Celebrate ALL the Wins BIG AND SMALL | DFS 320

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Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your

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host, Jennifer Takagi, and this week I want to talk about

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celebrating the wins, both big and small. Last week, our

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episode with Lainey love, she talked about celebration and how

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important that is. I was recently at an event with Brenda

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Burchard, and he talked about celebrating and actually taking

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time to let it ingrain, into your heart, into your body, into

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your soul. And we don't do that enough. So the first point I

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want to make is about confidence. I've heard people

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talk about self confidence, and I don't have self confidence.

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Well, the bottom line is, we all have self confidence. That's

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just kind of a cop out, in my opinion. What we're really

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saying is I don't know how to do that well, either I don't know

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how to do it at all, or I don't know how to do it well. And then

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we say, I don't have any confidence, or I don't have self

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confidence. It's only in that one thing. So having confidence

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is confidence is actually not knowing you'll be able to do it,

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like I don't know that I'm going to be able to do this, but

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knowing you will figure it out along the way. I can't remember

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who first said it, but it was the word. I think it's a made up

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word, actually, but you can go look it up. But it was figure

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out able. It's figure out able. I'm going to figure out how to

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do this when you know you can figure something out, whether

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it's by yourself, using one of the amazing search engines that

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are available at our little fingertips, using an amazing AI

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tool that can tell us amazing things, or collaborating with

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other people, you know, you can figure it out. There's a way.

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There's a path. You can do it. I recently was asked about a past

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trip my husband and I took to Italy, and it was amazing. We

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had a great time, and I have an amazing travel agent. Shout out

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to the concierge travel agent Amy. Woody and Amy created an

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entire PDF with clickable links. We had all of our information in

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one document, where we were going, our tickets, what time we

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needed to be there, how we needed to get there. It was all

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very clearly laid out, and that was great. So I shared with one

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friend so she could share with her friend my itinerary. I just

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sent it over, and I said, this may not be what she wants to do,

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but it'll at least give her an idea. And my friend came back

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with, yeah, that's great. What they really want to do is stay

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at nice hotels and go shopping. Perfect. I went to chat GPT,

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which is AI, if you're unfamiliar. I wasn't familiar

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till I was I went to AI and I typed in. I went to take a high

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end trip to Italy. And I want to shop at all the most amazing

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places. Where should I stay? Where should I go? Where should

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I shop, and what is it going to cost, literally, in seconds,

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chat, GPT came out with like, five cities in Italy. I think it

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was a couple of hotel or Airbnb options at each location and

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roughly how much they would cost. They did throw in they as

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in chat GPT. I'm making them plural, chat GPT. Dropped in

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also a couple of things to check out, like museums or other areas

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of interest, experiences you could do. And then listed

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several of the high end shopping areas or stores in that city,

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and it gave a grand total for each city and a grand total for

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the trip across Italy. I may not have the information, I may not

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know the information, but I'm completely confident that I can

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figure it out, and so can you. So my first challenge to you

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today is quit saying that you don't have confidence. You may

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not have confidence in doing it right this second, but you can

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gain it very easily as a little kid. If you've been listening to

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my podcast is the beginning. You've heard me share this story

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before, but I think it's so critical, and it just

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illustrates the point. I'm the youngest of four, and I did not

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know how to tell time, and everybody in the family did. My

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next sister is three years older. Everybody knew how to.

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Time, and they'd say, Jennifer, come on, we're leaving in 10

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minutes. Get ready. I didn't know what 10 minutes was. How

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many is 10 minutes? I didn't know that whole time thing of 10

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minutes. The other thing was, we're gonna leave at 10 o'clock.

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I didn't know what 10 o'clock was like. How am I gonna find 10

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o'clock. I couldn't tell time. I didn't know what time it was,

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and that just really bothered me, that I couldn't follow the

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conversation. I didn't know what time it was. I learned how to

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tell time in second grade. I got my first watch in second grade,

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and you will rarely find me without a watch on. I like to

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know what time it is, I can often guess the time pretty

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quickly. I'm a baker. I literally can be in the other

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room watching TV and think, hmm, I bet that cakes about ready,

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and I can get up and walk in the kitchen. I'm within two minutes

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of the timer going off, if not the timer going off as soon as I

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cross the threshold. So time matters to me, like I like to

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know what time it is when I'm feeling like I don't know how to

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do something. I can't do it. It's not figure out able, which

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it is figure out able. It's like I can tell time. And that brings

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me to the next point, list, five things you can do right now

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today, you do not have to compare it to anybody else and

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what their skill level is. What can you do today? I had somebody

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tell me recently, I can't cook. Come to find out, they could

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cook, they just had never looked at a recipe. You look at a

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recipe, you follow it exactly the first time. You look up any

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words you don't understand, and before you know it, you're

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cooking. I love some of the videos on Facebook. On the

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cooking videos, this one guy said you're supposed to fold

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this in. I don't know what it means. I'm just going to stir it

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in. And I thought to myself, That's pretty hilarious, because

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folding makes a difference. It keeps things light and airy. And

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there are multiple techniques for folding. And I thought, if I

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were to open a recipe right now, open it, as in, opening it up

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online, if I were going to open up a recipe, and I didn't know

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what that technique was, I would do a search. I would find a

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video. YouTube is my friend, but list five things you can do

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right now. What can I do right now? I can plug in this

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microphone, and I can hit record. I can do that. I can sit

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down and I can write a blog, I can make 10 statements of

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something that I believe is true, and I can put it out to

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the universe I believe these things are true. That started me

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on my journey to write and publish my first book. I never

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thought I could write a book, and I did, and it went on Amazon

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and it was a best seller in several categories, address the

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stress, tips and tricks to lead to success. That was my first

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book. I didn't know I could write a book. The book started

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out as a blog, and when the woman said, Write a blog, I said

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to myself, because I was sitting by myself in my office, I don't

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know what a blog is. And she was like, a blog is where you write

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something out and you post it on your website. Oh, okay. Her

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instructions were list 10 things that you know are true about

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whatever topic you like. And I was like, okay, stress, 10

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things that will reduce your stress. Okay, I made my list of

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10. The next step was fill out each of those 10 by typing up an

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entire page about that to support it. Your experiences,

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any research that you found, whatever it is. Okay, great. Got

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to the end of that, and she said, now go on Fiverr, f, i, v,

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e, r, r.com, or Canva, C, A, N, V, a.com, and create a cover.

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Okay, I did, and then she came back with now, save this as a

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PDF, upload it to your website. This is your lead magnet to get

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people's email addresses. You're giving them an ebook. Wow,

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that's cool. So I'm talking to another woman in the program,

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and she goes, upload it to Amazon. And I said, I can't. And

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she said, Why can't you? I said, because I haven't written a

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book. And she goes, You did just write a book. And I went, what

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she was, yeah, you just wrote a book, upload it to Amazon. I

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said, Well, I

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can't, because I don't know how. And she goes, Great, I will help

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you. I now have had six best selling books on Amazon. I

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couldn't do it when I started, but it was figure out, able. I

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found the person. Person who can help me. I followed the

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instructions by the business coach on what to do, and then I

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reached out to some friends, and I got even more guidance, and

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voila, here we are, all these years later. So your confidence

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comes from knowing that you can figure it out. What five things

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can you already do now, when you have those moments of I can't do

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it. I don't know how. I challenge you to look back at

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that list, and then you can tell yourself, I can figure this out

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and say it with sincerity and power behind it. I can figure

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this out, and you will. The third point I want to make today

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is you can grow or you can die. And healthy people have a

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choice, and they know they have a choice, and that's healthy,

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mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It's like the whole

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and physically. Did I say that one? I don't know. It's the

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whole gamut. It's your whole being. There is a book titled

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younger next year, younger next year. And this gentleman in his

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70s goes to a an internist in his 40s, and they start talking

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about the aging process and what to do. So the book is super fun.

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I bought the Kindle version and then upgraded and got the audio

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book, so I have it in two different versions. No, I don't

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get paid for promoting this, but it's a great book. But that

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older gentleman talks about how he went to a spin class and he

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could barely sit on the bike the whole time. In a matter of

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months, he was like killing it on the spin bike in the spin

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class. People 30 years younger than he was, 40 years younger

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than he was, were completely enamored by the fact that he

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could crush it on the spin cycle. Then the physician popped

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in and said, every cell in your body is either growing or

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decaying. The more things you do to reinvigorate yourself,

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reinvigorate your body, the more your body will grow, the more it

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can do. So you literally can be younger next year by being

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healthier, making healthier choices, but you do that by

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celebrating every little win. Do you have to celebrate that you

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went and did spin class five times a week, every day for five

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weeks, you can but what if you just celebrated the fact that

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you went to one class this week? Celebrate it. Celebrate it big.

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Celebrate it hard. Be so proud of yourself that you did it, and

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it will be easier to go tomorrow, and it will be easier

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to go the next day and the next day, if we dismiss all the great

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things that we do, it's really hard to grow. I did something

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recently and somebody goes, Oh, my God, Jennifer, that was

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great. And I said, thanks. And I just moved on. And they were

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like, no, wait, that was really important. Take a minute and

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celebrate it. So when you do something, it doesn't have to be

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big, it doesn't have to be grand, but if you do something

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and you think very quickly, I'm happy I got that done. Celebrate

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it. I love the phrase that I learned from Jenny Trask and

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Kimberly Crowe. I think Cheryl stilt started it just to name

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all the peeps, and it was, let me breathe that in. So breathe

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in your wins. Breathe in your celebrations, whether they are

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big or whether they are small, breathe them in. Celebrate life.

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Celebrate all great things big and small. I'm Jennifer Takagi

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with destin for success, and I look forward to connecting with

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you soon. You.