Do You Wish Upon a Star? | DFS 363

Unknown: 00:00:02

Foreign Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your

Unknown: 00:00:04

host, Jennifer Takagi, and today's podcast is, do you wish

Unknown: 00:00:09

upon a star? You know that old song, do you wish upon a star?

Unknown: 00:00:13

Or wish upon a star? I don't know how it goes, but I remember

Unknown: 00:00:16

the sentiment, the feeling of it. And when we were kids, we

Unknown: 00:00:22

dreamed. We dreamed about what we wanted to be when we grew up.

Unknown: 00:00:27

There was a house I used to pass on the bus when I was in high

Unknown: 00:00:31

school, and I thought, Man, I want to live in that house. I

Unknown: 00:00:35

don't live in that house. I don't even know if I could find

Unknown: 00:00:37

that house. I live in the same city. I could probably drive

Unknown: 00:00:40

around and find it eventually, because I know the neighborhood,

Unknown: 00:00:44

but that was one of those things. I wanted to live in a

Unknown: 00:00:46

nice house in a nice neighborhood like that was

Unknown: 00:00:49

important to me, and I dreamed about that. It took a long time

Unknown: 00:00:54

to get there, and by some people's standards, I live in a

Unknown: 00:00:58

fairly modest house, but it's okay, it's my dream. It's not

Unknown: 00:01:02

theirs. Sometimes we don't dream big enough. When my husband and

Unknown: 00:01:10

I got married, every time I went to get rid of something or send

Unknown: 00:01:13

it to Goodwill, he'd say, Oh, hang on to that. That's going to

Unknown: 00:01:16

go to our lake house. And I said, Well, we're not going to

Unknown: 00:01:19

have a lake house. But after the first five times I said it, I

Unknown: 00:01:23

Finally Quit saying it, and we had a whole corner of our garage

Unknown: 00:01:26

for things for our lake house. Well, my parents bought a lake

Unknown: 00:01:31

house, so some of the things in our lake house pile ended up

Unknown: 00:01:36

going to their lake house. And then when they sold their lake

Unknown: 00:01:40

house. Some of it came back with us, and one day we had a lake

Unknown: 00:01:45

house. Now I use the word house very casually. We started with a

Unknown: 00:01:51

little mobile home in Oklahoma. We call them trailers, but they

Unknown: 00:01:55

don't actually move. They're technically not mobile. I guess

Unknown: 00:01:59

if you put wheels under them. They can be but it's a mobile

Unknown: 00:02:03

home, and it was two bed, one bath, little thing. And it was

Unknown: 00:02:10

ours, though, and we had a place at the lake, and a friend of

Unknown: 00:02:14

mine ended up buying the place up the hill from me, and she

Unknown: 00:02:19

worked at a school district with a lot of very wealthy people,

Unknown: 00:02:22

and someone asked her about her lake house. I'm doing air

Unknown: 00:02:27

quotes. Can't see them, but air quotes. And she started telling

Unknown: 00:02:31

this lady about her lake house that she and her husband were

Unknown: 00:02:34

fixing up. And the woman was like, wait, what? And got very

Unknown: 00:02:38

judgmental and negative about it, and my girlfriend goes. But

Unknown: 00:02:43

do you have a place at the lake where you go with your kids and

Unknown: 00:02:46

their friends, and your friends are there and you have a

Unknown: 00:02:49

wonderful time? No, so I do have a lake house, and I enjoy it.

Unknown: 00:02:55

And I do have a lake house. We have since upgraded a little bit

Unknown: 00:02:59

years ago. We upgraded to a little bit bigger mobile home,

Unknown: 00:03:04

and we lived here. But my husband had a dream, and his

Unknown: 00:03:10

dream was to be on this lake and have a place at the lake so he

Unknown: 00:03:15

could come and fish and hang out with friends. I couldn't see

Unknown: 00:03:21

that vision. I couldn't dream big enough. I was caught up in

Unknown: 00:03:25

the day to day. Like, how are we gonna make the mortgage payment?

Unknown: 00:03:29

How are we gonna go on vacation occasionally, like, I was on the

Unknown: 00:03:33

I was on the day to day. Piece of it. He was looking bigger. He

Unknown: 00:03:38

was dreaming bigger.

Unknown: 00:03:42

So what if you did dream bigger? What would it look like?

Unknown: 00:03:50

And what are the possibilities if your dream came true? One

Unknown: 00:03:58

lady that I know that had a place at the lake. She had a

Unknown: 00:04:02

house at the lake, and they had a house boat, and then they had

Unknown: 00:04:06

a place, we call it in the city back home. And one day she I

Unknown: 00:04:13

overheard her saying, you know, it's really hard when you go buy

Unknown: 00:04:16

toilet paper and then you can't remember where it needs to go,

Unknown: 00:04:19

like, which place needed the toilet paper? I know that's a

Unknown: 00:04:23

very first world problem, but it is something to consider. You've

Unknown: 00:04:29

got to have more brain power for that. You have to have a little

Unknown: 00:04:31

more organizational skills. So when people say things like, oh,

Unknown: 00:04:36

must be rough. Well, everything comes with its pluses and

Unknown: 00:04:40

minuses. So if you got your big dream, what would it be? Your

Unknown: 00:04:48

dream might be to have more clients. All right, so let's

Unknown: 00:04:53

talk that through. You're going to have more clients. What is

Unknown: 00:04:57

that going to look like? How are you. To schedule your day. How

Unknown: 00:05:01

are you going to schedule your week? If you have a full

Unknown: 00:05:06

calendar of clients, typically, you have to do something to

Unknown: 00:05:10

attract more clients. Like those clients are going to progress

Unknown: 00:05:14

progress through your program or through your coaching or

Unknown: 00:05:18

whatever it is you offer, and you're going to need to need to

Unknown: 00:05:21

bring somebody else in. So how are you going to do that? What

Unknown: 00:05:23

does it look like? Your wish upon a star was for more

Unknown: 00:05:28

clients, but now, how do you service them? How do you bring

Unknown: 00:05:33

more in? It's not that it's impossible. I'm not trying to

Unknown: 00:05:39

detract from your dream. I'm just trying to make you think

Unknown: 00:05:44

bigger. Like, okay, now, what will that look like? A coaching

Unknown: 00:05:50

friend of mine had a weekly Monday morning like, start your

Unknown: 00:05:55

week off right, and she'd do a short little meditation, and

Unknown: 00:05:59

then she would give us a journal prompt. And the journal prompt

Unknown: 00:06:04

one time was, what if you had all the clients you want? What

Unknown: 00:06:08

would your day look like? And mine was, I want 10, one on one

Unknown: 00:06:13

clients. That's what I want. And part of my coaching package at

Unknown: 00:06:17

the time included one on one hour sessions, but the client

Unknown: 00:06:23

booked them. They would book in on my calendar. Now I still

Unknown: 00:06:28

offer one on one, one hour coaching and healing sessions,

Unknown: 00:06:35

but they book on my calendar versus like we set the date and

Unknown: 00:06:40

time, versus them just picking a date and wanting to be on my

Unknown: 00:06:44

calendar. And so I started journaling, like, what's it

Unknown: 00:06:50

gonna look like when I have these 10 clients, these ideal

Unknown: 00:06:54

clients that I really want to work with? What's it gonna look

Unknown: 00:06:56

like? So as I'm journaling, as I'm working through it, all of a

Unknown: 00:07:00

sudden, I was like, Holy crap, if all 10 clients booked three

Unknown: 00:07:07

one hour one on one sessions with me in a week, that's 30

Unknown: 00:07:12

hours. That's like a full time job. I left a full time,

Unknown: 00:07:20

permanent job, so I would have more freedom, more flexibility.

Unknown: 00:07:23

But now, if I'm having to take up my days Monday through

Unknown: 00:07:26

Friday, that may not be what I wanted. So now I had to

Unknown: 00:07:32

reconsider, what does having 10 clients look like? And thank

Unknown: 00:07:36

goodness I have a really good friend, and she said, you only

Unknown: 00:07:42

meet with them once a week. You just tell them, we're gonna have

Unknown: 00:07:46

12 weeks of sessions. But it's once a week. It's not three

Unknown: 00:07:50

times a week first four weeks, three times four is 12, right?

Unknown: 00:07:54

Yeah, it's not three times a week for four weeks. It's like

Unknown: 00:07:56

once a week for 12 weeks. So it was like, Oh, wow. That feels so

Unknown: 00:08:01

much better. And you don't want to, like, limit it, like I want

Unknown: 00:08:06

10 or more, as long as I only work so many hours a week, I

Unknown: 00:08:13

only have so much bandwidth. Now I have a friend who she starts

Unknown: 00:08:18

with her clients very early in the morning, like 6am because of

Unknown: 00:08:21

time zone changes. Well, that client and I are just not going

Unknown: 00:08:25

to be aligned because I'm not doing a 6am call. Okay, I could

Unknown: 00:08:29

6am call, I just wouldn't want to on a consistent basis. But

Unknown: 00:08:34

you have to consider, with your dreams, what are the

Unknown: 00:08:36

possibilities when they come true? How are you going to have

Unknown: 00:08:40

to schedule your time? What are you going to have to do? What

Unknown: 00:08:42

responsibilities come with achieving that dream When you

Unknown: 00:08:47

wish upon a star and get that dream? The next question that I

Unknown: 00:08:53

think is probably the most important and impactful and

Unknown: 00:08:57

exciting question is, what impact do you want to make? What

Unknown: 00:09:03

impact do you want to make on the client's life, on your

Unknown: 00:09:08

family's life, in your community, in your state, in

Unknown: 00:09:15

your country, in the world? What impact do you want to make? What

Unknown: 00:09:22

is that going to look like? What legacy Do you want to leave

Unknown: 00:09:27

behind? And when I thought about legacy, I often thought about

Unknown: 00:09:33

money and leaving money to kids so that they can, like, create

Unknown: 00:09:37

their life. And I don't have kids, so I was like, I don't, I

Unknown: 00:09:41

don't really want a legacy. Like, it doesn't really mean

Unknown: 00:09:44

much to me because I, like, I don't have kids to leave it to,

Unknown: 00:09:47

because that's kind of like my blinders. That was the only

Unknown: 00:09:50

thing I considered a legacy. But as I've gotten further into this

Unknown: 00:09:54

entrepreneurial journey, the legacy is more than that. It's

Unknown: 00:09:59

that whole. Ripple effect I talked about on a few podcast

Unknown: 00:10:02

episodes ago. If I help 10 people really well, and they go

Unknown: 00:10:08

out and they each help 10, that's 100 and those 100 help,

Unknown: 00:10:12

you know, it just grows and grows, and then before you know

Unknown: 00:10:15

it, you hit a million. I'm not going to do the math. I did it

Unknown: 00:10:18

once before. I'm not doing it again, but you're making an

Unknown: 00:10:22

impact. It's a ripple effect. You're showing up as the person

Unknown: 00:10:27

you want to be, and you're impacting the world. So I

Unknown: 00:10:36

suggest that you think about what that big dream is,

Jennifer Takagi: 00:10:44

and make it even bigger. What's your dream

Jennifer Takagi: 00:10:48

make it bigger, and then what are the possibilities when it

Jennifer Takagi: 00:10:51

comes true? Who are you going to impact? How much time and effort

Jennifer Takagi: 00:10:56

is it going to take once you achieve that dream, if any. And

Jennifer Takagi: 00:11:01

what support do you need? Can you do this all yourself, or are

Jennifer Takagi: 00:11:05

you going to need support as time goes on and things grow?

Unknown: 00:11:11

If you don't wish upon a star, I hope you start. I look

Unknown: 00:11:16

back on some of the things that I thought about, I dreamed

Unknown: 00:11:18

about, I hoped for, and how, over time, they came to fruition

Unknown: 00:11:23

in my life, the dream for a lake house wasn't my dream, it was my

Unknown: 00:11:27

husband's dream, and now quite a few people that are friends of

Unknown: 00:11:31

mine all the way back to high school are here, and I'm

Unknown: 00:11:35

watching their kids grow up and get married and have kids. Yep,

Unknown: 00:11:38

give my age away, and we're celebrating birthdays and

Unknown: 00:11:42

anniversaries and weddings and babies and just the fact that

Unknown: 00:11:46

we're here for another day, another week, another year.

Unknown: 00:11:51

Dream bigger. Dream bigger. And if you want help in fulfilling

Unknown: 00:11:56

your dreams, creating your dreams, I would love to help

Unknown: 00:11:59

you, just book a call. Your success. Call.com and let's talk

Unknown: 00:12:03

about it, and let's get your big dream that you're going to wish

Unknown: 00:12:07

upon a star to take hold. I'm Jennifer Takagi with destin for

Unknown: 00:12:13

success, and I look forward to connecting with you soon. You.