How to Expand Your Adventurous Side | DFS 322

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Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your

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host, Jennifer Takagi, and if you can see this, if you're on

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YouTube or someplace where you can see the video of this, you

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can see this beautiful Marina behind me, blue skies, pretty

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clouds. That is a picture taken here in Marbella, Spain. And I'm

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actually recording this in Marbella. The problem is I can't

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have the live show of the Mediterranean Sea behind me

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while I'm recording, because it just doesn't work out. It

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doesn't the lighting is not right. You can't see anything.

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So here we are, but you get a little taste for it. If you're

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listening to the podcast, you might go over my YouTube channel

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and check this out, just so you can see the pretty picture of

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the background. It's really lovely. And I'm in Marbella

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because this is an adventure. And I was asked, this is now

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October, almost November, and I was asked last spring if I would

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come to Spain for a month. And I said yes, but it didn't always

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used to be that way. I didn't always say yes, because that

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adventurous side of me had been shut down over the years. I was

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asked to come I said yes. 10 years ago, when I left my

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government job, I decided I was going to say yes to as many

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things as I possibly could, and this ended up being one of them.

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I've had a magical, wonderful time. We wanted to hit 30

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different restaurants while we were here, and at today's count,

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we have 27 I will admit, I cheated a little bit, and I put

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in two places where, like when we had nuts and when we had

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French fries, and I put them down as restaurants, because

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we're trying to get there, we have several more days, so I

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might actually exceed 30, in which case it will be very easy

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to mark off the ones that were just bars with only peanuts to R

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so Well, you know more on that later. Last week's episode, Anna

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with wandering growth. Oh gosh, please tell me I said that

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right. Anyway, last week's episode, 321, this is 322 Can

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you believe it? In her episode, she was talking about how she

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sets up amazing, adventurous events for people, retreat type

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things. She does them for people. She also teaches people

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how to do their own really fun interview, fun talking to her.

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But I thought, wow, how do I follow that? I follow it by

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trying to get you to ignite your adventurous side, your

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adventurous spirit. So I thought about a few things that come up

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from time to time when people talk about adventure, and one of

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the things is, I'm not very adventurous. I don't want to do

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extreme things, like I don't want to jump out of an airplane.

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I don't want to go cliff diving. I don't want to go bungee

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jumping. I don't want to scuba dive. I have a sister that scuba

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dives. She and her husband go, oh, play scuba diving. That's

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great for them, but I don't want to do it. That's not on my list.

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Adventure does not have to be extreme. It doesn't have to take

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a lot of time, and it doesn't have to cost a lot of money.

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Those are, like, the three big pushbacks that I get from

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people. Hey, do you want to come to Spain and visit us while

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we're here? Oh, I can't do that. No, the nose have a lot of

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reasons behind them. One of my girlfriends happened to be in

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Barcelona for a business trip, so she caught a plane, came on

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down, and has been hanging out for the last week. We've had a

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great time, lots of adventure. So the first thing is, it

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doesn't have to be extreme. That's like point one on this

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conversation. The adventure does not have to be extreme. It

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doesn't have to be getting on a plane flying across the Pacific

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Ocean. No, that's the Atlantic. We flew across the Atlantic. Let

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me get my direction straight. We flew across the Atlantic. It

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doesn't have to be that way. It can be little. So if you want to

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get out of your rut just a little bit and you want to

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expand, what if you did something small and manageable?

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What if you explored the parks in your area. Have you been to

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the parks in your city? Do you know what they offer? Do you

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know what they have? Do you know what's there? Makes them

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special? I haven't been to my Zoo, and the Oklahoma City zoo

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is pretty amazing. I haven't been there in several years. I

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could take a trip to the zoo. Doesn't take a lot of time,

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doesn't take a lot of money. It's not really physically

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strenuous now that I have my knee replaced before I have my

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knee replaced, it would have been, but now it is not so. What

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if you did that? That could be sparking some ideas and interest

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in you as you enjoy the new park or maybe the zoo. We also have

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an omni Plex with. That, oh, I don't know they show shows about

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the stars. What's that called? I don't know it's a thing, but

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it's super fun. I've been many times over my years. What about

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foods? Are you in a rut and you say, Oh, I don't like that. I'm

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not eating it. Okay? You know who you are when you do that?

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Me, it's onions. I'm not going to eat onions or mushrooms.

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Don't try to make me it's not going to happen, but I'll try

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other things. We were in aldicitis, Spain, and we were at

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a hotel waiting for a ride, but we had to wait, like over an

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hour. So we went to the restaurant to eat, and I

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ordered. It was bizarre, chicken curry with fruit and rice. I had

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no idea what I was getting. I asked the gentleman, Is it spicy

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hot? Hot? And he goes, No, just a little bit. It's fine. Well,

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as it turns out, it was not too spicy hot. I love hot things.

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They don't necessarily like me. So it was delicious. And you

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know what? The fruit was sliced apples, and it was delicious. It

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was a nice combination with the curry and the chicken and the

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rice. It just went together really well. I would have never

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ordered that. I typically don't like goat cheese. I was at a

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retreat, and the person who hosted it had gotten an Airbnb,

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and one of the gals there had gone to the grocery store and

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gotten some goat cheese and crackers. And she said, have you

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tried goat cheese? And I said, Well, I think I have. I think I

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like it, but I don't really remember. And she literally put

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some on her fingers and stuck it in my mouth before I could I

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could even say anything or react, and I was like, Oh, this.

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I don't like this. I don't like this at all. It was all I could

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do to swallow it and not spit it on the table. And those of you

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who've known me for years, you know I'm not opposed to spitting

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out what I don't like on the table at a restaurant. I'm

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embarrassed to say it, but it has happened when I bit into a

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raw onion. Automatic reflex. I got here we had dinner at this

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beautiful Italian restaurant. I think it was called casa tua. I

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don't know. I don't speak Italian at all, so I probably

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butchered the tua part. But we ordered a goat cheese, baked

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goat cheese, or was it grilled? One of the two doesn't matter,

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with honey and apples, and the apples were cooked, and then it

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was on this beautiful bed of greens, which sometimes I'm very

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picky about salad dressing, and I don't know what kind of

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dressing it was. It was amazing, like we split it, thank God, but

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it was phenomenal. Well, now I know I like goat cheese in

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Spain. Do I like it in the US? Maybe not, but I love the goat

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cheese here. Now I'm going to have to look where did this goat

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cheese come from? Was it important from Spain? I might

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like it. I would have never tried it. Oh, they also had

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toasted walnuts in there. It was amazing. Several nights later,

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we're at a restaurant. We're just going to have tapas, and

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tapas are just little snacky foods, and they had toast with

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ham, baked goat cheese and drizzled in honey. Well, now

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that I know I like goat cheese in Spain, I ordered that. It was

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delicious. It was delicious. I think it was supposed to be one

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of those appetizers you share. And my two friends spit, split

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one of the little squares of toast, and I ate all but one. I

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could have eaten the last one, but I may not have been able to

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get out of my seat if I had it. Was really too much. It was

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amazing. That's an adventure. I would have never gone on like

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that was kind of a stretch for me. Was eating goat cheese. So

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you might say, I don't want to do adventurous things. Maybe you

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need to try goat cheese at a really fun restaurant. What

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about working out? Do you work out? Okay? Well, if you don't,

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okay, take on my 12 minute thing, walk for 12 minutes. Walk

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out of your house, walk down the street for six minutes. Set a

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timer on your watch or your phone, turn around and walk back

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for another six minutes. You get your 12 minutes in. Do that a

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couple times a day before you know you've been working out for

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30 minutes. Do you go to the gym? Pick it in our class, try

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something new. I actually went to spin class A couple years

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ago. The thing that was embarrassing about that was

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everyone in there was 1015, 20 years older than I am, and it

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was all I could do at various points, just to hang on to the

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bike with my legs sort of moving. Spin classes are hard,

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ladies and gentlemen, and those old people were so sweet. They

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all clapped for me when the class was over. And I was like,

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Oh, thank you. I mean, I accepted the applause, right?

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And they said, You didn't fall off the bike. That's a good

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thing. And I was like, awesome. I went back to a second class,

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and. Was a different instructor, and I said, I need you to put my

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feet in these things, because you put them in these stirrups

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and you bind them or whatever. I don't know. I didn't even try. I

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had them get me locked in and unlocked Have you ever gone to a

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spin class? Add that try that maybe the time you're spending

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in the gym isn't long enough. Maybe you need to up your

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endurance, pick something manageable and doable and make

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it an adventure. We went on a we went on a ferry ride over to

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say, You that which is a Spanish city on the continent of Africa.

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And I'll do a whole separate thing on that, because it was

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quite the story to tell. And we crossed over and got there, and

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it was pouring down rain the whole way. It was a very rough

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ride over. It was pouring down rain when we were there. It

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finally led up, and we walked around, did some shopping, ended

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up having a very lovely time. Thank goodness. It was a short

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adventure. We only had, like, three hours there total, and it

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was enough. It was enough. If the sun had been shining and it

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had been warm, it would have been a little different

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experience. But we got to do what we wanted to do. The goal

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was to go to the continent of Africa. And I had been there

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once before, many years ago, but my two friends had not so now.

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All three of us went together to Africa. We all bought fun gifts.

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It was just a wonderful thing. Oh, by the way, the gifts for me

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were only for me. I didn't buy gifts for anybody else, only for

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me. But it was an adventure, and it didn't take all day. Once we

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got there, it took all day from the time we left our house till

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we got back, but our time there was short. It was three hours

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that was all. Pick something you can do that will open up your

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imagination, open up your ID, your mind, to the possibility of

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other adventures, other things you can do again. It does not

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have to be extreme. So what are some of the stories that are

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holding you back? That first one that came to mind as I was

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putting together my notes for this episode were, stop. You'll

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get hurt. You'll hurt yourself.

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We all heard that from our mom and or our dad growing

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up like you're going to hurt yourself. Don't do that, you're

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going to hurt yourself. You don't have to pick an adventure.

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That's a dangerous thing. People are into that. That's great and

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groovy for them. But I'm not into that. I

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don't want to get hurt at all. So if that's

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the story that's been going through your head all of these

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years, how many every years old you are consider am I not doing

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this because I'm hearing that message, stop, you'll get hurt.

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And ask yourself, does that have to be true for me? May not have

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to another thing is I don't have the time. I'm in Spain for a

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month. It has been magical. It has been wonderful. Would I do

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it again? Absolutely. The place where we're staying is

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phenomenal. And yeah, I would stay here again. All of this is

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great. Can people take off a month and come to Spain? Maybe,

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maybe not. I work remotely. I need a laptop, a microphone, my

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little camera. I'm pretty good to go. I've gotten quite a bit

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of work done, but I've done more probably, but I also had fun and

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had an adventure on it. So it's not necessarily the time. Maybe

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you don't want to come to Spain, maybe you just want to go to the

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next state over for some music festival. It can be a weekend.

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I'm really a big proponent of as many little mini vacations as

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you can take, any three day weekends, four day weekends. Do

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it? Go for it. It's magical. It's fun. It's rejuvenating. You

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meet new people, you try new foods, new smells, new sounds.

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Do that? It doesn't have to take a lot of time. The other thing

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that I hear all the time is money doesn't grow on trees.

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Well, it kind of does, because it's made out of a form of

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paper, so it kind of grows on trees. Does it have to be super

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expensive? No, my friend and I that rented this apartment in

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Marbella. We invited various friends. I invited my husband.

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He couldn't take the time off, and we have a dog that he was

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afraid, you know, nobody would want to keep her. Other people

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were saying, Oh, I have the money. I don't have the time.

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Literally, you could take a seven day trip, a day to get

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here, basically, because it takes a while, five days here

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and a day to get home, so seven days. So is it that expensive? I

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don't know. We had plenty of beds for people to sleep in and

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food, and it's not ridiculous. And we ate some food and

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some snacks here. So question yourself. That is my

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urge to you. Question your. Yourself on the stories you have

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going through your head of why you're not being more

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adventurous. You'll get hurt. You don't have the time, and you

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have no money, if you can't start breaking those ideas and

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those thought patterns out yourself and clearing them away.

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FYI, I'm an energy healer. I can help you with that, and I can

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help you clear it away. And guess what? You don't have to

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relive the trauma. You don't have to talk about it, you don't

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have to cry.

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We can quickly and easily identify what's

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holding you. You back and we set our intention to clear it, and

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poof is gone. Guess what? Sessions are on the calendar for

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15 minutes, but

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it only takes 12 or less. So click on the Discovery

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call button, book a call thing in the in the show notes, and

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book a call. I think it might be Jennifer takagi.com, forward

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slash, Discovery call. That might be it. I don't know, but

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look in the show notes.

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You're on your phone. You're listening anyway.

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Just scroll down. It's no big deal. It's right there. So be

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more adventurous, reactive. I can talk I'm a professional.

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Reactivate that adventurous side and do something new. I

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challenge you. I urge you. I'm being very hopeful for you that

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you'll do something adventurous in the next few days. I'm

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Jennifer Takagi, and I look forward to connecting with you

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soon. You.