Make Yourself Well or Sick | DFS 367

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Jennifer, welcome to Destin for success.

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I'm your host. Jennifer tokagi, and today I want to talk about

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how you can make yourself well, or you can make yourself sick.

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Last week, we had an amazing conversation with Carol Marco

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about her journey in corporate America, doing great things in

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the world, and then learning to heal herself, and now she helps

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heal other people. And I want to get down to a few little basics

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today. I was very aggravated. Oh gosh, I was probably in college,

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and I was home for the weekend. And to be honest, I'm pretty

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sure I was aggravated with my grandmother. And as much as I

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love my grandmother, she played favorites a lot, and I was very

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aggravated because she invited me and one of my sisters to go

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to this really nice store, and we did, and I picked out a

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couple of outfits. My sister picked up a couple of outfits. I

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had my own credit card, and the three of us went up to the

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counter to pay. And she stood there and watched me pay for

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mine. Then she bought my sisters, what are you kidding

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me? I was so upset. It's so mad. I was in college. I was working

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part time. Some semesters, almost 30 hours a week. Other

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semesters, it was more like 20 to 25 my parents helped a lot. I

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don't want to minimize that, but if I didn't work, like I didn't

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have electricity, like I had to work in college, yes, I had a

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choice. I could have quit college and gotten a full time

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job, but I didn't want to do that either, so that that was

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what I did. And I came home and I was so bad, and I was it was a

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Sunday afternoon, and I was just I don't know that I was actually

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yelling, but my anger was coming out in spades. And I said, and

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I'm supposed to go meet Patrice at church and and I don't even

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want to go. I'm just in such a bad mood. And my dad was

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typically cool, calm and collected. It was pretty rare

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for him not to be, and he looked at me, and he goes, that's when

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you need to go the most. Go get ready and go meet your friend at

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church. It was an evening service, and I was like, what

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like, I don't want to go. And he goes, Jennifer, if you will just

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go, you will come home feeling so much better the times you

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don't want to go to church are the times you need it the most.

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I very grudgingly, went up and got ready and went to church.

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And nobody's going to be surprised when they hear this

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story that I actually came home feeling a lot better. It's that

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idea of put a smile on your face and you start to feel lighter,

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you start to feel happier, you start to feel better. It

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happens. It works. I'm sure there's a ton of scientific

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research behind this, and I didn't research it for today,

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because I just want you to get the concept of you can put a

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smile on your face and feel better. You can set your

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intention to walk in a room and change the energy. There it was.

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Oh, really, only just a few years ago, a young man in my

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world. I'm friends, actually, with his father, and so he's

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like, he's young enough he could have, could have been mine. But

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he said, no matter how tense the room is, you walk in the room

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and you can change the energy just by bursting in the door.

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And that was probably one of the biggest compliments I've ever

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been given. And from a younger man too. He was in his 20s. It

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was like, Are you kidding me? Like, I always wanted to be that

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person that could change the energy in a positive way. Like,

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I'm sure I could bring it down too, but like, I want to change

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it for the positive. And it was like, wow. Like, that's what I

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want to do. I want to be the person that walks in with a

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smile on my face that's happy about a situation, that's happy

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to be there. Now, granted, I have my laundry list of things

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to complain about, and I do complain, and I have friends who

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call me out on and I'm like, I just wanted to tell you what was

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going on. It's not like I'm gonna lose sleep over this, but

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I just want to tell you how I felt about it our you know,

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we're all allowed to do that. The problem is, when you stay in

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that. I just want to tell you what's going on. And. How upset

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I am about things, that it continues, and it continues for

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a lot longer. I firmly believe that we can make ourselves sick

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and we can make ourselves well. And there is a book, and I can't

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see it on my shelf right now. To get the name of it, it's on

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Amazon. It's written by Shiraz Babu, B, A, B, O, O, and it's

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all about shifting your story, changing your story, changing

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your life, and stepping out of it. So if you're sick, if you're

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ill, if you don't feel well, what are you getting out of it?

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And I'm sure somebody is going, Oh, nothing, I'm getting nothing

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out of it. But we kind of all get something out of it. I had

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my left knee replaced in April, nope, in March of 2024, March of

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2024 and I did absolutely everything they told me to do.

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I stayed off it, I iced it, I used the knee bending machine, I

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went to physical therapy like I got I had surgery. Monday, got

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out of the hospital. Tuesday, I went to physical therapy.

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Wednesday, I did all the things and I had surgery

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March 18 or 19th, right after what's that holiday called

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crap, St Patrick's Day, St Patrick's Day. And by the first

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of May, I was walking like nothing ever happened, like I

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could do anything and everything for the most part that I wanted,

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and I stayed in physical therapy until they literally kicked me

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out, because I wanted so desperately to be whole and fine

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and normal, and I promised myself that if the other knees

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started bothering me,

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I would have it replaced as soon as possible, Because I did not

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want to go through all the months of pain that I had

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previously. And the interesting thing is, my right knee has

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always been my bad knee my whole life, but it was the left one

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that had to be replaced first. So I go in and have my right

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knee replaced, and I have in my mind, it's going to be as great

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as the last time. Like, I'm completely set it's gonna be as

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easy, as great, as wonderful as the first time. And I kept

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hearing these stories, oh, one's good, one's bad. They're never

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both the same. Like, that's not how this works. Well, I kept

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shoving that away. That's not true. That's not gonna happen to

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me. And guess what? My right knee replacement has been

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substantially longer and harder than my left knee and there are

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a lot of reasons for it. I'll go into those details later. It no

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it had nothing to do with the surgeon or the procedure. It was

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all 100% on me. I didn't do all the same things, prepping for

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surgery. The second time that I did the first time, I was not

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physically prepared. I think mentally, emotionally, I was

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prepared because I was ready for this pain to go away, but

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physically, I wasn't ready. I hadn't done all the same things

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I did for the first surgery on this second one. I wasn't

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prepared. I wasn't ready. And what did that get me? I was able

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to say no to things. I was able to hang out and watch Netflix

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more. There were a lot of benefits, although that sounds

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very twisted for me, not recovering as quickly. The

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responsibility I had to carry was less. So if you're ill, if

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you're under the weather, like, what is the benefit? Like Dr

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Phil used to say on his show. I don't know if he still says it

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or not, but he's well known for saying so, how's that working

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out for you? And that's a valid question. If you're ill, if you

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have a pain, if you have a heartache, how is that serving

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you? How is that serving you? To tell the same story over and

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over again about how you were wronged. I was at the first

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business conference I had ever been to for entrepreneurs. I

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didn't even know it was a thing. When you come from corporate and

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federal work and become entrepreneur, the list of things

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you don't know and have had never been exposed to it anyway,

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the list is long, and I was at this event, and the speaker. Was

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talking about, like, what you need to do, how you need to do

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it, how you need to move ahead. And I can remember sitting there

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thinking, I don't know that I can do any of this. Like, how do

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you how do you do this? I don't know. And it kind of came down

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to that idea of, are you more fearful of failure or success?

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And if I feel bad enough I don't feel good and I'm not up to

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doing the task, then I don't have to really worry about it,

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because now what? Guess what? I I don't have responsibility.

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It's not my fault. It's not my fault. I couldn't do that. How

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many times have you said that? I mean, I'm embarrassed, like on

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this platform to admit it, but there are times I was like,

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Yeah, I don't really want to do that. And miraculously, I wake

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up sick the next morning. We create this. We cause it. We

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create our reality. We surround ourselves with the people that

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either lift us up or tear us down.

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And we have to decide, how is this serving me? Why is this

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okay? And if it's no longer okay and I'm complaining about it,

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it's time to do something about it. It's time to make a change.

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And the last point I want to make about this probably the

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most important point of this whole episode, I hope you've

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hung in there with me this long. You have more power than you've

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ever dreamed possible. You have more power than you've ever

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dreamed possible. It's why name this podcast destined for

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success? Because I do believe you're destined for more success

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than you've ever even considered. So if you have more

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power, if I have more power, what are we going to do to take

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more control of our lives? What are we going to do to move

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forward? You have the power, you have the choice. So I'm going to

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challenge you that you can start to make yourself well. I heard a

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friend the other days. I asked how she was. She's had some

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physical problems, and she said, Oh, I'm just sick of going to

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doctors. Nobody knows what's wrong with me. Nobody will fix

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it. I just give up. And I just looked at her and said, you can

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give up, like, you have to get to the bottom of this, and you

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have to get it resolved. And she was like, No, I'm sick of

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doctors. Well, keep in mind, they are practicing medicine.

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Sometimes things are cut and dry, clear and concise. Other

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times it's a mystery.

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It's a mystery, and they're practicing medicine, and they're

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trying to get to the root cause of it. They don't want you to

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stay sick. I am not a conspiracy theorist. I don't believe

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there's one doctor out there who said, Oh, gee, I want to go to

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medical school for all these bazillion years, and I want to

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get my degree, and I want to start a practice, and then I

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want to lie and deceive people like I don't think that's true.

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I think every doctor is doing their best. Are some better than

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others, absolutely, absolutely. And I want the best of the best,

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but you have the power to choose, you have the power to do

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research. You have the power to change your circumstance. You

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have the power to put a smile on your face and change your

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internal system so that you can show up as the best version of

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yourself. I love Brenda Burchard meditation. You can find it on

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YouTube, and it's the release meditation technique. It's kind

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of funny, because all of a sudden when it ends, you've got

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loud music and an ad plane and that can, like, scare you. So

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you might want to check that out, like, how long it's gonna

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play, but once you've listened to it a time or two, you can

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just do it yourself. Just lay there and just breathe normally.

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Relax with your eyes closed. Do not do it while you're driving,

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and just say the word Release, release, release. Release the

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tension, release the cares, release the aches and pains. My

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knee recovery, in all actuality, this second one is like a normal

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person. The first time, I was like Wonder Woman. I was kind of

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super vanish. I was leaping tall buildings in a single bound. And

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the second one has slowed me down, and I've had a lot of

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downtime and a lot of quiet time and a lot of healing. Time you

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can make yourself well or you can make yourself sick, the more

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of us who choose to make ourselves well are more suited

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and better able to move forward in the world, accept the changes

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as they come and be hopeful and optimistic that tomorrow will be

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better. Yep, things get bad, but things always turn around and

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get better. Someone was talking about interest rates, and I

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think home interest rates in the US are about 7% now,

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and a year or so ago, someone was complaining that, oh, the

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interest rates are so high, and I did a little research on it.

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And in the last 6070, years in America, the average interest

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rate has been six to 7% on a home. The 2% interest rates

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during covid that they had to be to keep the economy alive is not

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normal. That was not a normal situation. The 20% interest

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rates of the 70s, early 80s, that wasn't normal either. But

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guess what? It didn't stay that way. They dropped back down.

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You can Waller around in the muck that the interest rates

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aren't what you want them to be. Or you can do something. You can

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save a little more money. You can quit going out for coffee or

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dinner or whatever to buy the house that you want. We have

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choices and we have power. We just don't always want to accept

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the responsibility that comes with it. So you can make

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yourself well, or you can make yourself sick. The choice is

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yours, but I hope you'll come along with me on a journey to

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make yourself well, make yourself better, because you're

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destined for more success than you've ever dreamed possible.

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I'm Jennifer Takagi with destined for success, and I do

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look forward to connecting with you soon. Click that link your

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success call.com and book a call with me. Let's see if there's

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any way that I can help you take one step forward on making

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yourself well versus making yourself sick. You.