Intention Setting or Goal Setting? | DFS 337

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Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your

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host, Jennifer Takagi, and in this episode goal setting, I

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want to break through a few Oh, of the basic myths ideas that

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come around goal setting. And this is a continuation of our

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conversation that we had last week with Dominique Clifton. So

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I've heard of SMART goals my whole life. You know, set the

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goal. I don't know, make it real. I don't know. I don't even

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know what smart goal stands for. But I remember when I first

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heard about it, and it really wasn't given with enough

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context, and part of it might have been that I worked for the

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federal government, and I was given goals. And when I first

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started my career, one of my colleagues who had already been

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there 20 years or something, when I showed up, said, goals

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are the responsibility of management, if you just do your

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job, all the agency goals will be met. And I embraced that for

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a long time. I really did, until I had a boss who told me I had

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to complete my own reviews and submit them, and he would make

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edits. And when I really dove into what my review said, it was

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all about my involvement in these goals, and like what I had

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personally done to help achieve the goals, then I started

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looking at goals a little bit differently. It was what is my

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responsibility? And then the supervisor, of course, holds you

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accountable. There's all kinds of conversation around

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accountability, and you're only accountable for yourself. Like,

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I mean, you can go down a whole rabbit hole of that, and we

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don't really need to do that today. But I want to talk about

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goals, as far as envisioning where you want your life to be.

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What do you want in your life? How do you want it to be? How do

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you want to feel? I just recently read something that

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just came across my feed really quickly, and it was the very

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first thing you have to do to be successful is quit complaining.

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Like go on a quick complaining binge. Like, what would your

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life look like? What would my life look like if we quit

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complaining? So my idea of goal setting is starting with,

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imagine what you really want, imagine what you really want,

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and what are the ramification I did have tongue surgery a few

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months ago, and every now and then, it just fails me a little

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bit. Imagine what you really want, and what are the benefits

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of achieving that. How will your life be better? The flip side

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is, what do you have to give up to get it? What do you have to

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give up to get it? I know someone who made a ton of money

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in their lives, and I've not talked to this person about it

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directly, but I've heard a lot of comments about how this

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person was not around for the family because they were off

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working and traveling and doing what they wanted and needed to

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do to hit their financial goals. And I again, never talked to the

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family about like, how did it make them feel? How did it

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impact them? But just as a person, a human being, traveling

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a lot, I miss out on some things. So in order to travel

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and do what I want to do, I have great experiences. I really love

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it. But the flip side is sometimes I miss things,

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sometimes I miss lunches, sometimes I miss birthday happy

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hours with my girlfriends. Like there's always a trade off. So

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when I imagine my life and what I want it to be, I also have to

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figure in a little bit of what's the trade off. So when you have

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your goal, for your business, for your life, for your family,

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like, what is the trade off? There's often a little bit of a

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trade off. Sometimes it's spectacular and monumental and

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like, oh my gosh, I don't want to do that. Other times, it's

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manageable. So what's the trade off? When you imagine the life

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you want, if you have that really big, humongous house,

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guess what comes with it, big, humongous taxes, right? Your

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property taxes go up. Is it worth it? I don't know. I've

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stayed in the same house for a long time because I like the

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location and the property taxes. So we have choices on imagining

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that life what we want it to. Like, and are there trade offs?

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And what are they? Sometimes they're perfectly fine and it

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doesn't even hurt. Other times, it's like, wow, no, I'm not

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giving that up. I'm not giving that up. I had a rough patch in

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my career you've probably heard about from time to time, and I

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was asked why I didn't just leave. And yeah, I could have

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left, and it probably would have been a whole lot better for my

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mental health. However, I had worked a lot of years for

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benefits that I wasn't willing to give up, like I wasn't going

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to let the other person win. So imagine what you really want,

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and then what it's going to take to get there, typically. And

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it's an emotional toll, then set your intention. And your

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intention is where you really say, at that gut level, the

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deepest part of your soul, I intend to go after this. I

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intend to go after this. This is what I want. I I'm not going to

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focus on how it's going to happen right now. I'm just going

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to focus on my intention. So I can't remember how many years

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ago what I I will have to look at my phone to see when I first

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put this in. But I wanted a new built in wall oven, because mine

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has two shelves, it had past tense. It had two shelves. I

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bake a lot, but because the oven was old, it worked perfectly.

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However, I could only have one pan of cookies, one sheet with a

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pie on it, like I could never do. Two things I I see on shows

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where they throw in two cookie sheets full of cookies, and they

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come out perfectly every time. I could not do that because it it

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just was an old oven that the heat wouldn't circulate that

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way. So I had a vision to have a new wall oven. The next step is

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going to be to pull out my cooktop and put in a range, but

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I needed this new oven, and I've been waiting a long time. I've

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been thinking about it every now and then I talk about it, and

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the handle on my oven door just broke off one day, just gone,

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and my husband and I talked about replacing it, calling the

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repair people, like, what do we do? And I burnt my arm for like,

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the very last time, because navigating an oven door without

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a handle is hard. I cook, I bake a lot, and that an oven is

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critical to me. I finally just walked into the appliance store

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and said, Hey, I'm Jennifer Takagi, I was in here. I picked

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out an oven. I, you know, I don't even know if you have a

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file on me. I'm not sure what size. And this woman swiveled in

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her chair, opened up the file cabinet. Oh, Jennifer Takagi,

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yeah, here you are, yeah. What do you want? You have all this

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lined out, measured out, and was like, Oh, I just want this

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single oven that goes in the wall. It took, I don't know, six

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weeks probably, for it to come in and then to coordinate

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schedules to have it installed. And now I have an oven, and I'm

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trying to get used to the buttons and figure it out,

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because it's pretty funny, but because it's very different than

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my old, you know, 30, whatever, year old wall oven, but now I'm

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figuring it out, but I set the intention a long time ago that I

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was going to have that new wall oven, and it was going to be a

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Kitchen Aid, and when I opened that door, I was going to see

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that beautiful blue inside. So you have to set your intention,

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and your intention needs to be fairly clear on that outcome,

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which takes us back to imagine what you really want. And what I

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really wanted was an oven that things would fit in my other

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oven. I mean, they were the same size, they fit in the same hole,

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but the insulation has changed on those walls of those wall

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ovens, and I have pans that did not fit in my old oven, like you

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couldn't close the door. It didn't work. So what is your

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intention to have to attain to get what it is that you want set

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the intention I wanted a new wall oven. You can't be caught

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up on the time frame like when it's going to happen, because if

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I was going to have my when it's going to happen, it would have

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been five or six years ago. But this new oven is regular

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convection, and it has an air fryer function. Who knew it's

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all within my little wall oven? I just push a button and say, I

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want to air fry. And I did yesterday for the first time, I

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air fried some french fries and chicken nuggets. It was a big

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moment in my life. Set your intention for what you want.

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Then the hardest part for me, it may be for you, but for me, is I

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get caught up in the how do.

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How am I going to get that new oven? How am I going to pay for

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the oven? How am I going to have them come install it, like all

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the hows, where am I going to come up with the money? How am I

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going to get it? But what you need to do is ask the next

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question, what is the next best step I can take towards reaching

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my goal? What's the next best step? If it's a financial goal,

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like on accumulating, maybe your next best step is being

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conscious where the money goes. How are you spending your money?

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Where is your money going? So ask the question, how you have

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to take action? I love, love, love, law of attraction. I think

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it's so real, so tangible and amazing thing. However, however

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you have to take action. The book, Think and Grow Rich. Love

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that book. You don't just think and become rich. You have to

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take action. What is the next best step that's going to take

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me closer to fulfilling my intention and the dream that I

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have for my life, for my business, for my relationships,

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what is the next best step? What else can I do today to take me

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one step closer, if you want a little help breaking down how

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life of your dreams. I'm Jennifer Takagi, and I look

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forward to connecting with you soon. You.