

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have the energy for it, because I absolutely do. It's the

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freedom it takes away because success for me is having more

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freedom. What does look good for me and I've started doing is 15

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minute clearing sessions. Why people are busy, they don't want

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to go deep. They don't want to go deep as far as talking about

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it. They want to go deep as far as the healing. So now I've got

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these 15 minute Body Code sessions. I even created a video

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that people can watch so they know exactly what they're

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getting into if they're new to my world. But you hop on with

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your one thing. What if this one thing were different for you?

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How would it change your life? One client his one thing was

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allergies to cat because we were at a building event center where

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we all stayed. It was like a retreat center. And there had

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been cats in the room where he stay was staying. And he was

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highly allergic and his eyes are all red and a lot you know

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they're just dripping and tearing up. And we did a really

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quick Body Code session and cleared out that allergy. And

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that was eight nine months ago and I'm happy to report he's

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been around cats multiple times and he has not had any more

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allergic reaction. That's the kind of work I'd love to do.

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Let's do it quick. Let's do it fast. So let's get it out of

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here. I had a client recently and she said, I just I feel like

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I've let go of the past, like following all the steps, but

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there's still something hanging on. Can you help me? Yes. And

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using Body Code and Emotion Code work, we were able to identify

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several key things that were imbalanced in her body,

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physical, emotional spirit body that when I say body, like,

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that's it. It's like the trifecta there. Like Father,

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Son, Holy, ghost, physical, spiritual, emotional body. And

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we identified a couple of major things. And the next day, I

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texted her, and I was like, Hey, I'm just following up on you

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after yesterday. And she was like, Oh, my gosh, I feel so

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much better. I feel like a weight has been lifted. These

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are the kinds of things that happen. And I love it. I love

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it. I can do 315 minute sessions in an hour. And that includes

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time to run, get something to drink and go to the bathroom

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funny to write because I just need a short break in between

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that I can do that I really enjoy. So that epiphany came to

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me when I was really looking at what I want in my calendar to be

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what do I need want and desire success to look like for me. If

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you are ready to identify that one major thing, make that one

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major shift. Click the links in the show notes if you're

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listening to this on your phone, but because you're on your

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phone, you can click links on the show notes. Book a call

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let's talk about let's see how it can help you get rid of that

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one thing. Join the monthly membership and join our weekly

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clearing sessions where we identify and clear this stuff

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right out. Define what you want success to look like and then do

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it your own way. I'm Jennifer Akagi. And I look forward to

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connecting with you soon. Thank you for taking your time to

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spend with me on this latest podcast and destined for

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