Episode 326
Power Influence Purpose: 10 Questions to Define Your Legacy with Stu Morris | DFS 326
Get all the inside secrets and tools you need to help you develop your intuitive and leadership skills so you are on the path to the highest level of success with ease. Stu Morris dives into neuroplasticity and how to remember!
In this episode you will learn:
- Eliminate or reduce slowdown
- Stop cognitive decline
- Leadership over 50 and keep them sharp - longer
Who is Stu Morris?
My keynotes deliver neuroscience-based strategies to overcome fear and failure, optimize well-being, and unlock potential. With 30 years of entrepreneurial success, ER experience , and cognitive consulting, I provide actionable engagement to address productivity, adversity, and stress. I tailor solutions and resources, including my books and online courses. From understanding "How to Work Your Brain" to mastering "The Autonomic Nature of Habits," I empower individuals and organizations to thrive.
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Transcript
Computer. Welcome to Destin for success.
Jennifer Takagi:I'm your host, Jennifer Takagi, and I am thrilled to bring with
Jennifer Takagi:you, or to you today, a guest, Stu Morris, and Stu is going to
Jennifer Takagi:talk about his book, power, influence, purpose, 10 questions
Jennifer Takagi:to define your legacy. Right up our ally, Stu, I'm so happy to
Jennifer Takagi:have you here today. Well,
Stu Morris:thanks very much. Jennifer, it's a pleasure to be
Stu Morris:here. Thanks for having me.
Jennifer Takagi:Well, tell me, how do you show up in the world?
Jennifer Takagi:Where are you from? Who do you help? Like all the questions
Jennifer Takagi:that I have, I'll just turn it over to you. Oh, wow,
Stu Morris:should have married you. I always tease her. 33
Stu Morris:years later, she she's used to me teasing her a little bit. So
Stu Morris:I show up in the world. I've
Jennifer Takagi:been married 32 so we're like in line yet again,
Jennifer Takagi:we
Stu Morris:are. We're kindred spirits. Stick with what you
Stu Morris:know. Yes,
Jennifer Takagi:exactly. I married up.
Stu Morris:So that's super helpful. Well, Jennifer, have
Stu Morris:you ever walked into a room and forgot what you were looking
Stu Morris:for, forgot why you walked in there? Yes, yep, that's what we
Stu Morris:fix. We I speak on neuroplasticity, and we teach
Stu Morris:you how to remember, maybe a little more thorough than that,
Stu Morris:but that's what we do. We we teach and train and have
Stu Morris:techniques and strategies for using neuroplasticity to well,
Stu Morris:we kind of, we kind of do 222, things. First of all, our, our,
Stu Morris:our big push is how to either eliminate or and reduce, slow
Stu Morris:down and stop cognitive decline. That's a big focus of ours. And
Stu Morris:then the other thing is just helping either entrepreneurs,
Stu Morris:business leaders, or companies that have people leadership
Stu Morris:that's over 51 and how to keep them neuro plastic, how to keep
Stu Morris:them plastic, and how to keep them sharp and on the top of
Stu Morris:their game. And so that's those are kind of our two we want to
Stu Morris:slow down cognitive decline, or we want to help you stay sharp.
Stu Morris:Sharp in business tends, tends to be the Lean there, but you
Stu Morris:can stay sharp and whatever. If you're a gardener and you want
Stu Morris:to be a better gardener, or if you're surfer, God bless you,
Stu Morris:then you can be the sharper surfer. You can be a smarter
Stu Morris:surfer. About it, and it is every day there's new
Stu Morris:discoveries and new technologies, and then the field
Stu Morris:of neuroscience is just absolutely amazing today.
Stu Morris:Jennifer, I can show you. I can show you yourself thinking, I
Stu Morris:can show you on a computer monitor fear or love. We can we
Stu Morris:can place an electrode on your brain and you can relive, I'm
Stu Morris:not talking about remembering, I'm talking about reliving your
Stu Morris:third birthday, the smell of the candles, the taste of the cake,
Stu Morris:the laughter of the children, what you were wearing, you know,
Stu Morris:if it was bright or dark, or every sensory input that you
Stu Morris:have. We can you remember. You remember everything. Your
Stu Morris:problem is not memory. Your problem is recall. Your your
Stu Morris:recall is not there. And if you can increase and expand your
Stu Morris:neuroplasticity and improve that, you can improve your
Stu Morris:recall and sort of, kind of like AI, you know, we can all
Stu Morris:aggregate information on the internet. It just takes a long
Stu Morris:time. My research used to take me, you know, months to do what
Stu Morris:I can do in, you know, six hours using AI and stuff like that,
Stu Morris:just because they've aggregated all that information. And so
Stu Morris:it's easier to get to and that's what neuroplasticity improving
Stu Morris:your neuroplasticity, does it just, it gets that information
Stu Morris:that kind of the tip your tongue or the tip your fingers there.
Stu Morris:So,
Jennifer Takagi:yeah, oh my gosh. Well, I'm just gonna, I'll
Jennifer Takagi:just let you in on one little secret, and that is, I have an
Jennifer Takagi:excellent memory and excellent recall, and my friends hate me,
Jennifer Takagi:hate me, but I have one friend her, her kids are mostly grown,
Jennifer Takagi:but they'll say, Mom, what about blah, blah, blah, and she'll go,
Jennifer Takagi:Jennifer was there? Just go ask her. She'll know, right? And so,
Jennifer Takagi:like, it's a blessing and a curse on all wrapped up
Jennifer Takagi:together.
Stu Morris:It is, it is a curse. And I'm, I probably don't
Stu Morris:quite have the memory you do, Jennifer, but I have a that kind
Stu Morris:of similar problem. I remember, and it actually became a bit of
Stu Morris:a problem with me, like I wanted to forget. You know, I'm tired
Stu Morris:of reliving this stuff sometimes, and so. And that's
Stu Morris:it's, you know, what's really great about that, though, is
Stu Morris:that if you don't have a great memory, we know that with
Stu Morris:through neuroscience, that we can improve that recall, either
Stu Morris:by repetition, that's a that's a good way of doing that's how
Stu Morris:your habits are formed. But also anytime you're in a highly
Stu Morris:emotional state, and something unique happens then that that
Stu Morris:can anchor that neural pathway. And instead of, if you think
Stu Morris:about it like a grassy field that you walk through, and if
Stu Morris:you walk through a grassy field, you turn around looking you
Stu Morris:could, you can kind of see where you've knocked down the grass a
Stu Morris:little bit, and you've created just a little bit of a path. But
Stu Morris:it with, if you're highly emotional charge, say, like a
Stu Morris:football team getting ready for a game, and they get all hyped
Stu Morris:up, or getting ready for a podcast, and you got to put your
Stu Morris:game face on, or something like that. So if you put yourself in
Stu Morris:an highly emotional state, you can make that little path that
Stu Morris:you've just walked through the grassy area you make like a semi
Stu Morris:truck ran through it, and you can create very strong neural
Stu Morris:pathways very quickly. And it has well, in a lot of ways, it's
Stu Morris:it's changing the world. It's changing the way people are
Stu Morris:thinking and operating well.
Jennifer Takagi:And it's so good because I, I have a couple
Jennifer Takagi:questions in on all of that. But one thing that I have seen being
Jennifer Takagi:around people aging. My parents were really pretty young when
Jennifer Takagi:they died, 73 and 75 so that's fairly young in my book. But
Jennifer Takagi:like I've seen other people, as they age, that whole memory and
Jennifer Takagi:recall goes down, and the less active there are, they become,
Jennifer Takagi:and the less active they are, the less the recall is there. So
Jennifer Takagi:do you have any tips or suggestions you can share with
Jennifer Takagi:the audience on how to boost that and get it like, triggered,
Jennifer Takagi:charged back up?
Stu Morris:Yeah, yeah. We do, um, that's an excellent
Stu Morris:question. And not only do, do we have some research on it, but we
Stu Morris:have, like, a tremendous amount of research in many different
Stu Morris:directions that we can kind of correlate together or aggregate
Stu Morris:it together and really extrapolate some some
Stu Morris:exceptional results from it. So for instance, have you ever
Stu Morris:bought a new car, or even a used car, but new to you, right? And
Stu Morris:you're driving at home, and you see that thing everywhere. I
Stu Morris:mean, I just bought a yellow Volkswagen bug, and everywhere I
Stu Morris:go, I see yellow Volkswagen bugs. They weren't there
Stu Morris:yesterday, but now I see them everywhere, yeah, and the truth
Stu Morris:is, we did. They were there yesterday, but in your, in your
Stu Morris:in your brain, you have the reticular activating system, and
Stu Morris:the the RAF, or the RAS, is, is it's what decides what you focus
Stu Morris:on and what's important to you. So your brain is really a
Stu Morris:deletion machine. If it wasn't, we'd be more autistic, really,
Stu Morris:because in autism that you you just, you can't sort and delete
Stu Morris:all the information coming in through your five senses, and so
Stu Morris:that's where the disability comes in. But your RAF says,
Stu Morris:Well, Jennifer, you just bought this yellow Volkswagen bug, and
Stu Morris:now it's important to you. And so we're gonna, we're gonna find
Stu Morris:that. We're going to focus on that. And what you focus on, you
Stu Morris:tend to build certainty around. And what you certain about is
Stu Morris:what you believe. And once you believe something, you'll take
Stu Morris:action on it, right? So if that chair is not going to hold you
Stu Morris:up, if it's an old, rickety chair has been sitting outside
Stu Morris:for 25 years, you're like, I don't think I'm going to sit in
Stu Morris:that one, right? Because you don't believe is going to hold
Stu Morris:you up. But if it's a chair you've sat in 100 times, and you
Stu Morris:have a reinforced belief, you jump in it, right? I got a big
Stu Morris:fluffy chair in the front room, and if the dog's not in it, I
Stu Morris:just, I just dive right into that thing. And so once you
Stu Morris:believe something, you'll take action on it. And those actions
Stu Morris:either rep repeated or those actions that are reinforced with
Stu Morris:a highly emotionally charged state, those become habits. And
Stu Morris:those habits, those habits, the sum total of those habits, is
Stu Morris:your destiny. So when you're creating a legacy, we kind of
Stu Morris:tend to look at the end of our life or our destination, or
Stu Morris:destiny is like, what legacy did we create? But in actuality,
Stu Morris:legacy is built every day, little by little, by the small
Stu Morris:choices you make and the decisions you make that lead you
Stu Morris:to those habits that create your destiny or create your legacy.
Stu Morris:Everyone's going to have a legacy, right? And we're all
Stu Morris:going to have a legacy. Is yours going to be a legacy of impact?
Stu Morris:And so we just kind of walk through in the book, we walk
Stu Morris:through kind of the eight things that that really create a legacy
Stu Morris:of impact, and not just tell you about them, but we show you a
Stu Morris:step by step of how the process of how to get those and it's
Stu Morris:nice to read about it. There's a lot in for. Information on it.
Stu Morris:And it can be, it can be a little difficult. So we created
Stu Morris:this, you know, 10 steps to improve your neuroplasticity, of
Stu Morris:course. And you know, we've been selling it for $249 for forever,
Stu Morris:kind of a thing. And we decided that it's great to have the book
Stu Morris:and have that information in there, but you kind of need to
Stu Morris:be walked through it. And so we're just giving away the
Stu Morris:corks. You buy the book for 25 bucks, or 2499 and you get the
Stu Morris:$250 course in the book for free. And you get me Poor
Stu Morris:things. You get me eating, yeah, about neuroplasticity.
Jennifer Takagi:You buy the book, and you're giving away the
Jennifer Takagi:course, genius, I love it. So where do we get your book? And,
Jennifer Takagi:okay, like, redo the title. How did you come to decide to write
Jennifer Takagi:it, and where do we get it? Like this basic, Oh, thanks.
Stu Morris:Well, okay, so power influence purpose. And the power
Stu Morris:influence purpose is it's really the it's the 10 essentials, the
Stu Morris:10 neuroplasticity essentials to architect, a legacy of impact.
Stu Morris:And architect, we chose that word very carefully, because
Stu Morris:you're not just building something. An architect designs
Stu Morris:it. He thinks about it, first he comes up with the ideas, and
Stu Morris:then an architect, she is also the project manager. Many times
Stu Morris:the architect is and and then is the final say on, you know, is
Stu Morris:this completed, or is it done? And if there's something to be
Stu Morris:changed, or the building inspector comes out, yeah, I
Stu Morris:gotta call the architect, right? So we chose that word really
Stu Morris:carefully, because it's the full it's not just creating or
Stu Morris:building a new memory around something, but it's really
Stu Morris:architecting a life that will have impact and that will live
Stu Morris:past you. And that's, that's kind of nice. I mean, I'm, I'm
Stu Morris:I'm over 50 I'm over 51 I'm over 50 one.com and so at over 50
Stu Morris:one.com, that's what we talk about, being over 51 and and
Stu Morris:being able to to create that legacy of impact that is going
Stu Morris:to live past you. And that's, that's I love, that you know,
Stu Morris:we're all our kids and our grandkids and our great
Stu Morris:grandkids, can, can, be impacted by that, and then the world at
Stu Morris:large can also as long as you as long as you build that. So
Stu Morris:that's what we're doing in the book, power influence purpose.
Stu Morris:And it's really kind of it's the 10 neuro neuro plasticity
Stu Morris:essentials to architect a legacy of impact. And in there we 10
Stu Morris:chapters, and we take you through the lives of 10
Stu Morris:extraordinary people we have so one of the first chapters, the
Stu Morris:first two chapters, is overcoming fear and eliminating
Stu Morris:failure. Now you can't eliminate fear because it's hardwired into
Stu Morris:our system. It's fight or flight. It's your amygdala
Stu Morris:saying I gotta get out of here. There's a fire, or there's a
Stu Morris:saber tooth lion or something like that, right? That's great
Stu Morris:when we were living in caves, and it was great for kept us
Stu Morris:alive. I'm here because somebody ran right,
Jennifer Takagi:that tiger, right?
Stu Morris:So the but now a lot of times our fears are are
Stu Morris:unfounded. Our amygdala says, oh, you know, don't be afraid.
Stu Morris:You know, what will people think? And it's like now, it's,
Stu Morris:it's just not, you know, it's not a life or death kind of a
Stu Morris:thing. And so we, we put that in perspective. And then if you can
Stu Morris:overcome, you can, you can overcome fear, and you actually
Stu Morris:use it as a as a compelling force in your life, but you can
Stu Morris:eliminate failure, because failure is a learned process.
Stu Morris:We've studied, we've studied a neuroscientists have studied,
Stu Morris:I'm a farm kid from a town of 800 people. I live on the
Stu Morris:California coast, and they surf, I mean, so just to keep things
Stu Morris:in perspective, neuroscientists have found that the an average
Stu Morris:18 month old learning to walk, will fall down about 2737 times
Stu Morris:a day. So 1000 times, 1000 times a month. And they never are
Stu Morris:like, oh gosh, I'm a failure. And you know what, moms and
Stu Morris:dads, they never say, Well, I guess my kid won't walk. Oh,
Stu Morris:well, he fell down, right? Nobody does that with a kid. You
Stu Morris:learn failure. You learn what people think and and how they
Stu Morris:treat you and how they act around you if you don't live up
Stu Morris:to those expectations. And so we can overcome failure completely.
Stu Morris:And if you can, if you can overcome fear and eliminate
Stu Morris:failure, you're about 80% of the way there. And whatever it is
Stu Morris:you want to do, you're most of the way there, and then we take
Stu Morris:you through so shell cleave. For instance, she started sea hugger
Stu Morris:sea huggers taken 1000s metric tons of plastic out of the
Stu Morris:ocean. I mean, just a tremendous thing. She was a highly. Sought
Stu Morris:after a well paid executive in Silicon Valley, and she left it
Stu Morris:all and stepped out in faith and just, just decided to overcome
Stu Morris:fear. Then she got breast cancer, and she was very public
Stu Morris:about it, and was talked about on Facebook, and just what she
Stu Morris:was going through, and just reading her story and learning
Stu Morris:about her, she's she lives here on the coast with us, and it's
Stu Morris:just it almost scares you, you know, just to think, Wow, I
Stu Morris:can't believe you went through that. And so shell cleave has
Stu Morris:been so kind to help us in the narrative for overcoming fear.
Stu Morris:And then we have a Guinness Book of World Record holder who
Stu Morris:paddle boarded across the Atlantic Ocean, right? The
Stu Morris:flight for that is like 37 hours, and he paddle boarded it
Stu Morris:over 93 days without help, without chips coming in and
Stu Morris:giving him resources or anything like that. And, oh, just
Stu Morris:overcame. And so if you're going to paddleboard across the
Stu Morris:Atlantic Ocean, you better know where you're going. And so our
Stu Morris:chapter on Destiny or your destination life, as Chris
Stu Morris:burdish, has been so kind to kind of be our our theme of our
Stu Morris:narrative for that chapter, and that's what we've done
Stu Morris:throughout the entire book. Brian and gab Bucha, I mean,
Stu Morris:they own the purpose company. They have a million followers,
Stu Morris:and they train companies on how to have a purpose driven
Stu Morris:employee, and how to get the most out of your life, and what
Stu Morris:purpose will do, and how that can help others. And they so
Stu Morris:they took the final chapter on on purpose. And so we've, we've
Stu Morris:really, you know, like I said, I'm, I'm a farm kid who lives on
Stu Morris:the coast, but we've been unable to get some, just some really
Stu Morris:exceptional folks, a business consultant that consulted with
Stu Morris:the governor of California. Now, California is the fifth largest
Stu Morris:economy in the world, and he was the business consultant, the
Stu Morris:Harvard grad, and he lectures at Stanford. And so we got, we got
Stu Morris:these, these folks that, you know, trying to find someone
Stu Morris:smarter than me. That's not a real high bar. And so I love to
Stu Morris:read, and I read a lot, and I write a lot, and, you know,
Stu Morris:between my newsletters and my books and everything, but I got,
Stu Morris:I there's, there's folks that focus in and specialize on those
Stu Morris:things, we've really been very blessed to be able to have them
Stu Morris:come in and share their experiences, and so people can
Stu Morris:see how that works in someone else's life, and Use those ideas
Stu Morris:and and use that to to, you know, do what they want to do,
Stu Morris:right to to produce the results that they want to produce. And
Stu Morris:that was great. You learn a lot, but it's so much easier just to
Stu Morris:have someone to hold you by the hand and say, Okay, now, what
Stu Morris:are your goals and what do you want to do? And then take you
Stu Morris:through the process, step by step by step, and then that's
Stu Morris:what we did in the course. And I thought, what's the point buying
Stu Morris:the book if you can't utilize it? And the course has been
Stu Morris:great for us, and we've been blessed in other ways. And so we
Stu Morris:just decided we're not going to sell it anymore. We're just
Stu Morris:going to give it away as part of the book. This is
Jennifer Takagi:just so magical, but my so now, my
Jennifer Takagi:question is, I love all of this, and you're right up my alley. I
Jennifer Takagi:was at a conference one time, and one of the speakers said, I
Jennifer Takagi:want to impact, I don't know how many people, maybe it was 10
Jennifer Takagi:million or something. And I thought, Oh my gosh. Like, how
Jennifer Takagi:do you impact 10 me? Like my brain, just like, exploded.
Jennifer Takagi:Like, I don't even know how to make this happen. And he said,
Jennifer Takagi:If I impact one person and they, they're learning from me,
Jennifer Takagi:impacts 10 and 10 and 10. And then he did the math, and I was
Jennifer Takagi:like, Okay, I get it. So now the word impact has much more
Jennifer Takagi:meaning for me, because, like, I can see it like it makes sense,
Jennifer Takagi:and I love all that you're doing and how you put this together.
Jennifer Takagi:But my question is, like, what is your background that you
Jennifer Takagi:ended up getting so involved in neuroplasticity and
Jennifer Takagi:neuroscience? Because it's a big thing. Like, I love studying it,
Jennifer Takagi:not at all to the degree you have, but it's so fascinating to
Jennifer Takagi:me. Like, how did you get here?
Stu Morris:Well, I lucked out. That's for sure. That's for
Stu Morris:sure. Jennifer, so and I'll keep this short, I promise, because I
Stu Morris:can only tell people like, Oh, really, you're gonna go back to
Stu Morris:when you were five, very quickly, when I was five years
Stu Morris:old, my Nana moved from London to the United States to live
Stu Morris:with us in our in our family, and my mom took me by the hand.
Stu Morris:It was big deal, I mean, walked me into her bedroom, sat me down
Stu Morris:on the bed, and said, I need your help taking care of a Nana.
Stu Morris:And I thought, at five years old, okay, I can take care of
Stu Morris:Nana. You know? I thought that was my job. And in reality, I
Stu Morris:was a little kid, and Nana was my babysitter. But way more than
Stu Morris:a babysitter, Nana was just this exceptional individual. She was
Stu Morris:a nurse. She was the head nurse on a hospital ship. She traveled
Stu Morris:the world nine times. She spoke five languages, read, write, and
Stu Morris:could speak five languages, plus Latin. I don't know why she
Stu Morris:didn't. Include Latin in the languages she spoke, but she's
Stu Morris:just super sharp, and just an amazing, amazing woman. And we
Stu Morris:would go on these long walks. We had the Taha creek ran through
Stu Morris:our little town of 800 people, and we would go for walks up and
Stu Morris:down the creek for hours. I mean, that's what we just that's
Stu Morris:kind of what we did. There's nothing to do. And a little town
Stu Morris:of 800 folks, and so we go on these walks, and she would talk
Stu Morris:and talk, and she she came to the understanding that you
Stu Morris:Americans, you yanks, didn't know how to think that nobody
Stu Morris:taught you how to ask yourself good questions, empowering
Stu Morris:questions, well formed questions, that will bring an
Stu Morris:outcome that you're looking for, instead of, Oh, why does this
Stu Morris:always happen to me? Or, why am I so stupid? Or just
Stu Morris:disempowering questions, because your brain will answer it,
Stu Morris:right? I mean, if you ask, Why? Why? Why am I so dumb? You're,
Stu Morris:you're, you're an income poop. I mean, your brain will come up
Stu Morris:with an answer. That's what it does. And so if you ask yourself
Stu Morris:empowering questions, and you're patient, and you continue to ask
Stu Morris:good questions and the same question, and you focus on it,
Stu Morris:and you think about it, and you meditate about on it, you will
Stu Morris:get an answer. And it's amazing what your brain comes up with,
Stu Morris:because it's like that AI, it doesn't forget anything. And you
Stu Morris:give it enough time and focus and and you bring your reticular
Stu Morris:activating system in there by continuing to focus on it, and
Stu Morris:your brain can pick all that information out your Raf,
Stu Morris:rather, I guess, could pick all that information out of your
Stu Morris:brain and come up with a solution for you. So that was a
Stu Morris:big thing. Is my Nana, when I was very young, taught me how to
Stu Morris:think, taught me how to ask myself good questions. And so I
Stu Morris:didn't know it was that big of a deal at the time. And then my
Stu Morris:and when I was 10, my dad passed away, and if suddenly he was 42
Stu Morris:years old, we were, my mom was an immigrant from Great Britain
Stu Morris:after the war. And we, we were poor. I mean, we were Po, we
Stu Morris:couldn't afford the O and the R. We were really we were broke,
Stu Morris:and that that just was a huge impact in my life. My my father
Stu Morris:passing away. But right after that, maybe a month or two after
Stu Morris:that, my my Nana started, she started having problems with her
Stu Morris:memory and and was just throttled by dementia like
Stu Morris:dismantled by it very quickly, over a course of just a few
Stu Morris:months. And this lady who could speak all these languages and
Stu Morris:tell stories, a storyteller, she was brilliant at it. She had
Stu Morris:this just fabulous British accent, and she everybody loved
Stu Morris:her. She was just urbane and sophisticated, and she just
Stu Morris:gone, and I was in charge of her. I was 10 by then, but I was
Stu Morris:in charge in Anna, and so I became her primary caregiver. So
Stu Morris:I started taking care of folks with dementia. Early on in life,
Stu Morris:I went to college, right? I got a degree in business and minor
Stu Morris:in human resources, and my freshman year, I became an EMT,
Stu Morris:and that led to working in emergency services, and I ended
Stu Morris:up working the hospital for 22 years. And at the same time, I
Stu Morris:started memory care facilities and dementia care facilities,
Stu Morris:because I had that passion from when I was a kid. And in helping
Stu Morris:those folks, not a lot of, not a lot we can do. There's some
Stu Morris:things, but there's not a lot of definitely, there's not a cure
Stu Morris:for dementia, right? But where I found I could make a large
Stu Morris:impact was on the families. I could take really good care of
Stu Morris:the people with dementia, but I really had some resources and
Stu Morris:some strategic for helping families through that whole
Stu Morris:thing, and we could kind of relate your neuroplasticity to
Stu Morris:the cognitive decline that was going on, you know, in your
Stu Morris:loved ones brain. And so we it just kind of blossomed from
Stu Morris:that. I've helped 1000s of families with with going through
Stu Morris:dementia, and I've seen I worked in the emergency department. For
Stu Morris:22 years, I've seen 1000s upon 1000s of people in the most
Stu Morris:incredibly stressful and overwhelming times of their
Stu Morris:lives, and some of them just bounce back and are just really
Stu Morris:resilient with it, and some of them just crash and burn, and
Stu Morris:there's not a lot of difference between them, except they're
Stu Morris:thinking, and that's what that's what neuroplasticity is. Your
Stu Morris:neuroplasticity is that that neural pathway, and that's,
Stu Morris:that's you thinking, you think one thing one time, and it's a
Stu Morris:little tiny path, maybe the size of a thread, and it's easily
Stu Morris:broken, and it's easily it's hard to see through the weeds,
Stu Morris:but you take that same thread, and you keep going back and
Stu Morris:forth and back and forth and back and forth, and pretty soon
Stu Morris:you have a steel cable that can cross the Golden Gate Bridge,
Stu Morris:right? And so we have just kind of moved that. That's kind of
Stu Morris:the progression of where, where I started and and what gave me
Stu Morris:the the Inkling and the passion to do that, and really kind of
Stu Morris:have built my purpose around that. So that's how we got here.
Stu Morris:Oh
Jennifer Takagi:my gosh, that's so beautiful. My. Um, mother in
Jennifer Takagi:law had dementia, and when it first started surfacing, I was
Jennifer Takagi:the newest one to the family, and, like, I could see things
Jennifer Takagi:that I got pushed back from everybody else that, you know,
Jennifer Takagi:that's kind of not happening. And unfortunately, I was right,
Jennifer Takagi:and we really struggled with she passed away in 2006 but we
Jennifer Takagi:struggled getting any type of support or help. And, you know,
Jennifer Takagi:she had a minor stroke and went to therapy, physical therapy,
Jennifer Takagi:and they just immediately said, Oh, you're great. You can walk.
Jennifer Takagi:And it was like, of course she can walk like it didn't. I say,
Jennifer Takagi:of course, my mother had a stroke and she couldn't walk.
Jennifer Takagi:But yes, she can walk, but that doesn't mean that everything's
Jennifer Takagi:clicking up there like she shouldn't be home alone, and it
Jennifer Takagi:was a really hard process. So it's amazing and wonderful that
Jennifer Takagi:there are, you know, people like you who create the build the
Jennifer Takagi:facilities and the care that they need, but also helping with
Jennifer Takagi:the family members, because it does take just such a toll.
Stu Morris:Well, you know, Jennifer, it sounds like we've
Stu Morris:kind of chewed some of the same mud going up that hill, for
Stu Morris:sure, and it's a tough place to be. And that was one of the
Stu Morris:first, you know, I've written 12 books, but one of the first ones
Stu Morris:that was published was dementia caregiver mistakes. And it's
Stu Morris:just, you know, the 10 or 15 mistakes that caregivers make
Stu Morris:that really, we can fix. And that's, you know, you all go on
Stu Morris:Amazon and buy it if you want. But I tell you what for your
Stu Morris:listeners. And since we kind of have this, this similar pass and
Stu Morris:with loved ones with dementia, if we'll just, we can email you
Stu Morris:that book. Let's email you the PDF format of that book. And if
Stu Morris:any of your listeners want it and they're struggling with
Stu Morris:dementia, we can nip that right in the bud right now. We'll
Stu Morris:just, we'll get that book for free. Oh my gosh, that's
Jennifer Takagi:that's just lovely. And I love this. So
Jennifer Takagi:everybody, we will have it in the show notes, um, how to get
Jennifer Takagi:the book power, influence and purpose. So you don't even have
Jennifer Takagi:to leave your device. Just go, scroll down to the show notes
Jennifer Takagi:and click the button, and it'll connect you so that you can get
Jennifer Takagi:the book power, influence and purpose. And you know, there's,
Jennifer Takagi:there's so much that we we have power over and we often pretend
Jennifer Takagi:we don't like I have no control and influence. We're influencing
Jennifer Takagi:people every day in so many ways we don't even know. It's always
Jennifer Takagi:fun to have somebody that I know casually say I listen to your
Jennifer Takagi:podcast all the time. And I'm like, wait, what you even know I
Jennifer Takagi:have a podcast. But again, people don't like, they don't
Jennifer Takagi:subscribe. Please like, please subscribe. Please share with
Jennifer Takagi:your friends all the things. But you don't, you don't always have
Jennifer Takagi:the interaction through a podcast that you might in other
Jennifer Takagi:areas. So you don't know the influence you have. But I'm just
Jennifer Takagi:here to say we all have an immense amount of influence, and
Jennifer Takagi:then that purpose, like, Why do you get up in the morning? Why?
Jennifer Takagi:How do you want to show up in the world? Why do you get up it
Jennifer Takagi:like it's creating that impact and and helping those lives? Do
Jennifer Takagi:it better. Yeah, do it better in this go around. Oh my gosh,
Jennifer Takagi:dude, this has been awesome. I appreciate this so much. So
Jennifer Takagi:let's just, you know, put the word out there. Sell bunches of
Jennifer Takagi:books, buy the book, get the course, create your own desk.
Jennifer Takagi:Have you? Have you read the book younger next year?
Stu Morris:No, I haven't. I've heard about it, but I have not
Stu Morris:read that, and that's right up my alley, and I've I've got a
Stu Morris:library, I gotta tell you, I kind of get in trouble because I
Stu Morris:got a whole wall full of books, and then stacks of books around
Stu Morris:the house, and Julie gets on me every going. So I like cleaning
Stu Morris:the books up.
Jennifer Takagi:I'm a big audio book person, but I do have books
Jennifer Takagi:also, but towards the beginning of that book, I was listening to
Jennifer Takagi:the audiobook, and he said something, and I was like, I
Jennifer Takagi:don't know what that meant. And I had to back it up. Like, what
Jennifer Takagi:did he say? And I'm not going to get the quote exactly right, but
Jennifer Takagi:go with me. It was something like, I'm not going to get to
Jennifer Takagi:the end of my life slowly going down that hill, I'm falling off
Jennifer Takagi:the cliff. I was like, I don't understand. I mean, like it, it
Jennifer Takagi:just it came so foreign to me. I was like, Wait, I don't
Jennifer Takagi:understand. And then finally it hit me, I'm not going to just
Jennifer Takagi:sit down and wait to die. I'm going to be living life up until
Jennifer Takagi:the last minute when I just fall off the cliff and go. And it was
Jennifer Takagi:like, yeah, that's how I want to go. And I want to go with my
Jennifer Takagi:brain intact. I want to have this memory. I want to be, you
Jennifer Takagi:know, 105 and people going, go ask aunt Jennifer, she
Jennifer Takagi:remembers, like she knows who was there. Like, I want to be
Jennifer Takagi:that person. So I love this. Thank you. For all the
Jennifer Takagi:information, can you give us one thing that we can actually do to
Jennifer Takagi:improve our memory right now? Like, is there one technique I
Jennifer Takagi:can start practicing to get even better? Yes,
Stu Morris:absolutely. If you don't mind, I'll just try to
Stu Morris:maybe give you two or three real quick ones. So we we use our
Stu Morris:devices a lot, right? And we really found that there's more
Stu Morris:neuro activity and electrochemical activity in your
Stu Morris:brain. There's more of that eating a salting cracker than
Stu Morris:there is watching TV. When you watch TV, your brain doesn't
Stu Morris:have to do anything. It just er, it just, it just pods, right? I
Stu Morris:just knocks out, right? And so you want to keep your brain
Stu Morris:plastic. You want to keep it malleable and your memory sharp.
Stu Morris:I'm not saying I love a good movie. Tell me about it. I love
Stu Morris:a good movie. But if you want to, you know, come home from
Stu Morris:work every night and watch two hours of TV. It's probably not
Stu Morris:the most empowering thing you could do for your brain. Another
Stu Morris:really good one is this was a study neuroscientist did on
Stu Morris:London taxi cab drivers, and they, they did a study between
Stu Morris:the taxi cab drivers and the bus drivers, and the bus drivers
Stu Morris:just drive the same route, stop, go, stop, go, and there's no
Stu Morris:it's like they it's after a while they're hypnotized. I
Stu Morris:mean, they don't even have to think about it, right? Whereas
Stu Morris:taxi drivers, I mean, London is a maze, and there's so many
Stu Morris:different routes and ways to get there, and traffic's building
Stu Morris:up, and you got to go over here, and the neuroplasticity was way
Stu Morris:higher, like six to seven times higher in the taxi cab drivers
Stu Morris:than it was in the bus drivers. So the kind of the takeaway for
Stu Morris:that is a very simple thing to do, is people use ways or maps
Stu Morris:for like, you know, like, we drive into the city here, San
Stu Morris:Francisco is 40 minutes away, so I live on the coast, so I try
Stu Morris:not to drive into the city. I don't want to, but you have to a
Stu Morris:lot of times. I just how many times I've been in the city I've
Stu Morris:lived here 30 years, right? I mean, I know where I'm going,
Stu Morris:but you just, oh, I want to make sure. And you pop that map on,
Stu Morris:and then you stop thinking and maps and directions and stuff.
Stu Morris:It touches on four or five places in your brain. And though
Stu Morris:that's a good way of of, you know, so I've told people, you
Stu Morris:know, don't look at your screens and don't use maps. So we might
Stu Morris:as well hit the trifecta here, and really ruin all your days is
Stu Morris:we keep everything in our phone, and then you put someone's
Stu Morris:birthday in there, and then it just repeats on and on and on,
Stu Morris:or something like that, or a standing you know, we automate
Stu Morris:things right on our calendars, especially. And if you want to
Stu Morris:increase your neuroplasticity, I'm not saying get rid of your
Stu Morris:calendar. I got a CRM that has 1000s and 1000s of people on it,
Stu Morris:so I'm not telling anyone do that. But I got just a little
Stu Morris:calendar book, right? Like, this kind of thing. And it's, it's, I
Stu Morris:just keep important dates and, like, something fun I'm going to
Stu Morris:do that day or and I just make a little note in there with a
Stu Morris:pencil and my hand and a piece of parchment, and so you just
Stu Morris:writing things down. You're using your eyes, you're using
Stu Morris:your your thinking about it, so cognitively, you're using you
Stu Morris:can feel the pencil and you're you're producing more neuro
Stu Morris:you're increasing your neuroplasticity by just writing
Stu Morris:your writing quick note. So I'm not telling you to stop using
Stu Morris:your phone, but if you just get a little $5 little, you know,
Stu Morris:academic planner, and just put the fun things that you love in
Stu Morris:life, you're going to a movies, or you're going on date night,
Stu Morris:or it's salmon season, or whatever it is, right? And put
Stu Morris:little notes in there like that, then that will help improve and
Stu Morris:just those three little things will help increase your brain
Stu Morris:activity, help increase those neural pathways, and help
Stu Morris:increase your neuroplasticity. And there's dozens of them,
Stu Morris:dozens of them in the book, and you know, there's 10 of them in
Stu Morris:the in the in the training, in the an online training, but the
Stu Morris:you know each each chapter of 10 has, like, you know, 15
Stu Morris:different things you can do. So there's like, 150 things you can
Stu Morris:do to improve your neuroplasticity, give or take.
Stu Morris:So there's there's lots of them, but those three things right
Stu Morris:there are easy to do. It's a small, simple change you can
Stu Morris:make in your lifestyle, and again, have a very large impact
Stu Morris:without really noticing it. Not a lot of time, effort, energy
Stu Morris:goes into that, but just simple steps you can take every day to
Stu Morris:get sharper. I
Jennifer Takagi:love this, and I love the handwriting things,
Jennifer Takagi:and I think that's why I, very early on, started developing a
Jennifer Takagi:really good memory. Because all through college, I made it a
Jennifer Takagi:point to attend every class. You know, I had friends who would
Jennifer Takagi:skip class all the time. Oh, I can read the book and get it,
Jennifer Takagi:and I'm like, yeah, no, if I go to class, it'll be easier, and
Jennifer Takagi:it was, but I would take avid notes to the point that I, like,
Jennifer Takagi:knew what happened in the class. And so I think that really
Jennifer Takagi:helped, because, like you say, you're using your eyes, you're
Jennifer Takagi:using your ears, you're using your hand, you're feeling it
Jennifer Takagi:like you're doing all the things at once, and it makes. Big
Jennifer Takagi:difference. And I I did a podcast one time on how to
Jennifer Takagi:survive a boring meeting. And if you're in a meeting and you're
Jennifer Takagi:miserable, the most impactful thing you can do, in my personal
Jennifer Takagi:opinion, is take copious notes. Yeah, write down everything
Jennifer Takagi:everybody says at some point you might need something that
Jennifer Takagi:boring. Rambling on. Might have had one nugget that you need to
Jennifer Takagi:come back to later, but it makes the time go faster. You're just
Jennifer Takagi:writing it down, and time goes by. So that's a little hint for
Jennifer Takagi:boring paint.
Stu Morris:That's a gradient that's that's a great insight,
Stu Morris:and that is exactly what happens, is writing something
Stu Morris:down, tells your reticular activating system like this is
Stu Morris:important. Let's focus on this and you remember it better, so
Stu Morris:you nailed it. Do it or not. Great job. Thanks,
Jennifer Takagi:man. I was smarter than I thought I was.
Jennifer Takagi:Dude. Thank you for your help. Thank you for your information.
Jennifer Takagi:Is your book on Amazon? Is that where we get your book? Yep,
Stu Morris:so it's due out in October, or, I'm sorry,
Stu Morris:November, um, be ready for Christmas and New Year and your
Stu Morris:resolutions and all that. It's out. We're getting a cover
Stu Morris:cleaned up a little bit. And you know, when you, when you do a
Stu Morris:book, there's Okay, I did a book that has 10 people in 10
Stu Morris:chapters, and so they gotta read through it, make sure they like
Stu Morris:it, and then, you know, the publisher and the editor and all
Stu Morris:those kind of things. So we're, it's not, it's not out yet, but
Stu Morris:it, it'll be out by end of November, is what they're
Stu Morris:thinking. Alright,
Jennifer Takagi:thing is, this podcast probably isn't going to
Jennifer Takagi:go out till then. Anyway. So it's going to be in perfect
Jennifer Takagi:alignment. It's going to be a
Stu Morris:well, good, oh, good. Well, yep, it'll be right
Stu Morris:there. And then, you know, right behind it is 102 years we have
Stu Morris:had just a blessing of being able to interview Gigi Poorman.
Stu Morris:She's 102 years old on the 16th and five more days, she is the
Stu Morris:poster child for neuroplasticity. She's sharp,
Stu Morris:she's active. She has 1000s of relationships. She does the
Stu Morris:crossword puzzle every morning. She puts her own makeup on, she
Stu Morris:gets up, she you know, she goes exercises. She's an amazing,
Stu Morris:amazing individual, and we've taken the 20 of the just the
Stu Morris:most impactful things that she's done, and to stay neuroplastic.
Stu Morris:And she she, she wasn't trying, you know, 100 years ago, she
Stu Morris:wasn't trying to stay and increase their neuroplasticity,
Stu Morris:right? But what she did and how she did it, we've outlined, and
Stu Morris:then put the science behind it in the book, and it is just
Stu Morris:fantastic. I'm just super, super excited about it. I can't
Stu Morris:believe I didn't turn off my phone. I thought I did anyway.
Stu Morris:So that's right, right behind power, influence and purpose is
Stu Morris:where you'll you can get 100 to 102 years staying plastic. 102
Stu Morris:years the biography of Gigi Poorman, and she is just a hoot.
Stu Morris:She's so much fun. And so you can see it, the science behind
Stu Morris:it, and you can also see, like real life kind of a testament to
Stu Morris:it, and doing all those things will be available on over 50
Stu Morris:one.com that's our that's our website, over 50 one.com and all
Stu Morris:the training and speaking, and all that kind of stuff that I do
Stu Morris:is all there. So you go to over 50 one.com and reach me and I
Stu Morris:come. I can come and talk to your company about how to keep
Stu Morris:your employees sharper and more profitable for your company. Or
Stu Morris:I can work with you one on one or just or we can chat, or we
Stu Morris:can go surfing. Let's put down a Mavericks. Come on over. We walk
Stu Morris:down to pillar point Harbor, buy a salmon. Right out the boat.
Stu Morris:Smoke some salmon. There. It's it's clean living. Let me tell
Stu Morris:you,
Jennifer Takagi:this has been so much fun and so
Jennifer Takagi:informational. I appreciate your time so much. Thank you for
Jennifer Takagi:being here. What
Stu Morris:a pleasure. Jennifer, thank you so much.
Stu Morris:Love your love your podcast and what you're doing to make an
Stu Morris:impact out there. So it's a pleasure to be on. It was an
Stu Morris:honor. Thank you very much. Thank
Jennifer Takagi:you. I'm Jennifer Takagi with destin for
Jennifer Takagi:success, and I look forward to connecting with you soon. You.