Do You Wish Upon a Star? | DFS 365

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You be you. I'm Jennifer Takagi, the host of

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destin for success, and today I want to talk about Ubu, and I

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think it was attributed to Oscar Wilde. Part of me, but that's a

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little questionable. Did he really say that? I don't know.

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Maybe the concept was his, but the thought is, You be you

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because everybody else is taken. You be you because everybody

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else is taken. If you're on a journey of personal development,

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personal growth, like I am, I've been on it for a while, and if

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you're on it, you see people, and you're like, wow, like, I

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want to be like them. I want to show up like they do. When you

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think that, when you say that out loud, sometimes you're

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looking at social media people. I mean, I know I have from time

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to time, or I don't know, every day, but you're looking at them

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and their lives and what they're projecting to the world. And we

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have to keep in mind it may not be true, like there should could

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be some photo shopping going on. There could be editing of their

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lives. There was one person that was a big influencer, and I

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really started following and really appreciated what they

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were doing and how they were showing up in the world, and it

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all fell apart, and many parts of their life were not how they

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were portraying them through the world. There were was a lack of

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authenticity and truth behind what they were selling and how

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they were showing up. So you have to be a little bit careful

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on that. But one thing that I find kind of fun to do is look

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at other people and consider what attributes they have that

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you want to embody like they do that really well. I i would like

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to be more like that. A number of years ago, I was on a special

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task force team with the federal government, and we came together

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for a week for a boot camp to kick it off and figure out what

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on earth we were doing and why we were there. And there was

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this one woman that just was very appealing to me, like her

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whole demeanor, how she showed up, how she shared information.

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I was like, wow. Like, I want to be more like her. She just seems

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so polished and brilliant. And after a couple nights, we all

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went across the street from the building where we were working,

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and had dinner and drinks, and everybody from the group had,

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like, vanished. Somebody went to smoke, somebody went to the

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bathroom, somebody went to the bar, like whatever. Everybody

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kind of scattered. And she and I were the last two at the table,

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and we had taken the Myers Briggs Personality profile exams

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or assessments, I guess, and we were going to find out the next

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day the results of our assessment, and I hadn't taken

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one before. And we were also going to find out what teams we

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were on. There were five of us, and we were going to be in teams

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of three and another team of two. And so when this gal and I

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ended up being the last two at the table for a few minutes, I

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said, you know, I just, I just want you to know that I think

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that when these results come out, we are going to be polar

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opposites, and I hope I'm on a team with you, because I think I

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have a lot to learn from you. And she looked at me, and she

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goes, That is so funny that you would say that, because I was

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thinking, Jennifer and I are probably polar opposites, and I

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would love to be on a team with her. And voila, we both got our

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wishes, our dreams came true, our results came out. And I

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don't know the lettering for Myers Briggs, but on the far

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left of the chart was extremely introverted, and on the far

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right of the chart was extreme extroverted. And lo and behold,

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she was far left, introverted, and I was far right,

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extroverted. And the third amazing member of our team was

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one point over the line of being extrovert, and she raised her

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hand and said, Can I change my score? Because I think I'm an

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introvert. And we all laughed, and they said, Yes, of course,

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you can change your score. You can be whatever you want to be,

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but she really was. She really was right on that cusp. And to

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be clear on the definition and the difference between an

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extrovert and an introvert, it's how you recharge yourself, how

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you refuel. So think of an introvert as the person who

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might go to the coffee shop and read a magazine, cover to cover,

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and never say a word to anyone other than when they place their

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order. They are being refueled, re energized by spending time by

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themselves, reading a book, reading a magazine, the

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newspaper. Maybe it's watching TV, I don't know, but they're

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doing it by themselves. They're not interacting with people.

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People seem to pull their energy and drain them. Flip Side,

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extrovert, I would train all day, literally on my feet,

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talking, training all day long, and then I wanted to know where

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we were going for dinner and drinks, because my cup is filled

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by being around people, interacting with people. Now, I

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go days at a time when I never walk out of my house and I never

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see a soul physically, in person, I'm on Zoom calls and

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I'm on telephone calls. I'm working with clients and stuff,

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but I'm not necessarily physically with somebody, and

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that doesn't bother me at all. I have friends who are like, Oh my

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gosh, I had to get outside. I'd been inside all day, and I was

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like, it's 105 in Oklahoma. I don't need to go outside the

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mail. Can wait like I don't need to go out there, but I do get

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energized talking to people. If you've been following for a

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while, you might know that I had my knee replaced in a few months

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ago, and it's been a little slower recovery than last one,

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which the last one I bounced back very quickly. This one's

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been a little slower, which irritates me to no end. And the

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doctor keeps saying, Oh, it's fine. It's fine. You know, every

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surgery is different, every recovery is different. And I

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said, Well, I'm done with this. He just laughs at me and says,

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you know, whatever is going to happen when it happens. But even

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though I'm an extreme extrovert, I'm fine being home alone, like

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that's okay. I don't have to be with people. I don't have to go

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out all the time, but I also don't mind going out all the

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time and seeing people and being with friends and family. So

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that's the difference between an extrovert and an introvert. An

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introvert recharges being alone extrovert recharges being with

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people. That's the difference. So this friend of mine, as I'm

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looking at her qualities, I'm like, I want to be more like

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that. I want to be a little bit more thoughtful

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before I answer or respond. I want to do just a little bit

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more research

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before I make a final decision. Those are some qualities of hers

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that I really appreciated. Those were qualities I didn't have,

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but the great qualities I did have is I very easily could

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extemporaneously speak on the topic, I could engage the

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participants and get them to engage and share I I'll just say

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I've been very proud when I've been training a room of 3035

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people, and every single person interacts and engages at some

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point throughout the day, that's a big deal, because sometimes

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you go to those things and people won't say a word to

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anyone. Not every person raised their hand and spoke out loud,

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but every person shared, at least within their table. And I

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think that's a big win. I take that as a really big win. So I

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do that well. I do public speaking well. This podcast has

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been going for a while, and I think it's going pretty well. So

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there are a lot of those communication training things

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that I do really well. So when I line that up against the

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attributes of people that I see, that I admire, that I want to

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embody some of their qualities, that's great, but if I make a

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list of their qualities, and unless a list of the things I

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already do, well, it's super fun to see how they align, and I

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encourage you to do that too. Why? Because you're probably not

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missing the mark by as much as you think they are, spend a

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little bit of time figuring out where you align, how much you

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align, and then on the things that you want to build. Build

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this skill. Nobody came out of the womb being really good at

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anything. We might have a propensity to be a little better

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at some skills than others, but for the most part, we need to

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learn how to do it. So decide what skill is it that I would

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like to build up and do better so that I can show up better in

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the world make a greater impact? Act as I create the life of my

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dreams. I promise you were destined for more success than

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you have ever even imagined, and now it's time to go for it. I'm

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Jennifer Takagi with destined for success. I look forward to

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connecting with you soon. Book a call with me on your success

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call.com and let's talk about how you could be you and how you

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can be an even better version of you. I.