Episode 327
Aging: Is it a choice? | DFS 327
Get all the inside secrets and tools you need to help you develop your intuitive and leadership skills so you are on the path to the highest level of success with ease. I’ve had many visions of aging over the years. The question is, is aging a choice?
In this episode you will learn:
- Genetics
- Lifestyle
- Mindset
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Transcript
Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your
Jennifer Takagi:host, Jennifer Takagi, and today I want to continue part of the
Jennifer Takagi:conversation from yesterday with or actually last week with Stu
Jennifer Takagi:Morris about aging. And I've got like, three areas I want to tap
Jennifer Takagi:on just a little bit genetics lifestyle, mindset. So let's
Jennifer Takagi:start with genetics. So I remember growing up in my whole
Jennifer Takagi:life, everything was, well, your grandma had this, and your uncle
Jennifer Takagi:had that, and it just became an assumption, a reality, the the
Jennifer Takagi:baseline that that was going to happen to me or somebody else in
Jennifer Takagi:the family, because that was the thing. I was probably in third
Jennifer Takagi:grade, maybe fourth. I had on a pair of sandals, and I was at my
Jennifer Takagi:grandmother's house, and she turned around and she said, Oh
Jennifer Takagi:my gosh, look at those bunions on Jennifer's feet. Like they
Jennifer Takagi:look just like Aunt, whatever, which this would have been like
Jennifer Takagi:my great, great aunt, I guess. And lo and behold, sure enough,
Jennifer Takagi:I was 25 when I had bunion surgery, and they were so bad, I
Jennifer Takagi:would get home from work and lay on the couch with my feet
Jennifer Takagi:elevated because my feet hurt so bad, I went to the first
Jennifer Takagi:podiatrist to get it checked out, and when I was waiting in
Jennifer Takagi:the room for him, there was a chart On the wall that showed
Jennifer Takagi:all the different, I don't know, deformities, I guess, of your
Jennifer Takagi:feet. And I was like, Holy crap. Like, I have three. I had a
Jennifer Takagi:bunion, I had a tailor's bunion, and then I had a something else.
Jennifer Takagi:What was that a hammer toe or something? Yeah, my feet are not
Jennifer Takagi:and we're not pretty. They're prettier now, but they were not
Jennifer Takagi:pretty back then. And I can remember thinking, Gosh, my
Jennifer Takagi:nanny told me when I was, you know, 10 years old, that I had
Jennifer Takagi:bunions. And look at me now. And after I scheduled the surgery, I
Jennifer Takagi:thought, oh, do I need a second opinion? I think I do. So I got
Jennifer Takagi:a second opinion, and I go in the doctor's office, and he was
Jennifer Takagi:like, oh, yeah, you have bunions. Like, we don't even
Jennifer Takagi:need to do X rays. I can look at your feet and tell and I was
Jennifer Takagi:like, okay, crap, so I'll have the surgery. And I did. But
Jennifer Takagi:funny enough, nobody else in my family has had bunion surgery.
Jennifer Takagi:My grandmother that told me all about whatever. Aunt didn't have
Jennifer Takagi:bunion surgery. My mom did not. I have two sisters, my brothers
Jennifer Takagi:now, since passed away, but he lived to be 53 he didn't have
Jennifer Takagi:bunions. My dad didn't, like nobody had bunions. So was it
Jennifer Takagi:just the shape of my feet and my grandmother, like embedded in me
Jennifer Takagi:that that would happen. You know, I don't really know. My
Jennifer Takagi:sisters and my mom, they pretty much thought, hmm, I might want
Jennifer Takagi:a baby. And poof, they were pregnant, really, whether they
Jennifer Takagi:wanted to be or not. I could have been a surprise. I'm not
Jennifer Takagi:rightly Sure. I am a completely sure, big surprise, but I was
Jennifer Takagi:the best surprise they had. But I had a mindset, I'm going to
Jennifer Takagi:get married, I'm going to get pregnant. Well, I've been
Jennifer Takagi:married a really long time, and I've had a hysterectomy and I
Jennifer Takagi:never got pregnant, so I think it's not going to happen now,
Jennifer Takagi:somehow, I don't think once you have a hysterectomy, that you
Jennifer Takagi:can get pregnant. Actually, I'm 100% confident of that, but
Jennifer Takagi:genetically based on my mom, my dad, my brother, my sisters,
Jennifer Takagi:everybody thought pregnant, and they were so genetically, I
Jennifer Takagi:should have been pregnant right away, right like, if that's the
Jennifer Takagi:way the story goes, I should have gotten pregnant right away,
Jennifer Takagi:and I did not. So as I got a little bit older, I kept
Jennifer Takagi:wondering, how true are these genetic things? My oldest
Jennifer Takagi:sister, Vicky, and I are, well, I'm close with both my sisters,
Jennifer Takagi:but Vicky used to always say, oh my gosh, I went to the doctor
Jennifer Takagi:and this is wrong with me. Wait till you get my age. It's gonna
Jennifer Takagi:happen to you too. And we're eight years apart. And I started
Jennifer Takagi:saying, No, I'm not. I'm not doing what you do. Oh, I went to
Jennifer Takagi:the dentist and I had this problem. You're gonna have it
Jennifer Takagi:too. And I'm like, No, I'm not. And funny enough, we really
Jennifer Takagi:haven't followed the same path on what has gone wrong. So I
Jennifer Takagi:just want to say I'm questioning this genetics thing. I was many
Jennifer Takagi:years ago at the chiropractors office, and then. Was a thing at
Jennifer Takagi:the time. It was called a chelation treatment. It might
Jennifer Takagi:still be a thing, I don't know, but it was a thing. And you
Jennifer Takagi:would go to an MDS office and you would get an IV, and they
Jennifer Takagi:would put whatever is in a chelation infusion, supposed to
Jennifer Takagi:make you healthy. I don't know healthy, happy, whatever. I
Jennifer Takagi:don't know anything about it. So I'm not saying yes or no. I'm
Jennifer Takagi:just that was the term. So I'm in the chiropractor's office and
Jennifer Takagi:I'm laying on that killer roller machine that rolls and it
Jennifer Takagi:relaxes your back and kind of stretches it out a little bit. I
Jennifer Takagi:told him, one day, I'm just gonna buy one of these and have
Jennifer Takagi:it in my living room. Oh, I hadn't thought about that in a
Jennifer Takagi:long time. I might need to get one. I thought that was the
Jennifer Takagi:coolest machine ever, but I'm laying on the machine getting
Jennifer Takagi:the massage before I get adjusted, and I hear the
Jennifer Takagi:chiropractor's wife talking to a doctor, the MD doctor, and he
Jennifer Takagi:was using space in their office. I don't know why he was using
Jennifer Takagi:that space, but he was and doing chelation treatments, and they
Jennifer Takagi:had these recliners, and you could see him when you walked
Jennifer Takagi:in, and when a patient was back there, they'd pull the curtain
Jennifer Takagi:around. But I heard the wife asking the question, do genetics
Jennifer Takagi:determine what's going to happen. And he said, Well,
Jennifer Takagi:genetics is kind of like the blueprint to a house. You've got
Jennifer Takagi:the blueprint, you've got the foundation poured, so you've got
Jennifer Takagi:a lot of the structure is what it's going to be, but then the
Jennifer Takagi:paint and the flooring and the texture on the walls and how you
Jennifer Takagi:decorate it, that's all up to you. So the genetics are there,
Jennifer Takagi:but how you choose to live your life and your mindset make a big
Jennifer Takagi:difference, which are part two and three of this conversation
Jennifer Takagi:today. And he said, If heart disease runs in your family and
Jennifer Takagi:everybody has a heart attack at a young age, there is a very
Jennifer Takagi:good chance that you are going to be prone to a heart attack.
Jennifer Takagi:However, if you never smoke, if you eat most mostly Whole Foods.
Jennifer Takagi:And can you tell I'm still lisping from my tongue surgery?
Jennifer Takagi:It's still kind of hard people after all these weeks. But if
Jennifer Takagi:you eat whole foods, you I don't know if you've ever noticed
Jennifer Takagi:this, but if you shop at the grocery store all the way around
Jennifer Takagi:the perimeter, that's pretty much natural foods versus the
Jennifer Takagi:box stuff in the middle. If you exercise, did I say don't smoke?
Jennifer Takagi:I think I said don't smoke. Limit your red meat and fatty
Jennifer Takagi:foods like that can contribute to heart disease. I know that
Jennifer Takagi:changes all the time. What's what? But he went through this
Jennifer Takagi:list and said, If your dad had his first heart attack at 50,
Jennifer Takagi:but he smoked and he ate a lot of red meat, was overweight and
Jennifer Takagi:really didn't work out. And you're 70, and you've never had
Jennifer Takagi:a heart problem, but you never smoked and you always worked
Jennifer Takagi:out, and you've eaten mostly healthy foods, then you're gonna
Jennifer Takagi:prolong when that happens. And I can remember thinking, Well,
Jennifer Takagi:that makes a lot of sense. Like that just really makes a lot of
Jennifer Takagi:sense. I might be genetically predisposed to something, but if
Jennifer Takagi:we know that, other things will help. Okay, alright, so maybe
Jennifer Takagi:you can, like, overcome that genetic piece, the lifestyle.
Jennifer Takagi:I've just hit on the lifestyle, the lifestyle is and I smoked
Jennifer Takagi:for many years. If you've been following me for a while, you
Jennifer Takagi:know, I smoked for many years. If it hadn't been for the drug
Jennifer Takagi:Chantix, I know there's a lot of controversy around it, but if it
Jennifer Takagi:hadn't been for that, I would still be smoking. And I had a
Jennifer Takagi:spontaneous dissection of my carotid artery in 2013 and I had
Jennifer Takagi:been quit for like, six years at that point, and every medical
Jennifer Takagi:professional that came in my room for the next four days, one
Jennifer Takagi:of the first questions they asked was, Are you a smoker? And
Jennifer Takagi:I was like, No, I quit in 2007 and they'd shake their head and
Jennifer Takagi:say, well, you're really lucky you didn't have a stroke,
Jennifer Takagi:because if you were still smoking, you would have had a
Jennifer Takagi:stroke, and usually it takes a minimum of 10 years before you
Jennifer Takagi:reduce those options or those chances. So fortunately, I did
Jennifer Takagi:not have a stroke. It was just a random thing that happened.
Jennifer Takagi:But every time anything happened prior to me quitting smoking,
Jennifer Takagi:they would say, Well, if you would quit smoking, this would
Jennifer Takagi:happen if you quit smoking, like it was like, Oh, you're in a
Jennifer Takagi:dying bird in hell because you smoke. And one of the things
Jennifer Takagi:was, my overall cholesterol is super low. P. Are jealous of my
Jennifer Takagi:cholesterol. It's like, I don't know. 147 150 I don't know. It's
Jennifer Takagi:ridiculously perfect. My good cholesterol is too low. I don't
Jennifer Takagi:know the numbers. Let's just make some up. Let's say mine's
Jennifer Takagi:27 and let's say normal is 40. Like, you know they want you to
Jennifer Takagi:be 40 or higher on the good cholesterol. And they said for
Jennifer Takagi:three years in a row, when they did my blood work, if you would
Jennifer Takagi:just quit smoking, this number would go up. Guess what? Ladies
Jennifer Takagi:and gentlemen, the number is the same. It has not gone up at all.
Jennifer Takagi:It is stayed so freaking stable, it's ridiculous, but I didn't
Jennifer Takagi:have a stroke, so that is like a humongous thing. I'll still stay
Jennifer Takagi:not smoking. The other thing is, my pulse used to be really high.
Jennifer Takagi:It ran like right about 9092, all the time. I quit smoking,
Jennifer Takagi:and now my pulse is in the 70s, like as if I were an athlete. If
Jennifer Takagi:you've met me in person or seen pictures, I'm a little fluffy. I
Jennifer Takagi:am not an athlete at all, but my pulse is great. I went to the
Jennifer Takagi:doctor to have my mouth checked to make sure after I had had my
Jennifer Takagi:surgery in my tongue, which, yeah, the spots of my tongue
Jennifer Takagi:were benign, and they say it's because I quit smoking. But I
Jennifer Takagi:had to have the surgery because I used to smoke. But I go in and
Jennifer Takagi:the guy takes my blood pressure, and it was, are you ready for
Jennifer Takagi:this drum roll? Please? I wish I could do a drum roll. It was 100
Jennifer Takagi:over 60. That's just unheard of. Somebody goes, Are you dead? I
Jennifer Takagi:mean, I'm a little hyper. Did you notice I'm a little hyper,
Jennifer Takagi:and I drink Diet Coke. I don't drink coffee, but I do drink
Jennifer Takagi:Diet Coke. So like, my deal is, I'm fortunate in so many ways,
Jennifer Takagi:like just naturally, things are good. My blood numbers are all
Jennifer Takagi:really, really good. I do work out some, not as much as I
Jennifer Takagi:could. I try to go to aerobics three times a week, but I've
Jennifer Takagi:been traveling a lot, and I miss a lot, and I kind of eat
Jennifer Takagi:whatever I want. Yeah, I drink, I drink beer. That's typically
Jennifer Takagi:my my alcohol cocktail of choice. Every now and then I
Jennifer Takagi:have frozen drinks. Those are really good, but lifestyle plays
Jennifer Takagi:a lot into it. You see somebody who sits around all the time,
Jennifer Takagi:they never move. If you're not moving, things aren't happening
Jennifer Takagi:like you've gotta move your body. So that lifestyle plays a
Jennifer Takagi:whole lot into the aging process. What is your lifestyle?
Jennifer Takagi:What do you do? I'm going to throw in lifestyle also hanging
Jennifer Takagi:out with other people. Are you social? Do you have friends? Do
Jennifer Takagi:you have a positive attitude? Wait, that's going to go in
Jennifer Takagi:mindset. That's in group three. But that lifestyle I I had a gal
Jennifer Takagi:I ran into at the Dollar General at the lake the other day. And
Jennifer Takagi:we call it the mall, because there's not a mall for, you
Jennifer Takagi:know, 75 miles or something. But she looked at me, and she goes,
Jennifer Takagi:I follow you on Facebook. You do so much. I just am exhausted
Jennifer Takagi:looking at you. I could never be gone that long. And I went,
Jennifer Takagi:Holy, really, well, I'm home, like, two and three days at a
Jennifer Takagi:time. I don't even check my mail because I'm in the house. And
Jennifer Takagi:she was like, oh, no, two or three days, that wouldn't be
Jennifer Takagi:enough for me. But I have friends. I have friends all the
Jennifer Takagi:way back to high school. I don't really have any college friends.
Jennifer Takagi:I don't guess now I don't really have any college Finch. I still
Jennifer Takagi:know people from college, but I don't like run around with them.
Jennifer Takagi:And I have people I used to work with, and I have family I run
Jennifer Takagi:around with. Like, I've got a wide variety. I also have a wide
Jennifer Takagi:range. I remember my grandmother, Nanny mentioned
Jennifer Takagi:previously, and one day, she was quite a bit older at that point.
Jennifer Takagi:And she said, it really is sad when you get old and all your
Jennifer Takagi:friends are dead. And I was like, wow, that would be sad. I
Jennifer Takagi:have friends in all different age groups. I don't do I have
Jennifer Takagi:any friends in their 20s. I have great nieces in my 20s, so I
Jennifer Takagi:guess I could call them friends, but mostly in the 30s, 40s, 50s,
Jennifer Takagi:60s, and I have some really good friends in their 70s. So like I
Jennifer Takagi:go again, oh, wait, I even have 80 year old friends. So I cover
Jennifer Takagi:the gamut, because when I'm still here, if some of my
Jennifer Takagi:besties my age aren't here, I still want to have friends. So
Jennifer Takagi:that's part of my lifestyle choice. I watch people retire
Jennifer Takagi:and then their health would plummet because they didn't have
Jennifer Takagi:that circle of friends to keep them up, keep them going, keep
Jennifer Takagi:them motivated. So I'm going to say friends and social
Jennifer Takagi:activities are part. Part of that lifestyle. Now we get to
Jennifer Takagi:mindset, and mindset is critical. I told you before I
Jennifer Takagi:would say to my sister, oh, that's not going to happen to
Jennifer Takagi:me. That's not going to happen to me. We've had very few things
Jennifer Takagi:genetically that have crossed. I have brown eyes. She has hazel
Jennifer Takagi:eyes. She tans beautifully. I'm fair. One day I said, Oh, look
Jennifer Takagi:at me. I'm the Bronze Goddess. And she started laughing. And
Jennifer Takagi:she goes, she might be the ice princess. So, like a lot of
Jennifer Takagi:differences, she's short, I'm tall, the other sister, same
Jennifer Takagi:way. She's short, I'm tall. She tans, I don't she has hazel
Jennifer Takagi:eyes. I have brand eyes. So lots of lots of differences there in
Jennifer Takagi:the genetic and that aspect of our relationship, you know,
Jennifer Takagi:being sisters even. I think it's funny, my sister that's three
Jennifer Takagi:years older than me, Melissa, when we were growing up, people
Jennifer Takagi:thought we were twins. I was tall, she was short. They
Jennifer Takagi:thought we were twins because we looked a lot alike. And I was
Jennifer Takagi:tall, she was short, but I want mayonnaise on a sandwich. She
Jennifer Takagi:wants mustard. I want cheese on everything. She could go the
Jennifer Takagi:rest of her life without having cheese. We have some things that
Jennifer Takagi:are very different. You would have thought we were a little
Jennifer Takagi:bit more alike, but we're not mindset. Your mindset can
Jennifer Takagi:really, really control so much of your life. I see people that
Jennifer Takagi:are so negative and so down, and they watch every freaking
Jennifer Takagi:newscast and everything is bad and the world is falling apart
Jennifer Takagi:and, oh, we just had an election, and my guy didn't win,
Jennifer Takagi:or my guy did win, but there's so much to overturn. I mean,
Jennifer Takagi:drama, drama, drama, drama. I don't watch the news. I'm gonna
Jennifer Takagi:say it one more time. I don't watch the news. If somebody
Jennifer Takagi:tells me something's happened in the world, I'll go look it up
Jennifer Takagi:and see, like, what I can find out about it, but I don't watch
Jennifer Takagi:the news. And when I became an entrepreneur, there was a book
Jennifer Takagi:that I read, I don't remember which one, and now it's been in
Jennifer Takagi:many books, and the author said, I don't watch the news. And when
Jennifer Takagi:you talk to somebody, you can go, Hey, what's going on in the
Jennifer Takagi:world? And they can tell you, and then you can choose whether
Jennifer Takagi:you want to go look it up and confirm or not, like what's
Jennifer Takagi:going on. If you are filling your head consistently with a
Jennifer Takagi:total stream of negativity,
Unknown:of fear, of scary things,
Jennifer Takagi:you create your own reality, and things start
Jennifer Takagi:getting scary around you, and things start getting bad around
Jennifer Takagi:you. And bad things do happen. I've had a lot of bad things
Jennifer Takagi:happen in my life. If you've been on my podcast for a while,
Jennifer Takagi:I've shared some of the biggies that have happened in my life.
Jennifer Takagi:But I still want to believe, and I do believe, that good things
Jennifer Takagi:happen and good things come to me. My friend Kimberly Crowe
Jennifer Takagi:always says, oh, things are always working out for me. And
Jennifer Takagi:it's true. I mean, she says it for her, but I say it for me
Jennifer Takagi:too. I missed a light, and I got stuck behind a red light, and
Jennifer Takagi:I'm sitting there initially thinking, dang it, I missed that
Jennifer Takagi:light, and I was in a hurry and I wanted to go fast, and now I'm
Jennifer Takagi:Skip this light, and seconds later, there's a crash ahead of
Jennifer Takagi:me. If I had made that light, I would have been caught up in it.
Jennifer Takagi:How does this all work? I don't know. Is it God? I believe it
Jennifer Takagi:is. I believe it's the universe. I believe everything works out
Jennifer Takagi:for me. I drive up to Toby Keith's before every thunder
Jennifer Takagi:basketball game. And when I was still working for the
Jennifer Takagi:government, we would go out to lunch there. Sometimes, I always
Jennifer Takagi:get to park in front, I bet three times in 15 years I have
Jennifer Takagi:not been able to park on the front row. Why? I have a mindset
Jennifer Takagi:I'm going to park in front your brain starts looking for the
Jennifer Takagi:good parking places. It's out there. It happens. It's real.
Jennifer Takagi:You can think I'm a wackadoo. I don't really care. I prefer to
Jennifer Takagi:live in my world. There is a book, and it was really eye
Jennifer Takagi:opening to me. I just had it up on my computer, and where did it
Jennifer Takagi:go? One moment, please. It's called younger next year. And I
Jennifer Takagi:wanted to tell you who the authors were, Chris Crowley and
Jennifer Takagi:Henry S Lodge. They have younger next year, and live until you're
Jennifer Takagi:80 and beyond. And the really cool thing about this book is
Jennifer Takagi:one chapter is written by a gentleman in his 70s who went to
Jennifer Takagi:the doctor, and the next chapter is. Written by the doctor who
Jennifer Takagi:is, I believe, an internist. So the older gentleman is talking
Jennifer Takagi:about what's going on, and then the doctor steps in and gives
Jennifer Takagi:the scientific reasons behind it. And the bottom line, the
Jennifer Takagi:gist of it, get the book like, I'm not affiliated with them in
Jennifer Takagi:any way. They don't even know who I am. I haven't even told
Jennifer Takagi:them how much I love their book, but the bottom line of the book
Jennifer Takagi:is, you're either growing or you're dying. You're growing or
Jennifer Takagi:you're dying. Every cell in your body at this exact moment is
Jennifer Takagi:either growing or decaying. The more healthy foods that you eat,
Jennifer Takagi:the more you work out, the more you have a positive attitude,
Jennifer Takagi:the better off your body is going to be. Do really great
Jennifer Takagi:people get very horrible diseases, yes. Do they die of
Jennifer Takagi:them every day? Can I explain that? Absolutely not. I cannot.
Jennifer Takagi:But what I do know is there are a lot of healthy people who they
Jennifer Takagi:are allowing their bodies and their minds to deteriorate
Jennifer Takagi:because they're not taking proactive action. So if you want
Jennifer Takagi:a fun read, or if you like audiobooks, the audiobook is
Jennifer Takagi:fantastic younger next year, by Chris Crowley and Henry S Lodge,
Jennifer Takagi:and that will help you overcome the genetics, the lifestyle and
Jennifer Takagi:the mindset that is keeping you from living the life you want to
Jennifer Takagi:live. I'm Jennifer Takagi with destin for success. I would love
Jennifer Takagi:it if we hopped on a call to see if there's any way that I can
Jennifer Takagi:help you in your situation, so you can be younger next year, so
Jennifer Takagi:you can make a choice about how you want to age. I can't really
Jennifer Takagi:do much about the physical part, because I'm not a nutritionist,
Jennifer Takagi:a dietitian. I'm not in that scientific world, but there are
Jennifer Takagi:a whole lot of other ways I can help you. I look forward to
Jennifer Takagi:connecting with you soon. Bye.