Intention - How Clear and Concise Is Your Intention | DFS 359

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Foreign Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your

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host, Jennifer Takagi, and I am on 123, the fourth episode,

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tying back to the impact, what impact you want to make in the

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world? If you've missed the previous podcast, obviously you

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can back up and catch those today, when we're talking about

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impact, I want to cover the topic of intention. How clear

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and concise Are you on your intention? I often hear that you

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have to set your intention before you start to do

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something. And in the energy work I do using Dr Bradley

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Nelson's Emotion Code, Body Code and belief code, before every

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session, I set the intention, the intention that I am going to

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do my best for the client with the God given gifts and talents

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that I have and the modalities and that I intend for the best

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outcome for that person. So that's one way that I set an

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intention really often and clearly on what I want that

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outcome to be. I've been in several masterminds and been to

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several conferences where the leader of either the session or

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the whole event really pressed us to set our intention for the

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event. What is your intention? How do you choose to show up?

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What do you want to get out of it? Because you kind of need to

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be clear on that, so you don't want to go back after the fact

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and say, Yeah, I didn't get anything out of it. But did you

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have an intention on what you wanted to get out of it. I went

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on a business cruise in January of 2024 and I had never been on

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a business cruise before. I really wasn't sure what was

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going to happen, how it was all going to come together, so I

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just kind of bumbled my way through it. And I'm pretty

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confident I didn't make the most out of it like I went, I met

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people, I had a good time, I made some deeper connections,

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which is always good, but I'm just gonna say it wasn't like,

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business wise, that I did it as as good as I possibly could

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have. I I could have done better. So when I went the next

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year, my friend said, so what you know? What are your plans?

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What's your intention for this event? And I said, Well, I if

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you've ever been on a cruise, if you're on the same class of

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ship, on the same line, which we were, it was carnival. They have

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a large lime light Lounge, which is very green. It's lime green,

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and it's where they host the comedy shows most of the time.

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But comedy shows are an evening thing, so the event would be in

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this big room during the day, and there were like 400 of us.

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And in 2024 I sat against the wall, like you walk in the door,

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and I walked all the way across to the opposite wall, and then

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the stage was to my right, and I kind of liked that spot. I liked

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that seat. I was very comfortable there. And I said,

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Well, I'm just gonna sit there, and I'm gonna look cute, and

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people are going to just come to me, it's going to be great. And

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she goes, Yeah, tell me how that works out for you. And and the

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reason I said that there is a, I don't even know a thing, a

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system to determine what your design is, how you were designed

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to show up in the world, and it's called Human Design. I

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think if you go to human design usa.com you get your free

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analysis, and everybody uses it, and then you hire somebody who

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can go into way more detail and and help you with it. And so my

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human design is a projector, kind of like a lighthouse, and

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I'm supposed to just, like, be there and people will show up,

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and the right people will show up and and when they do, then I

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share my gifts and talents other people. That's not the way

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they're put together. They're supposed to just, I'll use the

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word hustle. They're supposed to hustle, hustle, hustle, like, go

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get in people's faces. And it works out really well, but that

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never worked for me, and I found out that the reason was, I'm not

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designed that way, like, that's not how I'm supposed to try to

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show up. So totally off topic, but a little bit of background

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that you might have needed to understand this. But I was like,

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Yeah, I'm gonna, I'm gonna. To sit over there and people are

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going to come. And she's like, Well, tell me how that works

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out. Well, it worked out pretty well. I made some pretty amazing

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connections. It was good. It was really good. I was at an event a

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couple of weeks ago, and at lunch, everybody scattered, and

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I ended up at a table by myself, and I'm just kind of making some

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notes about the event, and, you know, things, thoughts I wanted

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to keep straight, and I looked around and I was like, wow,

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there are like 200 people at this event, and I'm sitting at a

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table by myself seeing all these conversations happening. Do I

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feel weird about that. Does that bother me that I'm just sitting

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here by myself, a part of me, an old part of me, thank goodness

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she doesn't live there anymore, an old part of me would have

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been like, oh my gosh, you must look so lonely and like a loser

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sitting at that table by yourself. But this me like that.

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Knows how I show up. And what I like to do is like I was

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perfectly content. I was perfectly content, making my

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notes, looking around. You know, it was pretty, the weather was

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perfect. And then somebody came up and said, hey, you need to

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help my friend. She's got trapped emotions around this or

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that, and somebody else came up, oh, I need you to help me. So it

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worked out really, really well that I was just sitting there,

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because that's like, how I'm supposed to show up. So what's

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your intention when you show up? Whether it's a family function

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is to work. It's to an event. Like, what is it? How do you

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want to show up? What's your intention? You put your

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intention out there, for the world, for the universe, for

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God, whatever you know, you believe in or embrace, and like,

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it's out there. You've put that intention out there. I spoke to

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a woman on a plane one time, and she said, What do you want to

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do? And I said, Well, when I grow up and leave my government

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job, I want to be a speaker and a trainer, because I think I'd

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be really good at it. And she goes, Oh, you've just put that

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out in the universe, and it's going to happen. I was like,

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what? And she said, Yeah, doors will open. Some you'll walk

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through, some, you'll reject but the doors will keep showing up

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until you embrace this new you and I need to go find some dates

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and stuff. But it was, it was quite a few years before it

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actually all came together in a really good way. So be focused

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and clear about what your intention is. There is a phrase

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that I've heard a lot in my life, and that is, the road to

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hell is paved with good intentions. So I went and looked

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it up, and it actually is not a verse in the Scripture. It's not

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a verse of the Bible. So we've been told that all our lives.

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Well, I have anyway, and it's not even a real thing. However,

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there's a theme that runs through the Bible, and the theme

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is, you set your intention, you have your beliefs, and you must

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take action. You must take action. If you're not taking

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action, you're not moving forward, and you're stagnant.

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And Brenda Burchard said something, and I'm not going to

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get this exactly right, but you'll get the the picture, and

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that is a couple has been married for a while, short,

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while, long, while. Doesn't really matter. They've been

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married a while, and they kind of quit doing fun stuff because

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they get into a habit. They get into a routine. And that's kind

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of one of the benefits of being married for a long time. But at

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the same time, if you're both in that mode of, yep, this is as

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good as it gets. This is what we're gonna do. Then you don't

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move forward and do anything. And then you see this couple

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divorce, unfortunately or fortunately, depending on the

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circumstances, and all of a sudden, she's out doing this and

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that, and he's skydiving, and she's and you're like, oh my

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gosh, I had no idea that had so many interests. And it's because

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once you get so comfortable, you quit having that intention for a

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good relationship. You quit setting expectations and

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creating

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activities adventures to keep things moving forward and being

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bigger and growing. And I worked with a man many years ago, and

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he was in his mid 60s, probably, and retired from a bank. He was

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a vice president at a bank. And I said, Sir, why are you here?

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Like he was working for me, and I was in my 20s. I was like, why

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are you. Year, why are you working? And he said, because

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all my friends retire and they die within one year, and I don't

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want to be that. And this is easy for me compared to what I

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did as a vice president. This position is pretty easy, so I'm

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pretty happy to come in every day. And I was like, wow, that

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was like, earth shattering news to me. And it was like, Yeah,

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you have to take action. You have to keep moving, or you do,

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like, sit down and die, like that book younger next year,

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every cell in your body is either decaying or growing, and

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what you want is formed to grow faster than they decay, so that

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you are stronger and healthier and live longer. But who wants

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to live longer if you're not in good health, physically,

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emotionally, spiritually, all those things. But I think, from

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my own perspective and people I've worked with, if you're not

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taking action in your life, whether it's your personal life

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or your professional life, or if you're an entrepreneur like me,

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you're not taking action because you're not clear on what you

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want, you're not clear on what You want, and you haven't really

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picked a desired outcome. What is the outcome that you would

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like to have happen? I have spent more money than I want to

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admit, hiring coaches, business coaches to help me dial in who I

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wanted to be, how I wanted to show up, what product I wanted

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to offer, what service I wanted to offer, and I'm just here to

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tell you it didn't turn out either how they promised or what

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they implied. Like it there's probably a little gray, blurry

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Ness between the actual promise or like they sort of implied

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that's what was going to come out of this situation. But in

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the end, it all tied back to me not being able to articulate

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very clearly what I wanted and what I wanted my business to

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look like, and did they have the services to offer me to make

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that happen? What was it? What was my intention? What did I

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want to happen? I recently. I recently heard. I've recently

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heard a lot. I guess I need to drop recently out of my

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vocabulary there. Sorry about that, folks, but a lot's been

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happening in my world. But I heard that when you go in to

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have a conversation with someone, whether it's going to

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be a really positive conversation or a negative

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conversation, negative in that you need something in their

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relationship, the interaction to be different. It says, set your

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intention like, what is the best possible outcome for this

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scenario like, before you have the conversation. In the end, I

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want to scream and yell and throw a fit and win. That is an

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outcome. It may not be like the best choice for the overall long

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term health of the relationship or the situation, but what do

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you want the intent to be when I would go to training on putting

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people on a performance improvement plan, they always

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said your point in this is to adjust the behavior. It's never

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to fire the person. It's never to fire the person. It's always

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to adjust the behavior so that they're acting, reacting and

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doing their work the way you want and need them to do it. I

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really found very few supervisors who embrace that,

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because by the time they got to that point, they were chapped.

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They wanted the person to go away, like, just go ahead. Let

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me fire him. We couldn't fire him, but go ahead and so. But

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what's your intention? If you have a true, pure intention to

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help that person and help them be a better person so they can

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keep their job, it's going to come through. It's going to come

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through in how you approach the situation and how you interact

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with them. I found most of the problems at work were all tied

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to the supervisor or manager, and sometimes that was me too,

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right? Because I was a supervisor manager, your

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intention paves the way to the outcome. So I am challenging you

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to set your intention on what you want that final impact to

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be. I. With any and all interactions like, what impact

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do you want to have when it's all said and done? What is your

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intention and that's going to set the path. It's going to be

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like the yellow brick road to the Wizard of Oz. What do you

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want it to be? How do you want to show up? Do you want to show

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up with integrity? Do you want to show up with purpose? Do you

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want to show up with that servant leadership mentality?

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I'm not even give the alternatives, because I hope

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your answer is yes, yes, I want to show up with integrity. Yes,

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I want to show up so that I can make a positive impact on the

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people that I am interacting with. It's a big deal, and we

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need more of it now. So today's lesson was on intention. What is

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your intention, and how do you want to show up and have the big

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impact that you want to have on the world. I'm Jennifer Takagi

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with destin for success. I would love to connect with you, go to

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your success, call.com and book a call with me. I want to hear

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how you're doing, what you're doing, and if there's anything I

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can say to help you personally, I would be thrilled and honored

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to do that. Have a great day. You.